What do I say to my 2-year-old when she asks about her dad not being around?

Hey mommas… how do I answer a two-year-old when she asks for her dad not knowing he’s not around anymore? Long story short, he has some depression issues and drinks excessively, not making time for her. ( drinking when he knows he’s to take her ) So I am cutting him completely till he gets help. It breaks my heart when she asks for him. No negative comments, please.

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Just tell her daddy is sick and needs to get better before he can come see her.

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Tell her daddy isn’t healthy right now and you’re not sure when he will be healthy, but when he is youre sure that the first thing he will want to do is see her :heartpulse:

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Say daddy isn’t feeling well and we are giving him time to get better.

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Say daddy isn’t feeling well like they said but I’m pretty sure taking his kid away from him is going to make him way worse. :confused:

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What they said.^ don’t make up a complex story. They don’t trust us when we do that…if they keep asking, just reassure your little one that they are doing their best

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She’s two. Lol. You say daddy’s at work.

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I still tell mine but they are a bit older that dad must be busy working

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Just love your child with all ur being and explain that daddy’s sick right now.
My husband left me and our four year old in February. I don’t speak ill of him but I don’t talk him up either. If she asks for him,I text him and if responds he can talk to her if not,we move on and I hold her thru tears

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Keep your child safe !!!

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I told my 2 year old he’s on a trip to get better and that he loves her and misses her

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“Daddy is away right now, but let’s pray for him, okay?”

I have a toddler who’s father committed suicide when she was 2.5 months…
She’s 4 years old now and does ask and has been asking. It’s normal.

It ain’t the same situation as yours, but they’re little and won’t truly understand until they’re much older. By God’s grace, I pray that the dad does choose life… family…health and restoration.

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She’s 2 so saying he’s sick might worry her. Just say he can’t see her right now, hug her if she’s sad and move on. She’s too young to understand the kind of sick he is.

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Ive been through this.
It took me 7 years what it took you to get. Good job!!! Be proud of yourself. Your doing the right thing.
The effects this same serinio had on my son.
I told my son daddy was sick. That "daddy has a sickness in his head, and the way you get therapy. Thats what daddy needs he loves you and its not your fault. and we need to take a break right now.
My son is also older hes alomst 6.
My advice would be tell her a simple version of that. Including her dad loves her and its not her fault.

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I would just say hes working. I used that like till she was 5 then she got smart

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Just tell her he doesn’t feel good but he loves her very much and wishes he could be there. Eventually she will stop asking.

Daddy loves you very much. Buts he’s very sick and can’t be around right now, let’s make him a picture( you don’t have to mail it)

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I had the same this with my daughter. We told her that her dad is working on himself and other things and when he’s ready to see you he’ll call us. And say that he loves her and it’s nothing she’s done. We had a therapist say don’t say he’s sick or they could start worrying to much.

Dada doesn’t feel good right now. Dada is napping. Dada is at work. Then redirect.

First of all I pray that he gets help. Secondly the best thing to say is that Daddy is making very bad choices right now and those choices prevent him from being able to take care of you and that he loves her but it’s your job as her mom to make sure you are always taken care of… that is until she gets older like 5-7 depending on her understanding of things and then you can go into more details on what decisions like drinking and driving( I pray he’ll have gotten help before then) and lastly but not leastly it’s wrong for you to completely keep the child from him because its going to make things FAR worse for him and your daughter will resent you for it not him. Don’t get me wrong it’s completely and totally understandable if you’re not allowing him to drive her while he is intoxicated. But there are ways you could allow him to see her and not put your daughters safety at risk.

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