When should I reveal I have a child to someone I am dating?

So I’ve recently gotten out of a 9 year relationship with someone I share a 5 year old son with. I’m not out there looking for anything serious relationship wise but I’m just letting things flow and whatever happens happens. So my question is, how far into talking to someone do you reveal that you have a child?

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Um why wouldn’t it come up right away meeting anyone or in general I bring up my kids

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Immediately, unless you plan on putting your child AFTER the person you’re dating :woman_shrugging:

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First thing I would tell someone.

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I always tell people about my kids. Why hide it??

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Pretty much right after starting to talk to them. If he’s acting weird, I bail. No reason to put up with an arrogant idiot who doesn’t like kids. Why waste time on that?

Immediately, but also make it clear that you arent looking to have them fill the other parents shoes.

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Why not state it up front so that if that is a deal breaker, there is no wasting either of your time.

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Tell them immediately…and make sure they know that your child comes FIRST

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He should already know.

I tell them upfront. Sometimes it’s a deal breaker so I like to get it out of the way before anyone starts having feelings.

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I waited 6 months… to introduce my bf to my daughter

I tell them right away!

I usually tell them first.

Right from the start

Ya that should be your number 1 point

When would you want him to tell you about his kids?

I think it’s best to bring it up sooner rather than later. Some people aren’t looking to have a ready made family, and they should be given the option to decide whether they want that or not before they develop feelings.

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Right away, dont wait.

Immediately but please wait a bit to introduce someone.

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