Would I be a horrible mother if I cancled my sons birthday party?

My son is about to turn 2. He doesn’t go to daycare, and where I do take him to places that he can socialize with other kids, I don’t have to a lot of mom friends, and therefore, I have almost no one to invite, which I find incredibly embarrassing… I also work fulltime from home, and am in school full time, while also taking care of my son full time. Where I do try to keep my house picked up and orderly, it is far from presentable to host a party… my husband is always a way for work, (where he makes no money, and I pay for everything, but that’s another story)), and when he is home helps with almost nothing, so I am left to do it all. I am at the point where his party is in 2 weeks, there is virtually no one coming, and I don’t want the stress of having to plan it all, cook, and clean, and then host it, all by myself… I already beyond stressed with school (future nurse), but I feel like if I cancel it, I am a horrible mother, plus I won’t hear the end of it from my husband. I just want to cry, and don’t know what to do.

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spend the day with your son and make it special just for you guys. maybe see if husband can take a sick day at work that day.

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I’ve given up on parties because of the same reason

Honestly my kids (twins) last party was just family and swimming they said it was the best birthday ever.

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Not at all. My daughter is 7 and we just plan a small special thing to do with her on or for her birthday.

CHUCK. E. CHEESE but only if u don’t got beef with other neighborhood moms :joy::joy: #TheyBeFighting

Ask your husband to help you.

I would just get him a cupcake n a candle n sing to him yourself. He doesn’t need a big party, just a party with mommy!

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They will remember the time spent with you more than a crazy party I say dont feel guilty for canceling enjoy the day with ice cream or something :slight_smile:

I just want to say… don’t feel bad!!! Your not horrible… I have 3 boys… ages 3, 6, 7 … we did a party for my 7 year old in kindergarden, and grade 1 and will do one grade 2,… my 6 yr old… his birthday is in summer, and we do something fun, and dinner and cake and gifts with family… this yr we will do a party as more friends… my 3 yr old… hasn’t had a party at all, we do dinner, fun game, movie night, anything really with our family and they don’t complain , nor really care. they are still getting their “day” we decorate the night before so when they wake up they have a banner, streamers, balloons, all that fun sutff

Your son is only 2 and he for sure won’t remember it either way! Do what you want and what you’re comfortable with. Get him a small cake and celebrate as a family!!

Cancel it… do something as a family that your son enjoys

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They dont remember parties that young. Its fine to cancel. And since your broke ass husband doesnt make any decent money apparently but is gone alot, he can butt out.

He’s only 2have amommy day with him and enjoy gethim something special

Just do a little celebration like a family dinner with immediate family, cake, and gifts. That’s how we do it!

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Take him to the park or somewhere where he likes it. You don’t have to throw a party, he is too small to care for this things yet

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A bowling alley is easy. Then you don’t have to cook or clean. I think where I’m at we paid 7 dollars per kid.

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Do a dinner out somewhere kid friendly and invite people.

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They dont need parties at this age. I did one for my daughters first bday and I will not be doing it again. Its so overwhelming when youre one person

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It’s not about how many people you have around you, it’s about having the right people around you. And sometimes even the smallest of things is enough to make a young child happy. Don’t feel the need to go all out and exhaust yourself.

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