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My 11-month-old has a cold what can I do to help her feel better?

So, in my daughter’s entire 11-month life, she has NEVER been sick. I’m a major neat freak when it comes to my daughter, therefore, no sickness. No cold, nothing. Well, now she has a cold. I was wondering if any of you mamas could help me with things to make her feel better. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous. Advertisements

My neighbors randomly stopped talking to us: Shoudl I ask why?

So I just had a house built last year and the neighbors that moved in across from us are odd. We talked to them once and our kids liked to play together. But one day my six year old had a meltdown and didn’t want to listen to what she said. This was like a year ago. It has never happened since. But the neighbors refuse to look at us and will not even acknowledge us if we say hi. Like if I am outside they will go inside. Should I confront them and ask what happened and why they are acting this way? Or would it be best to leave it alone. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous. Advertisements

Needing discipline ideas for my 8-year-old

Okay, mamas. I have an almost eight year old son. He’s got some behavioral issues. I’m currently caught in the “monkey see monkey do” issue. I am a yeller. And it seems that that has rubbed off on my son. He’s getting angry tones of voices when frustrated, yelling at other students, and just being rude. I’m not above spanking some butt, but that worries me that he will eventually have an issue with keeping his hands to himself. I’m just kinda lost at how to handle this. I’m doing my best to keep stern voices but not raising my voice. I know it takes some time to reverse this, but I’m looking for some discipline that will stick. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous. Advertisements

My husband is not my sons bioligical father but wants to be: What should I do?

So, when my son was about three months old, my husband and I filled out paperwork so he could be on his birth certificate (there was no father listed). Well apparently that paperwork never went through, and we were JUST told that we have to go to court so he could adopt him since he isn’t biologically his. Well, we were talking to a caseworker, and they said that they would have to serve his bio dad papers stating that they have to do a DNA test to prove he’s the bio dad (obviously) and then he signs paperwork stating that he wants to terminate his parental rights. Which he was COMPLETELY willing to do when my son was a baby. Well, I’ve been thinking more and more about it, and I’ve pushed myself into this state of panic because what if he gets served these papers and gets pissed off enough to fight me for like partial custody or want to see my son or something. I don’t want anything from him at all, no money, no support or anything, my husband has been his dad from the very beginning (one-month-old). All I want is his signature so I …

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My friends child is being bullied: What should we do?

My friend’s daughter started middle school in a new town this year. The girls at her new school have been bullying her. Yesterday she came home wholly devastated. The girls told her a boy liked her and wrote fake notes asking her to be his girlfriend. When she went up to him and told him, she liked him too, and yes, she would be his girlfriend, everyone laughed at her and made fun of her for the rest of the day. She refused to go to school today, which I completely understand, and today they decided that she is going to be homeschooled. Has anyone been through bullying with their kids and have advice? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous. Advertisements

*NO BASHING* Sometimes I don’t know if I want to be a mother: Has anyone felt like this?

Does anyone else struggle with knowing if they want to be a mom or not? I have an 11-month-old boy; I love him. But sometimes I don’t want to be a mom; I wish I had my old life back (it wasn’t lavish or anything, I just had freedom). My son has been described as a “unicorn” baby; he sleeps 12 hrs a night, hardly ever cries, and is always happy! Yet I am still having a hard time, and would rather he play by himself than interact with him. When I try to interact with him, I lose interest so quickly; I am worried he isn’t getting enough stimulation and will fall behind. I don’t feel like I am a bad mom, but I don’t think I am a good mom. My husband works 12 hr shifts, so he is gone a lot. We moved to a new city while pregnant for his work, I know very few people here, and the family is multiple hrs away. I start work at the end of this month and I am very excited about my new job, but it is causing a lot of stress around childcare because of the atypical …

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How much should a 3-month-old eat?

Is 6 oz of formula too much for my almost 3 month old son? He is at 5 oz now and he still seems hungry after he finishes his bottle. I dont want to overfeed him but I also don’t want him to be hungry…any advice? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous. Advertisements

Tips on running shoes?

So I wanna have baby number 2, but before I do, I need to lose weight. So I wanna start running but not sure what brand shoes to buy. It seems like no matter what, I get the rip on the sides because I have wide feet. Any suggestions would be great. And also, do you think 30mins a day will be enough to lose weight or should I run more? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous. Advertisements

I’m a first time mom and scared I won’t be prepared for baby: Advice?

i’m expecting my first child. and i’m terrified. This baby was not planned, I was on the pill, but I still ended up pregnant. I am happy, but most days, I’m just full of worries. I’m 20. I feel like I won’t be a good parent, or I won’t have all those “mother instincts.” I am constantly worrying about everything. My boyfriend doesn’t seem to realize my frustrations or concerns, no matter how much I voice them. We aren’t financially in the greatest situation. But he is heavily against abortion, and in the beginning, I was against it too, but as I get farther along, everything becomes more real, and the more I see my baby and hear the heartbeat, I get scared. I have nothing for my child yet, and I do plan on having a baby shower, but I feel like no one will even show up. I’m so worried about not having the stuff I need for my baby or not being able to care for my child properly because I don’t know what to do. I don’t have a whole lot of kid experience, and next to zero baby experience. IDK I guess I just need …

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Any ideas to help with severe morning sickness?

I need some help!! I am pregnant with baby number 2 and morning sickness is really getting to me. I’m only 7 weeks pregnant and with my first one my morning sickness was so bad I lost 10lbs. I don’t want to go through that again. I have tried Ginger ale, peppermints, benedryl, bland diet, crackers, constantly having food in my stomach and it doesn’t help with nausea. Anyone have any old wives tales of what has worked for morning sickness. Help a momma out!!! Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous. Advertisements

My newborn will not sleep at night and my husband and I are exhausted: Advice?

My daughter is a week old. I had a C-section with her, and I’m still hurting and exhausted. My husband works all day and can’t keep his eyes open, either. We are at a loss. He’s had two kids before her, and she is honestly killing us. She will not sleep at night. No matter what we do, she won’t sleep unless she’s in bed WITH the US, and that is not okay for us, nor do we have the room. She sleeps all day, and it’s impossible to wake her up and keep her up. She will fall asleep in our arms, but as soon as we lay her down, she starts screaming and won’t stop. We have tried music, comforting sounds, sounds she is used to, rocking her, holding her for hours at night while she sleeps in our arms, rubbing her back and head, nothing helps. NOTHING. Any advice so we can sleep? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous. Advertisements

I am 3-months postpartum and I feel like my husband isn’t attracted to me: Advice?

Hi, I’m almost three months postpartum, and I don’t feel like my husband is attracted to me anymore. We’ve had problems in the past with him watching porn and things, and I feel like he’s started it up again, and now I don’t really think he finds my new mom bod attractive because of it. I’ve explained my feelings, and I told him that I felt insecure and that I don’t really like him watching porn. He tells me that he doesn’t anymore, but he freaks out anytime I get near his phone or anything. The other day I walked in front of him without any clothes on, and he didn’t even pay any attention when before he’d be all over me, and he doesn’t seem interested in taking showers with me anymore. We are still pretty sexually active, but I don’t think he actually is attracted to me anymore. I need advice, am I just overthinking, is it really a big deal even if he is watching porn, how can I seem more attractive? P.s he is a great father; it’s just I don’t feel that he really finds me attractive, and I feel he would rather look at …

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Flu and whooping cough vaccine during pregnancy?

32 weeks pregnant and my doctor has recommended me to get a flu and whooping cough vaccine. I have never had the flu shot before and I’m kinda nervous. What are your thoughts/opinions on the flu shot? Did you have any negative side effects from it? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous. Advertisements

My husbands ex isn’t being honest with us about their daughter: Advice?

Need some advice. How are we supposed to deal with a baby mama that doesn’t inform the father of ANYTHING & makes up any little excuse to make it seem like we’re the problem ? We are very civil & respectful & we let her know everything that goes on when we have our 3 yr old. For ex: she’s been peeing herself A LOT lately & she’s fully potty trained (this has never happened before) we discuss it with BM & she makes an excuse. We just got her pull-ups for night time. She said, “oh, I have some of these at mommy’s house too.” Another ex: she choked her mother, she mentioned it to us & we have no idea where that came from because she has never done it to any of herself or us (somehow it’s still our fault). Every time we mention something she does over here, she says it hasn’t happened with her, but the baby girl tells us otherwise & we know better as well. BM swears she takes dad’s opinion very seriously when it comes to our 3 yr old & she doesn’t at all! We haven’t done anything different, nor has …

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Is it normal later in pregnancy for baby not to be so active?

Hello, all mummas. Currently 32 weeks pregnant with #2. I went into hospital yesterday for decreased movements after not feeling much over a few days. All was good baby was very active once in. They did monitoring and a scan. But even today, I’m noticing I’m still not feeling baby like I should? I never really went through this with my first that I can remember (was almost four years ago!) Is it normal for a baby to just not be active some days? TIA. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous. Advertisements

I need tips on weaning my 11-month-old from breastfeeding

My daughter is 6 months old on the 11th. I’m a stay at home mom. She’s been breastfeed since birth. And we just start giving her once a day one tablespoon of rice cereal (as per doctors’ orders). Anyways in the past week, even before the cereal was introduced I’ve noticed she’s been extremely boob clingy. I can’t wear shirts in front of her that show anything off because she then tries to gnaw at me till I give in and give her a boob. If I get dressed in front of her, she loses her mind and wants my boob. If my husband tries to take “a feel” while I’m walking by him or something, she starts screaming and crying. I can barely even hold her without her wanting my boob. I normally wear big sweaters, so she doesn’t see them or smell them if that makes sense. But the weird thing is when she does all this. She doesn’t eat. She just holds my nipple in her mouth, and either keeps trying to play with her toys while my nipple is in her mouth (very painful), or she just lays there and wraps her arms around the rest …

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How can I get my 6-month-old less attached to breastfeeding?

My daughter is 6 months old on the 11th. I’m a stay at home mom. She’s been breastfeed since birth. And we just start giving her once a day one tablespoon of rice cereal (as per doctors’ orders). Anyways in the past week, even before the cereal was introduced I’ve noticed she’s been extremely boob clingy. I can’t wear shirts in front of her that show anything off because she then tries to gnaw at me till I give in and give her a boob. If I get dressed in front of her, she loses her mind and wants my boob. If my husband tries to take “a feel” while I’m walking by him or something, she starts screaming and crying. I can barely even hold her without her wanting my boob. I normally wear big sweaters, so she doesn’t see them or smell them if that makes sense. But the weird thing is when she does all this. She doesn’t eat. She just holds my nipple in her mouth, and either keeps trying to play with her toys while my nipple is in her mouth (very painful), or she just lays there and wraps her arms around the rest …

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My mom and I have a rocky relationship and I don’t know what to do anymore: Advice?

My mom and I have a tough relationship. She loves me more than anything but has many of her own demons she has not dealt with (and is not interested in dealing with). She is going through a tough time in her life, and I am trying to be there for her, but it’s hard on me. She says that my kids and I are her life and her only source of happiness, which is honestly a lot of pressure. She stresses me out when she’s around and is always making comments to start an argument. I think she feels comfortable and is used to it when we argue (as weird as it sounds). It’s exhausting always having to keep my mouth shut and ignore her actions. I have small children and am currently pregnant, so my days are busy! My goal is to stay calm and have a happy household, but it’s not easy when she’s always calling me or texting me with her drama. She doesn’t respect boundaries. If I don’t answer her calls, she will call and text my husband now, which is insane. She is caught up in her own pain; she has no idea what …

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My boyfriend rages during video games and it scares me: Advice?

I am at a loss. I’ve been with my boyfriend and father of our two children for almost nine years now. He gave me major trust issues at the beginning of our relationship because he constantly cheated on me. But within the past couple of years, we had a great communication, and he finally changed his ways. It’s just within the past six months; it’s been rocky. He works, and I’m a stay at home mom for our kids. He told me he’s getting stressed out from working. And I even suggested going back to work, but he won’t let me do that. And he’s just been very angry. Lately, his hobby is playing video games. He rages pretty bad on that game to the point where he broke a few controllers, accidentally broke the tv. He yells and curses. It’s kind of scary sometimes. And I feel like I have to beg him to spend time with his kids and me when he’s not working. So after a while, I just quit asking, because he said we always argue about the same thing. Am I asking too much of him?? What should I do? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was …

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My mom and I have parenting differences: I need advice

Hi, so I’ve noticed it for quite a while but never had the energy to bring it up because it would start a humongous fight, but my mom is still young, and because of that, still pretty into drama. I haven’t brought it up because of this, and because if I did, it would start a huge fight that would probably make my family not want anything to do with me. Anyway, my mom is super distant with my son and doesn’t interact with him at all when we are over, but she is always all over and hugging on and talking to my sister’s daughter. They are the same age, and you can tell that she doesn’t put in the same care with my son. My son will try to talk to her or play with her, and she ignores him, and she is super strict with just him. She also is pushing really hard for me to stop breastfeeding since my sister has stopped but never said a word about it until she did even though she was planning on going longer. She judges my mothering skills hard, as well. I do not like to spank my son …

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I am pregnant with my 6th child and don’t know what to do

I’m pregnant with my 6th child and don’t know what to do. So I recently found out I was pregnant. We take precautions to avoid pregnancy, so it was definitely a surprise. I had talked to my husband, and we had decided it would be best not to have the baby. Well, when I went in, I found out I was 18 weeks, and When they told me that I knew there was no way I would be able to do that. We are not in a position to have another baby right now. Things are very tight as it is. Could we make it work? I’m sure we could. When I brought up adoption to my husband, he was downright against it. He says if we’re going to have the baby, we’re going to keep the baby. I don’t even know how I’d live with myself already having five children and giving the 6th one up for adoption. I’m terrified. I’m already stretched so thin between my other 5, and keeping up with the house and working. I don’t know where I’ll pull the strength or energy or finances for another one. One thing is for sure after this …

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My baby is measuring small: Advice?

So I’m 20 week’s pregnant, and I just got back from my ultrasound! Our beautiful daughter is gonna be a big sister to a beautiful little baby girl! So blessed! Her Heartbeat, and everything is Healthy! She got all ten fingers and toes! But I’m nervous now. They just put me in a high-risk pregnancy. She is very small. She is in the 1 percent tile. She is supposed to be in the 10th percent tile. So now we have to go see a high-risk OBGYN along with my normal OBGYN.Has anyone else had this problem with their baby being smaller than they are supposed to be? This is my 3rd pregnancy. 1st went great! 2nd had a miscarriage. This is my 3rd. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous. Advertisements

How can I wean my 16-month-old from the bottle?

Tips on how to get a baby off the bottle without acting or feeling like the cruelest person in the world!!?? Son is 16 months old and has a bottle during the nap and at night. I have tried letting him cry it out, but I always give in. He wakes up to drink probably two full bottles a night. He’s always drunk all night. He breastfed all night till he was one n then bottle with vitamin D till now. Sooooo any tips, or should I just continue on letting him have it till he’s grown!!? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous. Advertisements