What is a miscarriage?

This question was submitted anonymously by real people looking for real advice. Please be mindful with your responses. No bashing or derogatory comments will be tolerated.

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I’ve had 2 miscarriages and 1 ectopic. The miscarriages made me sad but I understood why, at about 7 weeks and 9 weeks the fetus just stopped growing, the ectopic destroyed me because it was a beautiful baby growing and living just fine but in my tube. I wanted to just let it go but I had 2 other children and the Dr. said it could kill me and the baby so I had poison injected into my back to basically abort that growing fetus. I will never forget that pain. Physical and emotional.

I can’t believe this question made it through as it could have been googled and not asked. I had a miscarriage on my first pregnancy and it was devastating. It took my a long time to get pregnant after that but I finally did thankfully. It has been 26 years and it still can bring tears to my eyes.

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I’ve had 8 miscarriages and I don’t find this the slightest bit insensitive, it just seems to me like somebody who would like to be educated about what it actually is, maybe they live an incredibly sheltered life! Also, people who have sadly suffered can’t shout and cry about how miscarriages shouldn’t be a taboo subject anymore if they can’t even explain what one is. As women we should be able to talk about these things to bring comfort to others going through the same thing. How can we do that if even the word miscarriage sends us into panic?

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Oh my these comments we are all human yes we all been through hell and back loosing a baby no matter what gestation this was a simple question and even one is being so negative towards the poster please be kind or Don’t respond simple really

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It was definitely two of the worst experiences I’ve ever had to deal with as a woman. We were trying so hard to have another baby with IVF & just when I got the good news that I was FINALLY pregnant, I was told my HCG levels (pregnancy hormone) weren’t rising like they should & I was probably gonna lose the baby. Just having to wait it out & deal with the unknowns of not knowing if the baby was gonna survive or not was heart wrenching for me both times. It was the worst 2-3 weeks & then finally the bleeding started & I was devastated. But, knowing I have those two babies in Heaven waiting for me is something I’m looking forward to. :heart:

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A bit of an insensitive bunch hey. We all go through difficult situations in life and not everyone can, will and should maneuver their life around yours. The question posed is just a question, it insinuated nothing of the poster doing anything inhuman or unethical or damaging in anyway. Like every other post on FB, if you don’t like it… Keep scrolling. TV and radio adds don’t consider you when they air these topics, and I’m sure if you don’t like it, you change the station. This is not a stupid question and it definitely is something to be spoken about. I’m glad some people had the decency to answer the question in an informative non judgemental way. If you have been affected by this topic, you need to consider getting help to get through or manage your trauma. Have a nice day everyone.

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I had a miscarriage I was about 10 weeks in. I started cramping and I went to the hospital. I’ve already had 4 daughters so I knew something wasn’t right. They didn’t hear a heartbeat but told me it’s ok cause at the time I was 8 going on 9 weeks. They did a ultrasound they saw the baby. Told me I was fine blood work was good. A week later I was back at the hospital bleeding not bad but bleeding and cramping. I was told the blood work and the ultrasound told them I would loose the baby. I was by myself. I didn’t want my kids there cause I knew what happened. They sent me home to pass the baby. The next day there was so much blood. I miscarried and was so weak. I’ve never been that weak I should have gone to a doctor. When I did I was so anemic I almost had to have a blood transfusion. I talked them out of it. Now I have a rainbow baby. A baby after a miscarriage.
The person who asked might have asked to open up a conversation because it’s not talked about. Let’s not think the worst and open up. This is an opportunity to be able to talk and maybe help others with our stories.
#I HAD A MISCARRIAGE

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Attack me for this, I dont care, but if this is a young teen, maybe she should talk to her mom, or ask to go to the doctor. Google and Facebook wont really help if she did have a miscarriage, or is experiencing one. She needs a doctor. Maybe, she needs to talk to her mom or aunt instead of running to Google or Facebook. Also, for a lot of moms, I think a trigger warning would have been nice.

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A lot of the comments are rude…

Yes it might be triggering emotions for some and im sorry for your loss…

But its a group of support to other moms, instead of bullying the one whom posted it… how about trying to share your experience??

The title is called;
Mom’s life… keeping it real!

Ive seen some comments about 8 or 10 misscarriages and even they think its an honest question.

Let us start educating through our experiences,
Instead of educating through google!

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This is a big part of what’s wrong with todays society. Everyone is so sensitive about everything that they feel entitled to limit and censor those around them because they’re “triggered”. I’ve grown to truly hate that word. Nobody should have to curve themselves because somebody else gets offended. Its apart of life, there are so many people with different personalities, experiences, interests and opinions. You can’t conform everyone into the same way. If you dont like something, thats fine, move on from it but dont condemn people and attack them because they don’t see things your way. Life is full of things that are upsetting. Learn to grow tougher skin and get your baby soft hands calloused and grow up. I applaud administration for allowing a question, that should be able to be talked about without backlash because we dont know everyone’s situations. And to those actually answering the question, thank you for your kindness and understanding and ability to push through their own traumas with the hope of education those around to try and make the world a more loving and understand place.

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Miscarriages can be truly awful, emotionally and physically painful experiences. I had one myself (not terribly long ago) and the memory will live with me for life. But this simple question shouldn’t be enough to trigger such unkind and overblown responses. It sounds to me that those of you requiring trigger warnings and outright CENSORSHIP have not processed your losses and fears properly, and have tipped over into emotional and mental instability as a result. You’re doing yourself a disservice by attempting to repress your own trauma, and you’re being cruel to other women who may be in NEED of wise counsel from someone who has an intimate understanding of these realities. This is a very troubling, but very UNIVERSAL part of being a woman. And we should be able to discuss it compassionately, at all times.
Now if you personally opt not to be part of the conversation, then bow out. By all means. But how dare you shame someone for merely seeking information here. Google doesn’t have a heart. But as mothers, all of US are supposed to.

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As a mom who has lost a baby to a miscarriage I feel people are being way out of line! If someone asking what is a miscarriage upsets you then you should seek some help because yes it was hard as hell when I lost my baby and still is 3 years later! But someone asking me about doesn’t make me mad. In fact I believe it should be talked about more because most women don’t even realize how common it is to have a miscarriage, or even how many woman around them have had one too and can be there to support them through the pain and doubt you go through! Stop crying about it as woman and be the light someone might need! You just might change someone’s life because of the kindness you showed them in their time of need because you e gone through the same thing.
To the person asking the question, a miscarriage is when you lose your baby often due to a defect while the baby is forming this generally happen before the 12 week. There are miscarriages that happen later in the gestation of the baby but I’m not sure on those reasons. But if you think you are having a miscarriage you should seek medical advice. The doctors need to check you and make sure your ok.

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Some of these comments are vile and so judgmental. There’s Obviously a reason why it has been asked. Yes it’s awful that some of you have had to go through that but everyone has dealt with a loss of some description be it people’s parents, kids, other family etc and there are triggers ALL DAY EVERY DAY which can set people off for various reasons. You don’t like it, scroll on and judge somewhere else. Let’s hope the person that posted this is ok and can see some light and see passed some of these nasty comments

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A miscarriage is a loss of a baby upto 23 weeks (28 in us I think), a still birth is loss after this point but during pregnancy, a still born is a loss during labour and a neonatal loss is when a baby sadly passes in the first 28 days of life. Weeks vary by country especially between the US and the Uk. I hope whoever posted this is getting the right support if needed.

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As a mom who lost a baby, I really am disappointed in the admin who accepted this as a question. This hit a emotional nerve… Makes me wanna remove myself from this group because of this being something that could be asked. 5 years later for me and I just had a breakdown the other night because i found my papers saying I had a spontaneous abortion and pregnancy test of my first that i lost. Smh

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I had one at 22 weeks and 8 weeks, 2 very very different experiences. I had very little support for the first one, put in a side room and left to get one with it. Horrendous! X heart goes out to anyone in the same experience

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I feel like this could have been taken in many ways… it definitely needed a trigger warning from the get go. As it does hit a nerve for a lot of moms, myself included. I understand I’m educating people on this topic because some don’t know the difference between a miscarriage or a still born. Or they might think it is the same. I also think this did bring a lot of us angel moms together, to support each other and be there for one another, especially through something as heartbreaking as losing a child no matter how far along you were. My heart is right there with all you moms who now have angel babies. And I can only hope mine is there with yours.
To the fan who asked the question, be understanding, that the negative comments come from a deep place of pain, that non of us ever wish upon anyone. But if you really need clarification, you can always pm me and I can help you understand.
To admin, this really NEEDED a trigger warning… I know it triggered a nerve for me as well…

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Just had a little cry thinking about my miscarriage but that’s okay, it’s normal to be emotional after such a experience. I was 7 weeks and had gone abroad to Egypt, I have many what ifs, like did I eat the right things, did I stay hydrated, did laying on a sun bed cause this to happen?
I lost my pregnancy symptoms and started to have light pink blood, just like that I knew my baby was gone but I held on to hope.
I received my rainbow baby two months after the miscarriage, he’s now five years and a half old. His pregnancy was hard because I bled with him a few times too but thankfully it was all okay in the end.
Us mommas of angels got to support eachother, not blame someone for asking a sensitive question x

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A heartbreaking painful experience mentally and physically that you never forget! And also feel guilty for or a lot of could’ve, would,ve, should’ve or what if questions

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