What should I do about a fight between my husband and parents?

Question: my husband and I have two kids together ages 1 and 3 years old, several months ago he and my parents had an argument with each other just over the simple fact they don’t like each other (no actual fight broke out just angry words being said to each other- they have an on and off again mutual relationship- we’ve been together for 6 yrs) since their arguments happened several months ago my husband has refused them to see our kids. I respected him long enough to not talk to my parents for so long, but recently I have reconnected with them, and every time I bring them up, he fights with me every time being completely unfair and wants me to have nothing to do with them anymore. I want the kids to see their grandparents. They’ve always been so good to them and helped us, and I miss them… so my question is, despite my husband, do I have any rights or say to let my folks see the kids again?

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The beef is between him and them NOT you and them…they are your parents and if you can move on from whatever the issue was you should be allowed to do so. He doesnt have to participate. Now the only issue would be the issue itself, like if it was mistreatment of the kids or something like that.

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I would offer up the compromise of he doesn’t have to have anything to do with but they’re your parents therefore you and your children will see them. I mean unless they badmouth him to the children or treat them badly there’s no reason for them not to see your kids because your husbands being childish

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Don’t ever punish the children for the actions of the adults in their lives. As long as they are safe and happy when spending time with the grandparents, there is absolutely no reason why they should not be able to have a relationship.
Your husband needs to realize he cannot ruin relationships between family members simply because he does not like them. Its cruel to both the children, the grandparents and yourself.

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the arguement is between the adults not the children. shouldnt keep the children away at all from their grandparents thats not fair on them or the grandparents. :slight_smile:

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Myself personally would let them all know either get it together an be respectable for kids sake or go on about your business kids SHOULD NOT SUFFER bc grown folks cant keep there differences aside if the grand parents arent harmful hateful nor negligent to them your husband an yourself then they need put aside there feelings an big egos put your foot down

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Yes,you have say,alot of it.

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Is this a real question???

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Let no person keep you or your children from people you love. He sounds very controlling.

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Adult opinions should not be for children’s ears

If they have been loving parents to you and loving to their grandchildren then they should absolutely still be in their lives x

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Children are not bargaining chips.

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I would never keep my kids from seeing my parents just because of my spouse. If your parents are good people and wonderful to your children what does their argument with your husband have to do with the kids? Keep them out of adult problems.

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He doesn’t have the right to keep the kids away. I rarely want to see my in laws, but I never deny them access to my kids.

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You and your kids need to stay out of their situation, period.

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He does not make the rules. He needs to be civil. Your parents can.be civil too. The kids are better off with more people to love them. Everyone needs to be kind.

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Omg what is his problem? He doesn’t have to see them. That’s fine. But he can’t keep you and your kids from your family. That’s insane.

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Do you have any rights? To let your parents see your own kids? Holy hell.

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This is from personal experience! Take note! My parents and hubby had a fight. Huge fight. My parents were dead wrong! In every way. Absolutely refused to right their wrong. I tryed to be a supportive wife. I allowed my kids to be kept away from them. And I also stayed away. It was very justified! I wont go into details. But it could’ve been resolved differently! After 3 long years of no communication. The only call I got is when my Dad was dying!!! I rushed to be with him. And he held on for only 1 month in the hospital. He was too sick to ever speak about the incident, but I was able to tell him I love him and visit him until the moment I held him as he took his last breath (literally)
Girl, DON’T LET THIS BE YOU! YOU WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOURSELF! NEVER. YOU’LL NEVER FORGET… Unless people or children have been harmed (other than cross words or feelings) FIX IT! FIX IT… Nothing worth this.

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Do not estrange from your parents because of your husband and for Heaven sake do not punish your children by refusing to let them see their grandparents. Children should never be used as a weapon to hurt others. Anyone who does so shows very narcissistic behavior. And shame on you if you allow it.

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Do you live in the U.S?