Would it make me bitter to request my ex has no contact without daughter after what he did to her?

Hi, so I would just like some opinions of other Mommas. I would like to start with I’m currently going through a nasty divorce with my daughter’s father. Well, in the midst of all this at four months old, he broke our daughter’s femur bone and can’t explain how it happened to mind you. She was four months old. I had no knowledge of what he had done because she was in his care at the time I was not home. We have been to Family Court, and he has been found guilty of severe child abuse and neglect but is now appealing the decision. He was awarded supervised visitation. My question is, if I request no contact, instead, would that make me bitter and be more harmful to my daughter? He has not done anything for her in a year and a half and has seen her supervised three times for 2 hours each time. I feel like he shouldn’t be given a chance to cause her any more pain, whether it be physical, mental, or emotional.

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I wouldn’t allow him anywhere near her. 4 month olds don’t break bones

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When it comes to something like this. It’s protecting your child. Regardless if it can be seen as bitter or if you happen to also be bitter which quite frankly you have a right to be. I wouldn’t allow him anywhere near the child.

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WOW! I cant believe the courts didnt terminate his rights then & there.
I would NOT EVER send my child back, not even with supervision. I personally would use every dollar to make sure he never had a chance to see her again…Just my personal thoughts.

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You MUST protect your child!!

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Bitter?.. No. Keeping your daughter’s best interest in mind?.. Yes!

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No not bitter at all. That man harmed your child… I’d never allow him to be unsupervised for freaking sure… like if they ever tried to allow that then I’d be like NOPE

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I would fight for her life. Keep her as far away as possible. She doesn’t need him and someday when she grows up she will be proud of you for doing whags right for her. Keep her safe, that is your priority as her mother.

Screw him. He shouldn’t even be granted visitation at all.

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I wouldn’t let him near my child…

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NO!!! not bitter!!! Fight for your girl.

No contact protect your daughter

Nooooope. He’d be nowhere near my kids, EVER.

Keep her away from him! That’s not bitterness that’s protecting your daughter. I’m sorry this happened to her.

i dont understand how a person that has been found guilty of child abuse wd be allowed to have contact with ANY child EVER! he should be in jail! ur not bitter, ur protecting ur child which is what a good mother will do. im done with these idiot judges allowing contact after that only to have nothing to say after that same child is dead!

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Absolutely not! He lost any rights to your child after what he did! You keep your child safe mama!

I agree with you. Take the rights away and get full custody.

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Im sorry but he wouldn’t be no where my child… supervised or not…

If he was awarded supervised visits then that’s what you have to do. Not complying may cause you to lose custody and him to get custody.

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Protect your baby

No contact should of been put in place when the incident occurred

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Not Bitter At ALL…you need to protect her!!! Hes a monster with a rage inside,he cant control!! Importantly, keep all Court documents
…(the broken bone info) in a SAFE location…lock box at bank…or metal box at home…an if the need arises, its prove of his actions an POLICE can help you!!