What are the grounds for giving a residential dad parent? We weren’t married so right now I, legally have full custody (Ohio) he filed for visitation and also checked to make him residential. He is never home, works swing shift every two weeks, two weeks days, two weeks afternoon, two weeks midnights, so if that happened, his mother would be raising our daughter just like she did with his first kid. He’s not residential of his first child for a reason. Because he’s never home, he only wants residential, so he doesn’t have to pay all that child support. When I first told him I was filing, he tried to guilt me, saying I was using our infant as a paycheck. After we had the hearing and the amount was decided upon, we were talking a couple of days later, and he said it was excessive and didn’t take almost a mortgage payment to raise a child a month. I’m 100% for visitation, I know he loves our daughter, but she is eight months old, she’s always with me and always has been. I’m home with her every night, and I’ve been the one that pretty much did it all, bedtimes, getting up throughout the night, all of it. It’s no different being a single mom of 2 in my own apartment than what it was living with him tbh. I’m just worried they’ll give him residential, especially when he knows he’s barely home.
As long as you aren’t an unfit mother then I wouldn’t worry about it. Mamas come first
Most states the mother has to be proved unfit
Only way he would get residential is if there was a reason. If you are a stable, loving mother, you dont have anything to worry about.
I would look up ur state custody laws and ask a lawyer hunny. Truthfully everyone’s case is different and so is every state. What happens to one doesn’t always happen to the other.
Let him do it,Let him file, the judge will see both schedules and make that decision since you two can not. All parents should have 50/50 if neither parent is unfit. His schedule & how he handles his relationship with his child is not up to you. You just keep being mom.
You can share. Me and my bd (who sees our daughter like twice a year) are technically 50/50 placement. And just because he works different hours doesn’t mean he can’t have the child if he is still only gone for part of the day just different parts every week.
I would think the judge would take all that into account. Document everything with a date.
Your lawyer can request copies of his time logs at work.
Worst case scenario(unless can be proven unfit) he will get shared physical custody where the child may have to alternate weeks with each of you. It’s unlikely the court will remove the child from your physical custody and grant it to him 100%
I hate to be that person but what does residential mean in this case?
He won’t win. He will get visitation. Don’t let his mother raise your child! Don’t let the guilt win.
At this age I think you are pretty safe Ohio doesnt allow overnight visits until age 2 unless you let him.
SMH his work schedule has NOTHING to do with him being a good father. If he is a good father an does his part then your hate to say it opinion of how he can or can’t do it is irrelevant. He knows he is a father he knows his work schedule an I’m sure he will make it work for his childs saie weather you agree like or don’t like he is the FATHER. I hate the world we live in acts like fathers are just disposable, an child support did you give him a chance to do the right thing and give money or did you just decide because y’all wasn’t going to be together he should be on child support? Yes I know kids are expensive I’m raising three but women are so quick to put a man on child support an quick to want to have the say over kids as soon as the relationship between mother an father don’t work an that’s why alot of father’s are being pushed out of their kids life. I don’t know the situation but sounds like he is upset you went an put him on cs for no reason or without letting him show he doesn’t need a judge to help support his kids definitely if he was doing it an doing it right before you two split.
I’m in Ohio as well. They always check residential. It’s kind of just part of the process anymore. That way when you actually go to court they seem like they’re being flexible and working with you because they end up settling for shared parenting, so they look like they’re being reasonable. Don’t worry. Chances are he’ll get Shared Parenting with rule 24 visitation (1 night a week and every other weekend, unless you agree to more)
The younger the child the more time they keep them with the mothers (especially if you breastfeed) he will get visitation at best but residential will remain with you. In order for him to even be considered for residential he needs to show proof that he has her own room, toys, clothes, bed, etc. But they will definitely give him visitation, 50/50 (if that, due to her age).
I wouldn’t worry about it too much. His working pattern may make it difficult for him to get residential. I’m sure if you offer fair visitation then it should all be ok. In regards to child support, it does my head in when people seem to think it’s too much. Raising a child is very very expensive. Fathers ( or mothers) who pay support should be happy to help provide for their kid, not resent every penny! My ex despises what he calls ‘giving me money’. No matter how often I explain that I’m not spending it on myself, it goes towards the raising if our child. He does everything he can to get out of paying!
Hope everything works out alright for you mama! X
What is “residential” ?
As long as your working and taking care of your children and they aren’t in and harm or danger they won’t but you both have to put your issues a side a think whats best for the child if you don’t want her going on her own then go with him go to a public place even though your not seating in the same table or something but he has to see his child my ex and i separated 1 year ago our son will be 2 in December since the beginning i didn’t want to but i had to for him but his picks up our son when ever he can we don’t have any set dates i know he is busy working and stuff so he just calls me and tells me to get him ready and most of the times i go with them but that’s because my son’s dad tells me to go with them but sometimes i let them go alone so they can have time just them too but we go out to the movies shopping and out to eat just the 3 of us for our son we also threw his birthday together both sides of the families can and all the pictures taken of the 3 of us together same thing with holidays we spend them together
My oldest daughter father tried to get custody of her when she was 5/6. In the papers he wrote if he got her they would move in with his aunt who would help care for her and watch her when he wasn’t home. The courts didn’t take well to that. They said they couldn’t take a child from her home where she lives with her mother and siblings to put her in a home where the father can’t even care for her by himself like I had been doing her whole life. But I have also seen where Mother’s were on drugs and had their kids taken by cps and the father still didn’t get custody because most states are mother states and will do just about anything to keep the child with her. I follow a fathers page and there are a ton of fathers fighting to get their kids because the mother is unfit and they keep losing. Not saying you’re unfit it’s just an example of how hard it is for a father to get custody. Most of them can’t even get 50/50. So I’d say your chances of losing her are pretty slim.