What can I do to relieve stress?

For the past year or so, I’ve been feeling very stressed about every single thing in my life. My daughter is almost 4, my husband (her bio dad), and I got married two months ago, and with the holidays and day to day activities, I feel beyond stressed and feel like I’m constantly yelling at everyone. My husband tries his best to help me, and my daughter is a great kid, but some days I feel like I’m constantly yelling! Everything I do ends up feeling like a chore or turns into an argument. Going to the grocery store, any kind of outing, or when anyone comes over, I feel like I’m constantly the one doing everything, or I end up mad. I work 40 hours a week, and so does my husband with occasional OT. My in-laws are great and watch our daughter while we work, but even going to pick her up after work some days when my husband works late seems like such a draining task. It’s not that I don’t want to do things, especially for my husband and daughter, but most days I feel like I’m at my breaking point. My husband wants to try for baby number 2, and I’m scared that I’m going to become a mom that can’t handle it. So I guess my question is, are there things you busy mamas do to relieve stress? Or any tips to remain calm, so I’m not constantly blowing up at everyone? I’m usually a very patient person, especially with my kid, but some days It’s like talking to a brick wall, and I feel like no one hears me unless I’m yelling or raising my voice

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You sound depressed. I’d make an appointment with your doctor.

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Please seek help from a professional. Sometimes as Moms, we think we’re dealing with past stress but we just push it aside. Our bodies continue to deal with the stress, that’s why we feel tired and overwhelmed all the time. This sounds more like anxiety. I went through the same thing.

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Call your dr , sounds like you need something before you jump into another pregnancy

Ps been there, you will feel better , call the dr

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I do yoga classes and meditation and meet up with friends once a week just to unwind

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See a doc. I find breathing exercises, exercise, massage and music help me. :two_hearts:

Take a day to yourself…

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Are you in a legal state? You need some marijuana. I promise itll help :green_heart:

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Honestly have you took a pregnancy test?

Councling. I write in my journal. I go to store alone and just walk around or walk outside if it’s nice. I’ll clean. Big thing I started doing want breath. Take a spilt secto think bout what u say… Say it in your head to see if it’s appropriate or not… Works for me. Just advice for u… Good luck…

Depression and youre on overdrive. Always hard you need a break even if a weekend

It could be Post partum anxiety.

Ashwaganda from the health food store is a natural stress apdogen, also, turmeric capsules

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Make sure you take some time for yourself. Maybe get a massage. If that helps mayne schedule one for every other week or even omce/month.

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Sounds like your depressed. I’d go to the dr and explain how you feel.

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Read, take walks, see if the grandparents will keep her for a night. Try to do somethimg that relaxes you. Get some self-care in. :purple_heart::purple_heart: this mama thing is hard.

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Sounds like depression and/or anxiety. Your first step would be therapy, creative release (journaling, coloring, drawing, etc), and regular exercise. Make sire to take time for yourself, get a massage, get your nails or hair done, whatever makes you feel pampered and happy.

If you want to try herbs ashwagandha, passionflower, and kava are my go-tos.

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Sounds like depression, seek help from a professional. Also if you’re always doing for everyone and never have true time to yourself you can get overwhelmed with it all… maybe take a weekend to yourself, get a mani pedi, have a girls day, catchup with friends… and get yourself in order before you have another baby

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Depression medication is a trap, seek solace in meditation or exercise.

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You have to MAKE yourself slow down and take time for yourself. That’s what I have to do. I try so hard to handle everything myself and do everything perfectly and I always end up resentful and hateful towards my family. The past couple months I’ve just kind of had to make myself let go of the housework (reasonably) and let go of my expectations of myself which are way too high. Everyone needs alone time and time to do things that nourish them as an individual apart from being a mother. I feel you though! It’s super frustrating feeling like you’re the only one that does anything at home.

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