What should I do about my 5-year-old's behavior?

Hey, mama, 's I need some advice on my five-year-old. He just doesn’t seem to want to listen at all. My husband and I have taken toys away; we have taken games away. We have done time out, and we have even spanked him. Nothing seems to work. We can’t even take him anywhere without him acting out. We have talked to him. I don’t know how many times about how he needs to listen to us and a family member that watches him for us while we are at work. This has gone on for a while now, even before everyone needed to be quarantined. Please I just need some advice on how to handle my five years old, and by the way, he is an only child, and he is great at school no problems with listing to his teachers

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My son is the same!! Idk what to do anymore !! So I’m following this for some advice as well!!

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My daughter is the same way!!!

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Maybe check with the doctor and see if there is something underlining. Our son was the same way. He was diagnosed with ODD

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Maybe try therapy sometimes kids need someone they can talk to or someone who can see outside the box and find a solution to the deeper issues

Maybe have him earn things for appropriate behavior. Start with small time increments and reward often. Then you can gradually lengthen the time between rewards.

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I have got the same exact problem with my son. It’s like you are speaking about my child. I’ve learned that my little man was just seeking my attention. I’ve been spending more quality time with him, and talking to him about what’s going on and why he does/says the things he does. Just spending time with him has been helping it seems. Other than that I’ve tried everything to discipline him and nothing seemed to work.

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Check out super nanny on you tube- it works if you put in the work.

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Look into Supernanny
She has a tv show. & she does amazing her techniques work

My son is exactly the same, and he’ll be 6 in November. Its super frustrating, because its like he’s intentionally ignoring me and his father.

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I would definitely suggest a child therapist or psychologist. Sometimes we need extra reinforcements. We went through a similar situation with my son at that age with temper tantrums and inappropriate outbursts and defiant behavior…turns out he has Autism Spectrum Disorder. He is now a much more happy healthy boy🥰

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Are there distractions at home? Turn off all tvs, phones, ipads and focus on fun activities between the two of you. Crafts, stories, building toys, learning to do household chores etc. If he can listen at school, then he can do it at home.

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Mine was the same. He’s now 8 and still trying to learn how to control his emotions. Consistence is what worked. Don’t scream when he’s in trouble. Tell him “I’ll talk to you when you’re done throwing a fit” or something like that. Then calmly explain that you understand why he’s angry, sad, etc. but that’s no reason to freak out. I tell my son to take a deep breath and think before he freaks out, and then if he can’t control it just “I’m too mad right now to talk” or just that he doesn’t want to be talked to or whatever, but if he throws things or starts freaking then that’s when he gets more in trouble.

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He can sit in his room with absolutely nothing. Don’t let him have the privilege of going out (sucks for you but gotta do what you gotta do if you’re actually serious), snacks, anything. Consistency is the biggest key. He won’t like having absolutely nothing and being so damn bored all the time. Fair warning, it might take awhile. The second you give in, you lost and he won. So DONT GIVE INTO ANYYYTHIIING

What exactly is he doing? Are you consistent with discipline and the rules, trying something for a week and then something else the next week isn’t going to work. Clearly he knows how to behave and control himself since he’s doing it at school. He’s seeking attention and acting out negatively seems to be the ticket with you. Try pointing out all the good things that you see when you’re with him and not give tons of attention when he misbehaved. What I mean is when he misbehaves you punish and have talks with him which gives him a lot of attention, but do you give him the same amount of energy and attention when he does something good or just in general?

Positive reinforcement. Check out books on parenting strong willed children. It’s all attention seeking so you have to work to give attention during positive moments so he doesn’t seek attention for negative.

Hey! My husband and I just actually read this book called “1-2-3 magic” legit life changing. Same issues as you (and more because we have 3 kiddos). Seriously give it a try. When you’re reading you’ll think omg this is ridiculous, because it sounds that way…but we’ve been implementing it for about 2 weeks now and neither one of us have had to raise our voices at all. Things flow smoother. NO GETTING OUT OF BED 274628282728 times a night.

Get him assessed by a professional instead of Facebook doctors

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Ya give him a pill or take him to a doctor you know there’s something Rong with him! Ya he’s a brat dill with it you done it to him

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Sounds like my son. Hes diagnosed with Oppositional Defiant Disorder. The only thing that helped him was medication unfortunately😔I’d say see a pediatrician. Dont wait either. We waited too long and my son ended up in the hospital restrained to a bed😭hes 6. It was the worst day of my life.

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