One user is flocking to Reddit for advice after they refused to let their sister into their house after she made them miss their own daughter’s birth.
“Frankly I don’t know if I’m being an a**hole. Family seems to think I am so just want to know what others here think. My sister (25f) was going to meet her dad (not my dad by the way) for the first time in almost 18/19 yrs and she was really nervous.”
The OP (Original User) reveals how while they were on the road headed to over, their wife called to let her know she was in labor.
“She asked me to go with her for support. He was staying at some hotel about 30 mins away and the whole ride over there, my sister had my phone to give me directions. My wife was calling me because she’d gone into labor. Then my MIL was calling me too. My sister put my phone on do not disturb without me knowing and erased the notifications.”
The OP went on to say how they didn’t realize what had happened until almost two hours later.
“I didn’t even realize it until after we were leaving from having lunch with him an hour and a half later that she’d been calling me. All my sister told me was I had a missed call (more like dozens).”
And when the OP found out what had really happened, they were furious.
“When I found out I was yelling at her the whole ride to the hospital. She apologized many times. Her only excuse was this was a big emotional moment for her meeting her dad and she was scared doing it alone knowing how her anxiety is. This was the only time they’d have to see each since he was leaving in a few days and wouldn’t be back for months. I really couldn’t believe it.”
“By the time we got there, my daughter had already been born a half hour. Don’t get me wrong I was so happy to know my daughter and wife were okay but I was also devastated to have missed the birth of my first child. Couldn’t look at my sister, all I told her was to get an Uber to take her home because I didn’t want her near me right now.”
“My daughter is almost 4 weeks old and almost everyone (vaccinated) has come to see her. Last weekend my parents came over with my sister in the car but I said I don’t want her in my home right now. They got mad and left early. I keep hearing it from my family that I’m being completely unfair treating my sister like an outcast by not letting her in my home. But I’m just still angry at her right now and don’t think I have it in me to be in her presence. AITA?”
One user commented: “What your sister did was plain selfish, manipulative and evil OP. Maybe you will be able to find it in your heart to forgive her one day but if it were me id never be able to fully come back from that.”
While another said: “Did she know what was happening? What if it became an emergency? I mean maybe you [would] need to take [a] call at least. I [don’t] think ppl realize the severity of this. Your wife could have been dying and your sister just went ‘nah my stuff that can easily be delayed is more important.’ It would [take] A LOT for me to ever want a relationship with that sister again. You can never trust her again.”
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With a background in the creative and educational fields, Amelia Finefrock is freelance writer, singer-songwriter and nanny based in Chicago.
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