Would you allow someone that openly admits to hating you, around your kids?

My oldest is six and picks up on her comments. Back Story: My mother in law has disliked me since day one, and it has escalated lately. It has always been constant rude remarks and passive-aggressive comments about me to my husband and kids, causing fights between my husband and I when our holiday or birthday or weekend plans for the kids don’t line up with what she envisioned, crying and throwing a fit when she doesn’t get her way because my husband is “choosing me over her.” Another biggie? Calling my husband to start an argument MINUTES after I gave birth to our second child about how I’m being “mean to her” by having her wait to meet the baby until after the hospital’s MANDATORY skin to skin time… I really don’t understand because I have always tried to include her, I send her pics of the kids, but I’m still just a nasty person apparently. Long story short: Last night she told my husband she wants to see her grandkids but does not want to see me because she “hates” me, I honestly don’t really want someone that feels so negatively about me around MY children. My husband gets it but also has the “but it’s my mom” mentality. Advice???

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well it should have rules she can see the children without seeing you but in turn she cannot speak bad about you in front of the children if she does she doesn’t need to see them.

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My mil turned into a total b** after his dad passed away. My husband stuck thru it for a little. It came all to head when she said my oldest wouldn’t amount to anything because she was raised by a single mom(meaning me) he said he was done. He was the last kid to stick around and take care of her. It’s been 6 years and our life is soo much less drama and turmoil.

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Nope cant see the kids. What a b*itch hope ur hubby tells her where to go.

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Yeah Screw Her the old :duck: :100:

Some people just don’t like you no big deal but work out if you are doing it to be nasty or really are concerned about your kids welfare

Toxic. That’s a nope from me. My children would never be allowed around someone so bitter, resentful and childish. She needs to grow up, show you some respect and then y’all can discuss it.
Until then she can go be bitter by herself. Your children aren’t missing out on anything.

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Disgusting. Tell you hubby he can sleep in a bed with his mommy instead of you. See how long that mommy first mentality lasts.

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No, I can’t say I would want my children around a person like that. I’m sorry your husband doesn’t stand up for you and demand better from his mother. To me, the only solution for g’ma time is supervised time.

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F that bitch. She is toxic. She don’t deserve to be around your kiddos especially after openly admitting that she hates you. If she hates you then she hates your kids. They don’t need to be around her.

She sounds like a narcissist. It is okay to cut toxic people out of your life even if they are family.

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Hell no. She wouldn’t be seeing my kids plain & simple. You can’t respect me, bye bye now! how long until she decides your kids are too much like you? Or look like you? And starts picking on them because of it?

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She should be allowed to see the kids whether you guys get along or not. The kids didnt ask to be brought in the middle of adult children not getting along🤦‍♀️an the father shouldnt be made to chose between you an HIS mother.

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Hell no! And this was made very clear to my mother in law we didn’t get along for a couple years till my husband and I got married and he had to say things to her multiple times. Finally she got the hint. My husbands thinking is the same as mine, if you can’t respect me/ or even him no matter which side of the family it’s on then you won’t be involved in ours lives, simple as that. We will not allow our children to watch someone or be around someone who disrespects either of us

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If its negatively impacting the kids it’s a no

I would have a family meeting, he needs to make it clear that mistreatment of you will not be tolerated. And if she cant deal with being kind and putting aside differences than she doesnt get to be family.

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Two years later without speaking to the toxic MIL & his family. We also now have our 3rd bAby together. Happy home without any of them.

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My boyfriends dad told my him when we split up for 3 months that if we got back together he didn’t want to be around me too chicken :poop: to say it to me and now I’m pregnant and he’s eating his words but I’ve told my boyfriend he doesn’t want to be around me he is not to be around my child

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It took my husband around 30 years to realize she was playing him.

It doesn’t matter how she feels about you - if she loves her grandchildren she will be civili and kind to their mother. Period. Just like you, because you love your husband, will be kind and civil to her. She doesn’t have to be your best friend, she has to be polite. And it’s your husband’s job to lay that out for her, not yours. If she wants to see your children, you are a package deal and she will be kind. Or she can expect to spend the end of her life alone.

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