I am a FTM with a sweet baby who just came in April 2018. Pregnancy was rough, delivery was easier than expected though I had minor complications, and raising the child has been an absolute joy. He has brightened my life. So, I haven’t been on BC as I am BFing my 10 month old. SO and I never use condoms for protection. That’s how my son ended up here, not entirely planned or tried for but also not unexpected. We were open to having a baby. He wants more, and in a close amount of time as he thinks siblings get along better when closer in age. We have been messing around but not a whole bunch, but my period is late and I’ve been more hungry than usual (which is turning to nausea if I don’t eat right away) so I think I may be preggo again. That’s cool, but I don’t know if I can love another baby as much as my first? My son has a special piece of my heart… he will probably always be my favorite. Are there others mom’s who have multiple kids and have a favorite? How do you keep your kids from finding out or feeling left out?
I have 3 boys. My first is 4, my second is 3 (has autism) their birthdays are August 6 2014 & August 7 2015 very close exactly a year. And my third is 1 dec 22 2017. They are all super close in age & I do not have a favorite I love all my boys very much and equally. You learn to love and give that love throughout all of your children.
A mother’s first born is always going to be the one that’s close to heart the most! Because you became a mama because of him! However if and when this second baby comes, you’re going to fall in love all over again! Especially if you end up with a girl. I don’t know. I only have one. Lol. But she’s my life and if I had another-I’d love that one just as much. Please look into therapy to talk about this. If this is in fact a pregnancy-big brother will be able to learn to help you out! Good luck mama.
I wondered the same thing when I was pregnant with my second! How could I possibly love someone as much as I love my little dude?!?! Your heart literally grows! It’s not a matter of favorites. All my kids have different qualities and other things I appreciate or love about them. But it isn’t like I’d ever be able to choose one over the other. You can love them differently but the same amount if that makes sense! My boys are 12, 7 and 2, pregnant with a girl.
When breast feeding you need to eat everytime you breast feed cuz The baby is taking the nutrients that your body is getting that could be the cause of the hunger. As for baby 2 you learn to love both equally
I felt the same way about my daughter and I was scared but the more I heard my second babies heart beat the more I learned to love both an exapecially when I saw her for the first time I fell in live
I have 3…you love them all equally and fiercely the same…each one is special i. their own ways but you dont really love one less then the other…its an amazing thing to love another being so much but it just comes naturally…you’ll do fine…
I had the same thoughts when I had my 2nd child but as soon as she was born I instantly fell in love with her!! And having kids close together is so fun! My daughters are 11 months apart yes it was an extra exhausting pregnancy but the bond they instantly had was totally worth it. You have enough love in your heart to love all your children equal I promise
I have a 2 year old little girl and I feel exactly the same way. I want more kids but to me I’ll never love them the same. And my baby’s dad and his family want nothing to do with her so she has my heart there’s nothing in the world I wouldn’t do for her. I don’t think I’ll ever overcome it either so I feel you.
I have 9 and no i don’t have favorites. Your heart grows with each one.
I thought the exact same thing when I had my first daughter she’s 14 this year, I then had another daughter she is 8 this year, my son is almost 5 and my youngest has just turned 3, they are all very special in their own ways and I love the 4 Of them very equally
Every parent thinks that, but your heart just produces more than enough love again & again & again. Do not be afraid to have more children. Each one is so special and you will love them just as much.
It’s called “second time mom guilt” honestly I still have it and my baby is 3montjs. It was especially emotional and hard while pregnant.BUT it’s normal!
I thought the same thing. I have a 7 year old son and 6 month old baby girl. Both are loved massive amounts!!
I wondered this with my third, but I love them all equally and I was just trippin ( it’s all in your head)
I love both my kids equally. Some days my firstborn is my favourite the next it’s her sister lol. 4 years and 21 months. And pregnant with my 3rd girlie due a month after my second turns 2.
My kids are 11 and a half years apart. My 12 year old was, and still is, absolutely delight. My 10 month old is the devil in a dimpled face little boy with beautiful eyes and a wonderful smile. My first one made me want more, my second makes me wonder if having another was the right choice. I love them both equally BUT I was also a single mother for a few years so it was only my first and me, he will always hold a special place in my heart.
I wondered this to my son stole my heart then my daughter came and trust me mama you will love this baby to
This happened to me. I was kind of upset because I felt like I betrayed my first born in some type of way especially bc she was just a couple of months when I found out I was pregnant with my second. Honestly you fall in love all over again & you learn to love them both equally. My 18 month old is so caring with her baby sister. She’ll try to give her the bottle. Makes her laugh. Gives her kisses. I imagine they’ll be really close when they’re older. I don’t regret anything.
I fear this same thing. This is the main reason I’m scared to have another child bc my daughter is literally my whole world.