A mom writes in asking for advice about her 4-year-old son and her son’s father. Her son’s father, who was involved in their lives for a time, is currently in jail. He has two years of his sentence remaining, and she says he plans to be involved when he is released. He talks to his son while in jail, but this mom has told her that his dad is “working.” She is wondering if lying to him about his father’s actual location is harmful. Should she tell her son where his father really is?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her son. She says her son, with whom she has “never really gotten along,” moved out “the second he turned 18.” She still loves him and wants to support him in an appropriate way, and to that point, she is wondering: Should she still be covering his car insurance and cell phone bills? Let’s see what the community had to say.
A mom writes in asking for advice about when it is appropriate to stop changing clothes while your child is in the room. This mom has a 7-year-old daughter, whom she says is “more like 3 to 4” mentally. A friend recently told her that she should stop changing in front of her daughter, claiming that the daughter is “too old” for that to be appropriate. Is this mom out of line, or did she get some bad advice?
A mom writes in asking for advice about airplanes and airlines. She says she is sending her oldest son, aged 11, to stay with her father for a while as punishment for lying and stealing. Her question, though, has nothing to do with his behavior and everything to do with how to get her son to her father. She says her kids have never flown before, let alone flown alone. She is seeking advice about which airline is best to fly an unaccompanied minor on.
A mom writes in asking for advice about buying a new car. This mom is soon to become a mom-of-three, all under 4-years-old. She is in the market now for a new vehicle and is torn between an SUV (sport utility vehicle) and a minivan. While she doesn’t love the look and reputation of a minivan, she understands many families get one for practical reasons that may be appealing to her. She asks the community to share their thoughts on the difference between an SUV and a minivan to help her make her decision.
A mom writes in asking for advice about age gaps. She says her son is turning one, and she is aiming to have another one within the next year. It would give a 21 or 22 month age gap between kids. She is wondering if this is a good amount of time between kids. She wants her children to be close, but she doesn’t want to miss out on her first baby’s big moments. Is it true that when babies are closer in age it’s a lot more work for the parents despite the fact the kids are likely to be closer to one another?
A mom writes in asking for advice about getting her grown stepchildren to fend for themselves. This mom says she tragically lost her own daughter, but she raised her husband’s two children. She says one of those children, now aged 22, brought his girlfriend home to this mom’s home. She says they proceeded to do literally nothing except lay in bed and watch TV. They did not get jobs or help around the house. Their unhygienic habits caused an infestation of bugs that cost $2000 to fix. How can this mom help her stepchild and his girlfriend learn to fend for themselves and “move on with life.”
A mom writes in asking for advice about the appropriate age at which she could consider leaving her child at home. She says that she is gearing up to go back to work, and now that her son is entering sixth grade, she no longer has the option to use her essential worker daycare, which is K-5 only. She is considering letting her son, who is 11 and will be 12 soon, stay home alone (where he will be doing remote learning) while she works, but she is nervous that he may be too young.
A mom writes in asking for advice about speeding up the labor process. She says she is about 39 weeks pregnant. Her doctor informed her that she is currently dilated between 3 and 4 centimeters. She has been having mild contractions. She turns to our community of moms for advice on ways she might naturally help speed the labor process along, though she specifies she’s looking for suggestions other than having sex.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 9-year-old daughter. She says her daughter has been caught multiple times chatting online with strangers (via chatrooms within games). This mom says she’s tried many times to talk to her daughter, explain how dangerous that can be, and has made it clear that is not allowed. She’s deleted her daughter’s games and banned her from using the iPad until she can figure out a way to convince her daughter to stop chatting with strangers online.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 2-year-old toddler. She wants to know if any other moms in the Mamas Uncut community have tips on how to stop a 2-year-old from crawling out of his or her crib. Below, the community weighs in with advice and recommendations, most of which boil down to the fact it may be time for a toddler bed!
A mom writes in asking for advice about getting pregnant after a miscarriage. She says she suffered a miscarriage “about a week ago” when she was about 8 or 9 weeks along. She is wondering if it is possible to get pregnant again now, about a week after the miscarriage. She says she was told to wait to get pregnant again, but she wants to hear from the community of moms about how soon after a miscarriage you can get pregnant and whether anyone has been through a similar experience.
A mom writes in asking for advice on how to help her 7-year-old daughter cope with the death of their family dog. This mom says her daughter has experienced an unfortunate amount of grief and loss in her life, and as a result, the family has always been honest about death. But the recent loss of their family dog, who had been her daughter’s “protector,” has become a great source of sadness. She says her daughter will randomly start bawling thinking about the dog. How can this mom help her young daughter process the grief?
A mom writes in asking for advice about losing weight while pregnant. This mom-to-be says she recently found out she is pregnant, and now she is turning to the community to ask for tips and advice from other moms about safe ways to lose weight while pregnant. She specifies that she wants to lose weight in a “healthy manner.” The community chimes in with some suggestions below.
A mom writes in asking for advice about giving gum to her child. She says her 4-year-old daughter has been begging to have gum, but this mom is worried that her daughter will either swallow it or get it stuck in her hair, which would then need to be cut. She also has concerns that giving gum to her 4-year-old will make her 3-year-old son want the same, and she would rather avoid that annoyance. So, what say you? At what age is it appropriate to give a child gum?
A mom writes in asking for advice about diapers. She is 28-weeks pregnant and wants to know what size diapers she should stock up on for her newborn baby. She says that she is “measuring big,” and is therefore curious if maybe the better path would be to buy more diapers in a larger size. The community comes through with some very good diaper advice below.
A mom writes in asking for advice about baby names. This mom-to-be is 16 weeks pregnant and already has a first name picked out for a baby girl. (Already ahead of the curve, mama!) She wants to know which middle names would be a good fit to go with Riley. Her only stipulation is that she wants the names to flow nicely together. Let’s see what the community suggested!
A mom writes in asking for advice about dealing with mom guilt. She says she feels guilty about having a second baby so soon after her first. Her first child, a daughter, is her “best friend” and is only 20 months old. She is due to have her second in a month. She is worried the new baby will negatively affect her relationship with her daughter. Her second child was unplanned, she says, and she only wishes she had more time one-on-one with her daughter. Is it normal to feel this guilty?
A mom writes in asking for advice about teaching her baby to self-soothe. This mom says she has been told that she needs to stop running to her baby the moment he starts crying, to stop sleeping with him, and generally to let him be more independent. She struggles to try to do so and feels like she is neglecting her child. She asks the community what the negative effects of not teaching her baby to self-soothe could be, and what the hardest thing moms who did teach self-soothing had to teach themselves.
A mom writes in asking for advice about pregnancy tests. She says she took a Clearblue brand pregnancy test, and it was positive, indicating that she is pregnant. She then took three First Response pregnancy tests, and all three results were negative. This mom is confused and wondering what she should do. Should she believe one brand of pregnancy test over the other?
A mom writes in asking for advice about having kids 10 years apart. This mom says she recently learned that she is pregnant. Her daughter, she says, will be 10 by the time the new baby arrives, and she worries this will be a “rift for my daughter instead of a blessing.” So this mom turns to the community for advice: What is like having kids 10 years apart?