I don’t have any custody agreement or child support set with my kids’ dad. We’ve always kept it out of court. He’s multiple girlfriends this last year, and our kids have met all of them. We currently have a 50/50 agreement (nothing on paper). Seven days on seven off. This agreement just came to be about 18 months ago. Things are about to get rough, though, as we cant agree out of court on custody seeing as he’s moving him away, and neither are will to give up time. He wants to change their schools, and I don’t. They don’t either. It’s really upsetting them. I don’t want him to lose time with them, so I’m looking for custody ideas. Right now, I’m thinking three weekends a month plus days there is no school, i.e., 3 or 4 day weekends, spring break, and the summer we would switch (I’d do three weekends a month while he does weekdays). Then like an agreement when it comes to Xmas and Thanksgiving break. Any ideas for a better plan?
Sounds like a good plan
Kids need structure & routine & if him chooses to move then that’s up to him. I would keep the kids with you & take it back to court because honestly he can keep the kids n file for custody when he has them.
If hes willingly moving away the judge wont continue week on week off. What you’ve come up with is a great compromise
I think you need a legal custody agreement. You should get a lawyer.
Was the comments about the multiple girlfriends needed?
My ex and I do the following: one weekend a month, unless a holiday then it trumps the weekend visit, he gets our son a week after school gets out until the last Sunday of July. He lives 8 hours away
I’m going to say this since no one else has…do it thru the courts…he could just decide not to bring them home and claim custody and there won’t be much you can do about it other than go to court and fight for custody. If y’all are disagreeing on things he may decide to play dirty and take them.
I think you need to make a move real quick as he legally can take them without your consent and do what he wants until soul custody is established. Get an attorney and I would be real careful until you get a temporary court order
My daughters dad moved 6 hours away. He gets her one weekend a month, 2 weeks in the summer and we rotate 4th of July, Easter, thanksgiving and rotate Christmas and new years 1 week and 1 week alternating. If he wants her additional time if he’s down then of course I do as long as we don’t have anything super important going on but it’s always communicated upfront. I would def get it on paper though even if you guys agree to it cause at any time he could just not give them back. It’s also in my papers that her school goes off of my address. It also matters how far he is moving. Is it drivable to where he can do every other weekend like an hour drive? Or is it multiple hours?
Get a lawyer if you love your kids.
We have a split custody in my family and both parents live in the same area, the kids have rooms in both places, they switch homes every Monday, and the week they’re at one parent’s, they do dinner with the other parent in Weds. These kids feel loved because there is some kind of structure in their life. It’s because the parents put the kids first which is what is needed. Protect your kids and your time with them. Whatever you do, the kids come first.
Plan but why is he moving? Could stay for the kids I’m
Divorced also and I
Had too stay put close in distance to
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Kids as parents we make choices as to what’s best for our kids and I don’t see how dad moving is
You won’t be able to decide your own custody arrangements. That is up to the judge . Get yourself a good lawyer and plan to spend some money . Most judges are agreeing in this day in time on joint custody . Lots of luck !
I would do every othee weekend. Every other holiday, days off school. One month out the summer. Eith june July or Aug…that’s a pretty standard joint custody agreement
That’s why I don’t do upfront cash
Go to the courthouse and file a custody petition and whatever address is used for the kids is usually where they stay. Since the dad wants to move let the court decide.
Legal custody agreement idk where your at. I am Missouri and ours are very strict. Mother is usually the one the child lives with primary unless unfitted by court. Which is what mine is they live with me go to my school district I am the only one to claim in taxes child support agreement for visitation is he gets them every other weekend. Holidays are split but I put a exception in our I always get Christmas Day and has eve. Then one week vacation during summer only. He has to come to me at all times to pick up and drop off, but that is limited to 100 miles, after that we have to meet half way
If he is that adamant about them changing schools I would get a custody agreement set through the courts before he does. Most cases they side with the mother as far as where the kid should go to school you guys could still have a great custody agreement set up and both be able to spend plenty of time with your children but if they don’t wanna leave the school district and you don’t want them to leave the school district I would definitely get some things set in stone saying that they’re going to stay where they’re at for school. Good luck momma! ￼ ￼
I think you already have a good plan. An you just need to take it to court an present it to the judge. That’s way more than a standard visitation an any judge would think it was more than generous. If you still want to keep it 50/50 have it listed as joint custody with you holding custodial custody. He still has the same rights and no support (unless that’s something you want) an it’s still shared custody they just live with you can
Have the court decide , without legal papers verbal means nothing.