When do I draw the line with the other parent?

So at what point does a single mom draw the line? My son’s father left when I was three months pregnant, and our son is just shy of 2 now. He randomly sent a nasty message demanding I put him on a plane and to see him and his siblings… he also said I should update HIS family about our son. Furthermore, my son’s dad isn’t on his birth certificate. We live in different states, and he’s met our son 2x over a year ago; he doesn’t pay child support and is very intermittent with contact. Our son is a secret to his new baby mom, so there are only certain hours that he can call and vice versus.

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Idk why this is a question. I wouldnt give him the time of day. If you dont have custody established do so and ask for 100% legal and physical.

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Uh he has no right to tell you what to do block him not a hard decision. Make him take steps to get all that if he wants

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This is tough! From what you describe, You do not owe the father a thing - he should update his family. He should pay to help with the child. Obviously he will not be playing a major role in your child’s life so why entertain it

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He hasn’t been in this child’s life hardly ever. Don’t send the child. If he wants so bad to see him - let him come to you!

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Go to lawyer and protect yourself for coming after you for stuff like this

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He was nothing ,but a sperm donor .

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Nope ignore him not worth it

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He’s not on the birth certificate so he honestly has 0 legal rights until he takes you to court. And even then he’s going to look stupid

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Drunk message? Screw that crap. Ignore it. If he persists…call while new baby momma is around. Bet it stops then lol oh and in that conversation…tell him to get a lawyer if he wants to see his child. Otherwise, see ya in the next life and change your number. Case closed. Not on birth certificate means even if you’re 100% sure it’s his child HE needs a paternity test before he has any rights whatsoever to this child. End of story no loop holes.

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Where do you draw the line?
Awhile ago.
He has no rights.
He’s not on the birth certificate.
Your child doesn’t even know him.
But ya you should contact a lawyer to cover yourself. Doesn’t sound good he’s so demanding suddenly.

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I’d block his ass and change my number. :woman_facepalming:

Get custody. Now! Don’t wait around for this man to try to sue you for custody. Weird that his new bm doesn’t know. Let him deal with that. You just do you. But seriously, don’t put it off. Get custody!

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Right now. Toss the letter in the trash and go on with your life.

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I feel like he drew that line for you. Don’t feel obligated to give into his demands. If he is keeping YOUR son a secret from his new chick than why should you have to update his family? Ultimately the decision is yours but I would ignore his demands. If he really wanted to be apart of your son’s life than he would show that which I feel he is clearly not. I am sorry you have to deal with this and I hope things get better for you :slightly_smiling_face:

Get protection order against him for harrassment…and stalking

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Girl fuck him figuratively tell him he can get all that as soon as he starts paying support I bet he pipe down then & stop accepting his calls let him text ( proof in writing jic)

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Never give him to this man. You may not get him back.

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I am not a mother, but do not send your child. If he wanted a relationship with your child he would have concerned himself some time ago. Seek legal advice if your concerned about him retaliating, but agreed he is not listed on birth certificate, no rights.

I would say you should have drawn that line a long time ago when he left you and the baby and showed no support or interest in either of you for the most part. You owe him nothing and by the sounds he would only mess up your son’s life to let him have any contact w/him at all.

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