I am pregnant with my fiancé’s baby. We often argue about what each one should do. What should our roles be financial, work, house, chores, etc? Like what is supposed to be okay?
Everyone helps with everything!!! teamwork positivity encouragment:clap:
What ever works for you and your husband. Every relationship is different. Personally in my house I did all house hold things because my husband works long hard hours. I was lucky to be a le to stay home the 1st seven years of my sons life.
Everyone helps, split it evenly between everyone.
That’s something you need to sit down together and decide. What’s right for someone else isn’t always right for everyone. You’re both adults so act like it and work things out.
Financial both work together on the bills, both work cause it takes 2 incomes to make ends meet house chores split down the middle when baby comes both work together to help mom with the baby
That will not be up to anyone but you two. And it will change as you both change. The bottom line is you two are a team and need to get on the same page.
Like everything in a relationship you need to find what works for you. My husband works and I take care of the kids. If I need help he helps me if he needs help I help him. We are a team.
I think equals. Bills should be 50/50. Chores should be equal amounts. Like I know I’m stuck doing dishes because that is just NOT something he does. Lol. 2 times in 7 years.
Whatever works before baby comes may not work so well after baby comes be open to changing what the plan is nothing is going to go 100% to plan so don’t expect it to
What ever makes the house run happily and efficiently.
Team work makes the dream work. We have 4 kids and both work full time. I cook dinner he gives bathes I clean the kitchen and put the kiddos to bed and he cleans the living room… this is every single night. Laundry, dusting, vacuuming, mopping, bathrooms all of that is done 50/50… what I don’t get done on my day off he will do on his day off. This is what works for us… he has certain bills he pays and I pay certain bills.
Whatever you BOTH think is fair. With me and my husband, it has changed over the years, depending on who was doing what. When I was working PT, I did more of the household chores. When he was working PT, he did. Both working we both do stuff.
You need to find out what works for you! I am currently 32 weeks with twins and have a toddler. Once they are born I will be at home full time so financially it will be on my S/O as I won’t be working. We figured child care cost for 3 kids with two infants were not worth it, as everything I would be making would be going to child care. Plus I plan on nursing so it will be easier for me to be home. You need to sit down and discuss what is going to work best for you both as once the baby gets here things will change.
If he has a problem with doing anything around the house (cleaning, cooking, etc.) then he’s…expecting you to be his mom and maid. You need to decide if that’s what you want for the rest of your life. Or discuss it now with him and explain why housework and cooking is 50/50, especially if y’all both work.
My fiancé and I both pull our weight around the house , I often do more because he works a lot , but he never has a issue helping out with anything
There is no specific role beyond what you two are comfortable with but that’s the key phrase… you TWO need to be comfortable with it. Both of you must be on the same page. Whether that means one stay at home parent (mom or dad), two working parents, shared chores, etc… it shouldn’t be an argument. Every relationship and every household is different and will work differently and nobody outside of your relationship has a right to tell you if you’re doing it “wrong.”
If you’re going to be a stay at home then you should be doing the majority of cleaning and dinner etc but on his days off he should help also. He should offer to watch baby too for you can go relax in tub or bedroom after he gets home too for you can destress
Sit down and write everything that needs done, big and small from laundry, sorting, folding, putting away, dishes, washing, putting them away, cooking, sweeping, moping, vacuuming, cleaning the toilet, cleaning the tub/shower, taking out the garbage, lawn care, changing the baby, feeding the baby, cooking, sit down and write it all down and decide how you will split it up. Are you going to be a stay at home mom, or are you going to work? Weigh outside work and things that need to be done at home and figure out what is fair for both of you, keep in mind you will have days where one will have to step up and do more than normal. If he is working outside of the home and you are staying home yes you should be doing most of the house work, but he should at least help with the baby when he is home, and he should help on his days off such as take over baby care. If you both work outside of the house then figure out a good splitting of chores. Financially things should be split evenly if you are both working. If one of you is better at making sure bills are paid then that person should do so. In my house we have separate bank accounts, my guy gives me his half of the bills and I pay the bills, that is what works for us.
My husband and I split house work, we both work, both parent…we are a team.