Who should pay the babysitter?

My husband and I are going away for my cousin’s wedding. We can’t take the kids (they weren’t invited). My mother in law is watching them overnight but asked if I could get her some help for a few hours since she’ll be with them overnight. I got a sitter to come to help her with baths, dinner, and bedtime (coming at 3/4 staying until 9). My question is… who should be responsible for paying for the sitter? Me or my MIL? Let me say I’m willing to do it, but I think she should be able to handle the kids without help (my mother had taken my kids for long weekends on occasion with no issue). Advice, please? TIA

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Sounds like the babysitter would be doing everything anyway… id pay for one and tell MIL not to worry about it

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I’m confused??? Are they your kids??? If so, then yes, you pay the sitter. Maybe your MIL can just come visit them at your house and they just stay with the sitter.

Uhh not your mother in laws kids. Shes already watching them for you. If she needs some help pay up. Or pay someone to watch them all weekend …

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You, they are your kids.

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You.
Your trip. Your kids.

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You should pay. Better she is asking for a bit of help. We all know kids go through rowdy stages… Maybe she hasn’t been feeling herself & knows she can’t chase after them. There are so many things it could be. Have a conversation & make sure all is well.

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What A Question!!! I’ll tell you!!! Entitled!!!

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That’s all you sister :wink:

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I can’t believe this is an actual question YOU!!

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I’d have someone else watch them if she can’t handle the full responsibility of it.

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You got the sitter so you would pay. If your MIL got the sitter then she would pay.

It’s your responsibility to cover the costs for the babysitter. If your MIL needs the help then u must get it for her. After all she is watching your kids, & maybe it’s stressful for her.

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I also agree with melissa^

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You. They are your kids.

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Your kids weren’t invited???

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I’m just going to say wow! You really asked thde question!

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Your kids…you pay. Grandmas should not be the only ones you depend on to watch your kids. If she needs help and is willing to help you for the majority of the time and tells you she needs help then get her help. You should not compare grandmas to each other. I can’t believe you even have of ask this question.

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Some of you are rude as hell she was asking for advice. Yeah they her children but the children’s gramma… I wouldn’t ask her I’d pay the babysitter…

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All you and you should be thankful she’s watching them! Maybe it’s overloading for her to do all of that and needs some help ! I watch my grandchildren all the time and luckily I have my husband to help me not as young as I used to be. Help is nice !!