What can I say to my grand daughter whom is addicted to her phone?

My granddaughter is addicted to her phone that I got her, looking at inappropriate things chatting with strangers etc. I’m visiting her for Thanksgiving. Please I need suggestions!

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honestly, nothing. It’s not up to you to parent her unless you are raising her

I’m not crazy about some of the things my step-daughter does, but she doesn’t live with me and so I don’t get to say anything about it

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What’s the age of the girl? If she’s doing anything that could potentially harm herself, whoop her ass. No strangers on the internet, PERIOD!

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Nothing. Only thing you can do is cancel the phone if you’re paying for it. Otherwise its the place of the parents

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Stay out of it. It’s not up to my parents to raise my daughter, that is my job. If my parents stepped in because they felt my daughter was using her phone too much I would be livid. Let her parents do their job, you raised your babies, now it’s just time for you to enjoy your babies babies.

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So I’m super close to my grandmother. If you bought the phone and pay the bill. You should say something about how you don’t pay for her to have a phone to look at things. It’s to contact you and parents. Maybe even embarrass her a little bit jokingly ask her if she’s looking at nudes at dinner or something silly.

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Unless she’s living with you or you’re paying for her phone, the only thing really you can do is bring it to the parents attention

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If you bought the phone for her, you do have a say! But make sure her parents know what you are doing.

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Take the phone away. You paid for it so you have the right to take it away.

All of you who are saying stay out of it. You are part of the addiction problem. It’s Thanksgiving there is no reason to have a phone by anyone. Especially at the dining table.

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There’s nothing you can do expect for possibly saying something to the parents like telling them your concerns, but if your paying for the phone id stop paying for it. Your the one that bought if for her so your able to turn it off until further notice

Have a talk with her parents first, yall could sit down and talk about the things shes looking at and why you feel its inappropriate, especially with the talking to strangers, if you pay the bill, you could turn the phone off, you’re her grandmother, you do have a say, especially when her safety is concerned
But seeing as you are her grandmother, let her parents decide on the discipline, but have a talk with them

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Who pays the bill?? Easy fix… Stop paying.

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Get off your phone. Go play outside.

I always found talking about a fictitious person in their same situation works. Like this, " my friend Joan has a daughter around your age, a tad bit younger. Joan caught her talking to strangers inappropriately. The worst part, she is ALWAYS on her phone. I told Joan I just dont know what she should do. What do you think she should do or say to her daughter?"
It gets the kid to problem solve about the same situation without being put on the stand, freaks them out if they are doing the same thing and doesn’t step on her mom’s and dad’s toes with parenting.

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Distract her, ask her questions and talk to her about what she is doing… in school, after school, hobbies shes into, concerts she would like to go to, does she want to travel, what’s her dream job - what steps does she need to take to get there.
Talking will make here eventually put her phone down and have some time with grandma.
If you are concerned about her safety talk to the parents about what safety measures they have in place, is there gps in the phone does she have to check in, do they know who she chats with, have they had convos about not meeting strangers.

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My grandma was my best friend. If she told me not to do something…I didn’t do it ( most of the time) those times I did do it… she had no problem putting me in my place.

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She needs a good scare get u a new SIM card and open a new account make like u one of the people she’s chatting to and tell her if she’s not going to stop u are sending all her chats to her family maybe that will scare her

Make sure the parents know what she is doing…those things arent ok…talking to strangers can be harmful…sit down with the parents and come up with a discipline…

How old is she in actual fact