My husband sister has a 1 year old and is going through a divorce. I want to get him the cutest Gucci shoes. He and I are doing well enough to afford it with no kids of our own. His sister is going through an expensive divorce. He told me to return the shoes because it’s not right to gift the boy with a gift his own parents may not be able to afford themselves. And it’s “not right” showing them up. I don’t mind. I thought they were cute. We’re okay with it. Is he right? Will it make her feel bad?
If shes struggling financially it would be way to much
I personally don’t think a 1 year old needs Gucci shoes.
It’s so superficial buy them what they need
Ask your sister in law if you can give them to him. That way, there are no hard feelings from anyone.
Return the shoes. If only you could buy grace.
Return the shoes take him out to arcade etc the whole family
Return the shoes and use the money for a grocery gift card for her.
Offer her the money to help her in any way she needs it.
It’s a nice gesture, but the last thing she needs right now is a reminder that other people can do things for her kid that she cant do.
Gucci shoes??? Really??? How stupid is that!!
We all go thru struggles and honestly, sometimes the only time my kid can get expensive things is when they are gifted by family. Not saying a 1 year old needs Gucci shoes… my 1 year old wouldn’t even keep shoes on without throwing them thru the store.
Maybe she could use something practical, especially if she’s going thru a divorce. The husband is right, return them.
It would make me feel bad. Please don’t.
Maybe just ask her, like omg I seen the cutest little shoes would you care if I got them for him and see what she says.
I think you should ask her first in private so as not to offend.Everyone is different she may or may not be offended by the offer.
I’d go for something more practical, or simply ask her what the child needs, you could even tell her about how much you wish to spend in order to get idea.
Ask her if it’s ok. If she takes offense or gets upset then take them back. If she’s ok with it then give them to him
A person experiencing a divorce will never care about how cute a shoe or an outfit will look on their child. they will be more concern with their future how they will cope with their broken family.
As a mother who has been in this situation…I would return the shoes and ask her what the child actually needs.