My Boyfriend Gets Mad at Me for Buying My Daughter More Things for Christmas Than His: Am I Wrong?

A mom writes in asking for advice after her boyfriend got mad at her for buying her daughter from a previous relationship more Christmas present than his daughter from a previous relationship. The mom said she doesn’t think it’s her responsibility to check off his daughter’s Christmas list. Now she’s asking if she’s wrong for thinking that way?

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A member of the community asks:

“My on-again and off-again boyfriend of five years got mad at me last year for buying and getting more presents for my daughter (a child from a previous relationship and not his biologically) for Christmas. Am I wrong for saying it’s not my responsibility, and that their mother should have done it? And that I shouldn’t have to financially support his whole family and saying I’m not going to do it again this year?”

– Mamas Uncut Community Member

Community Advice for This Mom Who Doesn’t Want to Be Responsible for Her Boyfriend’s Daughter’s Christmas List

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A lot of moms seem to be on the fence with this one. While many think the mom shouldn’t be held responsible for another child’s wish list, especially since they aren’t married, others wonder if the daughters are opening up gifts in front of each other, which changes things.

One commenter wrote, “If he doesn’t buy for yours and he’s on and off again I don’t see why you need to! He buys for his daughter and you buy for yours until you guys are actually committed for good! If you guys are confused or not serious enough to commit then no need for extra stress over Christmas!”

However, another mom wrote, “If both kids live in the home it’s really not right to do more for one. You should treat them the same.”

And one person added, “You should discuss this with your boyfriend, come up with a plan that provides all of the kids the things that you want them to have. Indulge your own child at another time if you want to but why put the kids in a position where they feel that one is valued more than another.”

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