Child Health

My sons dad constantly talks bad about me to our son: Advice?

My 12-year-old lives with his dad by his own choice his dad talks bad about me to him my son seems to act like his dad when we got divorced we put 50/50 custody so what do I do my don’t want to come over because his dad hates my husband of 2 years, so he brainwashes my son he tells me he’s old enough to say where he wants to go he has always used my son against me in fights he would plan a vacation with his current family them ask me for a 100 or more for my son what should I do I hate him I hate that he puts my son in the middle of adult business Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My 13-year-old daughter refuses to sleep in her room: Advice?

I can’t get my 13-year-old daughter to sleep in her room she will only sleep on my couch in the living room I’m at my wit’s end, and when I ask her why she always says it’s too hot or she doesn’t like sleeping in there I keep my house at 71 degrees, and I have no clue what could be causing it. I thought it would be just a phase but if not she will not sleep in her room alone but when she has friends over they sleep in there do you think I should have her checked for separation anxiety or does anyone else have this issue Any help would be appreciated. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Should I be concerned with my daugthers beahvior?

My daughter will turn 3 July of this year. She and I have always given each other pecks on the cheek or lip, but that’s it, and she’s seen her father, and I give each other a quick peck on the lips, but that’s it. Recently, she’s begun trying to grab me in a weird way and kiss me with her mouth open, like French kissing, and she’s very insistent about it. She puts her hands on my face, tilts her head, acts like an adult would. I don’t know how seeing somebody kiss on tv could even show her to behave exactly this way. This is the only weird behavior she’s had, and she is only around her father, who she adores and doesn’t act uncomfortable with at all. I’m scared, and I just don’t know what to think…opinions? Had this happened to anybody? Do you think it’s possible she saw French kissing on television? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My 20-month-old doesn’t talk much: Should I be concerned?

Am I overthinking it? I have a 20month old whose very quiet, shes extremely active but doesn’t like to talk, she will say a word when u least expect it, and when you try to make her say it again she will just smile and cover her face? Am I worried about nothing that she doesn’t speak as most kids do? Do I need to see a doctor? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My 7-year-old stole from Walmart: What should I do?

I need honest advice and please no rudeness. I’m at my wits end with my 7-year-old daughter. She has always stolen things from her brother and sister, but she took it to another level and stole from Walmart the other day when I wasn’t looking and got caught at school with the item she stole. She has faced the consequences over and over for stealing, being disrespectful to adults, throwing tantrums, you name it. And we have tried everything it seems. Positive reinforcement, positive incentives, punishment by grounding, taking things away, behavior therapy…..meds….and it she just continues to be out of control and steal and constantly lie. Then she throws a fit when she’s caught and gets in trouble as if she is the one being done wrong has anyone else faced these issues with their child? My mum also isn’t the fondest of the idea due to the reasons that we split, and she doesn’t want it all to happen again, so that is another battle that I have on my hands. I feel everyone wouldn’t bet against us, and our own issues already.. but the hardest person I’d have to go against is my mum. I can’t do …

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I can wean my daughter off the bottle completely?

I need advice please (no bashing)! I am a first-time mom of a beautiful 18-month-old! She takes a sippy cup with her meals and while at daycare but needs a bottle for the ride home from daycare and before bed. How can I wean her off these bottles for good?? Also, looking for suggestions on how to get rid of the vinyl that she needs to fall asleep?? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

How can I get my 1-year-old to stop biting?

So I’m having a BIG issue with my 1-year-old son. He has the worst habit of biting my 3-year-old daughter. I’m at my wits end with it. He leaves bruises and even draws blood most of the time. I am a mother who believes in spankings so please no judgments. I’ve tried popping him in the mouth and telling him no biting. I’ve tried spanking. Time out. Idk what else to do. He knows he’s doing it because he’ll go hide after. He has never bit me or my husband. Just his sister. Please give me any advice on what I can do. Thanks. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

I think my 7-year-old has autism: Advice?

I am a mom of a seven-year-old boy. From a young age, he was displaying some red flags for autism, such as speech delay, sensitivity on textures, and shyness. We followed speech therapy, and his speech is very improved, although some pronunciation issues are still there. The sensitivity of textures passed on its own. He still struggles socially to make friends and does not find birthday parties easy. However, he has one friend in school and can play along well with other family friends kids. Over the years, I had him evaluated by a psychologist, speech therapists, and play therapists as well as by his pediatrician who did not evaluate them as autistic. I am somehow fixated at this idea that he is and every little behavior that he does I google it to conclude that he is autistic. I am driving myself crazy, and I wanted to have him re-evaluated, but my husband does not share my concerns. He says that he is a normal boy, and everyone is different, so he refuses to drag our son again to this evaluation process. How can I calm myself and stop thinking so negatively? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by …

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What to Do When Your Toddler Becomes Aggressive and Poorly Behaved at Home and School: Expert Amber Trueblood Shares Tips

What to Do When Your Toddler Becomes Aggressive and Poorly Behaved at Home and School: Expert Amber Trueblood Shares Tips

This is a guest post by author Amber Trueblood, MFT, MFA. She is the author of Stretch Marks and a mother-of-four. A Mamas Uncut Facebook fan writes in with a question. She has a 3-year-old son who has started getting into trouble at daycare a lot. He has become aggressive towards other kids and seems frustrated overall. He is also exhibiting signs of other behavioral issues at home, and this mom can’t find a way to improve the situation. She has tried punishment, she has tried positive reinforcement, but nothing seems to do the trick. Read this mom’s question, and Amber Trueblood’s response, below. “My 3-year-old son has been getting in trouble at daycare a lot. He hasn’t been listening, and he’s hitting and punching other kids…” Hey, mamas. So I decided to try something new with my 3-year-old. He has been getting in trouble at daycare a lot. He hasn’t been listening, and he’s hitting and punching other kids. He gets very frustrated very easily, and he doesn’t listen at home. He will just act like he doesn’t hear us, or if we ask him to do something, he tells us to do it instead. He back talks nonstop …

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Has anyones baby had a tumor on their retina?

Hello, not sure where to start my daughter is three she has been under the hospital since she was six months with one long-sighted and one short-sighted eye which caused her to turn her left eye off and has resulted in a turn in her eye we have done patchwork she wears glasses and was discussing her having an op to turn her eye out to look straight…. Well, yesterday they did a scan and had said she has a tumor at the back of her eye on the retina?? Now I am waiting for a specialist, but my question is has anyone been through this or has any idea on anything around this please xxxx thank you in advance Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My 1-year-old has been waking up and not going back to sleep every since he got sick: Advice?

My one-year-old was a beautiful sleeper. We would put him in the crib at night, and he would fall asleep on his own. He wouldn’t wake up till the next morning! This past month he got RSV, and now he will wake up at 2 am and won’t go back to bed unless we are holding him. He falls asleep on his own just fine, but when he wakes up in the middle of the night, he will scream and scream until we go and hold him. If we try to put him back after he has fallen asleep again, he screams more. I finally caved and put him into bed with me, which worked… but I don’t want him to get used to sleeping in our bed. I’m not sure what else to try. Crying it out hasn’t been working, he’s not hungry, so a bottle doesn’t help. He has a nuk and his blanket in the crib with him. The only other thing I could think of doing is putting a pillow in his crib for him to prop up on as he does with me. But he’s only one, and I don’t want him to get stuck …

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My friends 20-month-old doesn’t talk at all: Thoughts?

I have a friend with a 20-month-old, and the baby has 0 words. The baby is one of the happiest kids I’ve ever met, and when we stick to a routine, he has FLAWLESS DAYS. When he gets mad, tho or not his way, he pounds his head into things, and I really think that has to come down to communication. Her doctors for the baby and her family and I have been pushing her to get him tested and maybe speech therapy. She wants to wait till he is two or possibly 3 bc she wants to see if he will start to talk on his own Any recommendations. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My son is terrified to potty train: Please help!

I am a single young mom of toddlers, a boy three and a girl 2. my son has had gastrointestinal issues since birth, and his father and I travel 3 hours to a specialist at UC Davis hospital every three months trying new approaches to ease his pain. He’s already had a colonoscopy and an endoscopy, as well as many biopsies with little to no help. Unfortunately, because of this, he is TERRIFIED of the potty. The doctor said he might not be ready to potty train until his pain is gone or at least manageable. My son is currently in preschool, and we are lucky enough for the teachers and staff to understand and help us with his health issues. However, he will be 4 in June, and in every transitional kindergarten we have looked at, it is a requirement for him to be potty trained. Mother to mother, how do I get him to want to potty train? His dad has lacked on his end of teaching him to stand up to pee, and of course, I can’t really show him myself. Any help, please!!!! Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has …

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My 8-year-old has been waking up at night and is unable to fall back to sleep: Thoughts?

My 9-year-old daughter has recently taken to waking in the middle of the night and cannot go back to sleep. Some nights she is up till it’s light outside. She cries from frustration because she clearly wants to sleep. We have tried a calming bedtime routine, counting backward, praying, but from a sporadic few times, it has become every night. What do I do? Her daytime concentration is diminishing. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My daughter got a rash after drinking grape juice: Thoughts?

So yesterday I gave my daughter grape juice. Red grape. It had red dye 40 in it. She broke out in a horrible rash on her butt, and her cheeks broke out. Has anyone had a child with a similar reaction? The odd thing is she can drink red Koolaid and is fine. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My 6-year-old is struggling to go back to school after break: Advice?

Hi guys, so I have an issue I would love some feedback on. My son is 6 yrs old and in kindergarten. He went back to school this week after winter break and is all of a sudden having a hard time with it. We didn’t have a problem until recently. He will cry and tell me he doesn’t want to go, and this morning he had a mild panic attack. So I walked him in and talked to his teacher, asking her if there might be something going on, she said she hadn’t noticed anything. My issue is there is obviously something going on, but no one can tell me what it is. I have talked to my son, and he says he doesn’t like going because there aren’t any teachers there when I drop him off, which is not true, I’ve checked. I’m sort of at a loss, I feel bad dropping him off with tears in his eyes, but he has to go to school, I just don’t know what to do. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

We are getting our son tested for ADHD: What should we expect?

Due to reports from my 6yo son’s teacher, we are having him tested for ADHD. He has a hard time keeping his hands and feet to himself, along with not listening to redirection or simple instructions. He won’t stay in his seat and talks excessively. What are some?s I should ask the dr, what should I be prepared for? also, what are some tips or tricks to get him to behave better? I have grounded him, taken away electronics and all his toys, I have even set him at the kitchen table all evening with just books as punishment for his bad behavior. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

I recentley found out my daughter is cutting: Please help!

Please post anonymous, but recently I discovered my daughter cutting herself; we talked about, and I thought we got through it. I check her arms daily for a while, then let it be and went to max three days. I just checked literally a few mins ago, and she has done it again. I am so lost being a single mom with her being 11, almost 12, and a son just turned 8. I split time(weekends) with her father; he does not know about this. It is a touchy subject. We lost my mother in 2018, which was a huge loss. I am worried about her safety and at the same time worried about the effects of going to the hospital versus dr I am really just lost and worried. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Thoughts on cutting out red dye from a childs diet?

Any mammas cut out red dye 40 or gluten? I just read an article saying cutting out red color 40 will make your child calmer! And I get told to help my child’s eczema is to cut out gluten. How do I do such a thing!? Aren’t groceries with certain things cut out expensive!? I hate to be that person who doesn’t allow their child to have certain things, but my daughter is having major signs of ADHD! Her doctor won’t even blink an eye about it until she turns 6. I don’t wanna just run and diagnose her with anything, but I know another boy who just recently got diagnosed with it, and she has all the same symptoms he has. If you cut certain things out, how do you manage? Is food more expensive? Has it really helped? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My 15-month-old is purposely banging his head: Advice?

My Son is 15 months old, but he keeps purposely banging his head? And sometimes he hits it hard to the point a bruise or bump comes up instantly but he doesn’t cry it don’t seem to hurt him, so he goes back and does it again I don’t know what to do I’m scared in case he damages himself how can you stop a baby from banging there head?? I’ve tried telling him no, I’ve tried staying by his side constantly to the point I take him to the toilet with me, but he still manages to do… do you think I should take him doctors to see if he has anything wrong with him? He’s a normal, boisterous little boy very energetic on point with all milestones but it’s just this banging his head thing that has me worried.. xx Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.