Would it be exessive to not give my daughter Christmas presents because of her behavior?

How “excessive” of a punishment is not giving your child anything for christmas because of their horrible behavior? My child has been acting out ridiculously since her sister was born & since starting school. It has gotten so out of hand we have an appointment set in Jan with a psychiatrist to try to find out if there is some underlying issue that is causing this behavior. She started school in Aug in an all-day Kindergarten program. Well, because of 30-an hr long fits after lunch, she’s been reduced to half days. She would just sit in the classroom, screaming & crying on the top of her lungs. The school isn’t allowed to remove a child forcibly, so the class would just be disrupted until she was done or someone picked her up. At home, she can throw a fit like that easily for 2+ hrs. Over literally anything. Today’s 2 hr fit that resulted in half of her toys being “thrown away” (they’re in my trunk until further notice) was because I wouldn’t turn on a show in the living room for her. I told her she could just watch something with us in the room or nothing because I am super sick & didn’t want to have to get up just for that. Anyways, I’m just so overwhelmed and trying to find ways to make her understand that none of this is okay. I don’t feel right giving her her Christmas presents with how she’s been acting and with getting progressively worse. What would you guys do in this situation with Christmas a day away?

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Id let her open them and then take them away.

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Unsure… maybe minimal gifts with a lengthy note from Santa about behavior?

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Yep. Doing too much. Especially since you don’t know if there’s something going on with her yet or not. That would be horrible to punish her for something she can’t control or help.
I would never punish my kid through a holiday.

Be firm & consistent when punishing though.

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Have you not considered she may actually have issues, or that she isnt adjusting well to a new baby. Yes its excessive to take a childs christmas away. Try actually talking to her. Tell her that the way shes acting is not okay and that it makes you upset.

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It may not be her fault. Please don’t punish and take away Christmas. It will cause more resentment and this may be something that is not just bad behavior. Good luck with the therapy. That is awesome. And merry [email protected]

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sounds like you also need therapy and parenting classes

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It’s your choice your the parent. But I personally would still give her Christmas. I now have 3 kids and when I had my second my child flipped but got use to it and a routine and I included her in everything had her help hold baby etc. did one on one time with her while baby slept. I wish you luck. It will get easier then I had to do it all over again with two kids an now a 4 month old baby.

You can’t punish a disability out of a kid. Imagine what you will feel like if there is something else going on and you did that to her. I know because I have been there.

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Please give her Christmas.

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Yes that would be excessive… especially if you think there may be underlying issues. That wouldn’t be her fault.

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Okay so let’s rock this child’s world by putting them in full time school (did they attend any daycare or pre-k prior) or and hey you have a new sister which she prob gets all the attention. Instead of adapting and understanding a child’s behavior we are going to punish with negative reinforcement instead of setting dates aside for mommy and me Time with the first born & now we want to take Xmas away … JESUS PEOPLE :unamused: why don’t you spend some time with the one that is having a tough time adapting to the change by doing movie or lunch dates with you and that child. They went 5 years almost with no sis or bro and then boom change… go ahead and cancel Christmas because that makes sense while they watch gifts given to the baby :angry:

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She’s adjusting. Give her grace and please don’t take away Christmas for her! Kids that little are looking for attention and love in the most unloving ways. That’s when we need to love them more and give them grace. My son is in the same boat but I would never not give him a Christmas. They’re children and giving them nothing would cause major stress and they don’t know how to process something like that. :disappointed:

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Theres got to be more behind this then just bad behavior, I dont think taking away Christmas is the way to go about it. Definitely see a doctor and get the poor kid help.

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I don’t care how bad my kids have been all year, I wouldn’t keep Christmas from them.

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Reduce the amount of gifts if you have bought excessively… But please your daughter has a problem and does need professional help and wait until u get that to see what they recommend.

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Give her a couple from mom and dad because you love her but skip Santa if she believes! Hope she gets better

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Give Christmas and work on positive reinforcement. Sounds like adjusting isn’t easy for her. Great idea with the shrink. :slight_smile: Hang in there! You got this!

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Maybe let her earn them one at a time when she has good behavior?

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She’s five? Give her her gifts. She sounds jealous of the new baby. Be patient and spend time with her

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