What are the best ways to handle tantrums?

My almost-two-year-old is starting to throw tantrums more and more. The crying is fine. I understand he’s gonna get emotional when I say no, but he will physically hurt himself…throwing his head back or forward while he’s sitting, which causes him to hit his head on the wall, concrete, wood floors… I don’t know what I can do to prevent this (besides never telling him no lol). Can anyone give me advice or maybe recommend a book? TIA

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You could try to create a safe tantrum space with padded surfaces. And that’s where he can sit in time outs. It’s honestly the age. Just remain consistent and don’t reinforce the bad behavior.

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A hard lesson to learn. My kid threw herself on the hard floor she didn’t do that again. Hold him and try to calm him down. But don’t give in to what you said no to. Kids are smart they no how to manipulate you.

Maybe say ok and lure him away from anywhere harmful he can hurt himself and then say just kidding and tickle him and get his mind on something else it’s worked for me when I would babysit

Attention. Change his mind. Ice cream always works

Find a consentent area where he will be safe a d let him calm down. Or have a quiet area

I dont know if its the best way but it worked for me…on about his second tantrum ever, I dropped to floor like he had done and started kicking and flapping my arms around, like he was, and pretended to cry. He stopped in his tracks, looked at me dumfounded…I stopped and looked at him and we both both burst out laughing. I think he realised how silly he looked by seeing me do the same thing and never chucked another tantrum ever!

Am waiting for the solutions. Same here with my daughter of 1year

Sometimes it’s best to ignore the tantrums eventually he will know hes not getting the best of you it will eventually end

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I’m not good with tantrums and i dont tolerate it so I let my husband handle it. What he does is make her laugh. Then, we talk about her tantrums and why it’s bad. She still has tantrums at times but if my husband is not around to handle it, i just ignore it. Like i don’t talk to her for a long time and it bothers her. Once it bothers her and comes up to me, then I talk to her about it. If she gets disrespectful, I spank her. She has to know that we are her parents. She follows us, not we follow her.

Take him outside for awhile and have storybook time play pattycake and laugh with him often and give him treats and spend lots of quality time with him by smiling and brag on him what a good sweet boy he is be positive without no word then he will listen to you because he feels close to you with the fun times you both share

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Walk away. He may have a bruise or two, but he’ll soon figure out that it’s not going to work

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Same…I thought mine was broken. Lol.

Instead of saying no turn it around and say things like, not now but maybe later. Etc super nanny jo frost her programmes are brilliant and you can learn a lot. All children hate the word no it’s the way you say it to them

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It’s normal at that age to do that but there head is harder then you think and good luck

Or you could just let him hit his head hard enough that he realize though I don’t want to do that anymore eventually that will happen because you have to tell them no like they can’t just get away with everything as long as he doesn’t have like Aspergers or Autism this method is fine

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Teach him ways to cope… deep breaths. Acknowledge feelings. Give him permission to be mad. Make sure he/she is in a safe place. Focus more on teaching coping mechanisms to deal with emotions…

Look at what you are saying no to. Is there an alternative to No… that you can meet their needs.

Make sure the child’s needs are being met.

For example a 2 year old bites… he bites you… you say no… he screams and cry…

Vs

a 2 year old bites… you give him a wet cloth or a toy he can bite and chew on to meet his needs.

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Say something along the line of, "It is ok to feel disappointed and angry when you can’t ______ but it isn’t ok to hurt yourself. Let’s try saying I am mad and disappointed. "
If he can’t/wont say, “That’s ok I understand” then walk away.

Instead of a straight up no. Try rephrasing it. Instead of ‘No you can’t have that’ try ‘I have this or this for you. Would you like to pick one to play with?’
It makes them feel like they still have control while redirecting them and minimal outbursts.

It can be hard to adjust to new methods but It really worked with my son at a young age.

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