Working women – especially those who work in concentrated service industries – are vulnerable to the coronavirus economy, as there is overwhelming evidence that women are being laid off or furloughed at a significantly higher rate than men.
A mom writes in asking for advice about the age gap between her kids. She is a mother-of-four; three of her four kids are teenagers or pre-teens. Her newest child is an 11-month-old infant. That makes the age gap between her youngest child and second-oldest kid more than 10 years. This mom has been struggling, and she is unsure why. She has raised three kids, but this fourth one seems harder. Is it due to the age gap? Any advice for her?
A first-time mom writes in asking for advice about her first ultrasound. She says she just found out she is in Week 9 of her pregnancy, but when she contacted an OBGYN, they told her they would not schedule her first ultrasound until she is 12 weeks. This mom says every other mom she knows had her first ultrasound between 6-8 weeks. Is it normal to have your first ultrasound so “late” at 12 weeks?
A mom writes in asking for potty training advice for her 2-year-old daughter. She says she had decided to start potty training her daughter and wants to know if she can use diapers, which she has leftover, versus moving to Pull-Ups, which many moms often use during the potty training phase. Would that work? Any other potty training advice for this mom?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her kids and their independence. She says her two kids were once fairly independent, but since being home with them 24/7 due to the ongoing coronavirus pandemic, she has noticed that they have both become codependent and “unsure of everything.” She wants to know how to help them get back to their more independent selves.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her four-year-old stepdaughter. She says this little girl refuses to dress herself at all. Like, won’t even put shoes or a coat on herself. She will throw a temper tantrum if asked to do it herself This mom has a two-year-old of her own, who can dress herself and likes to. She says that the four-year-old’s family (her boyfriend and his family) continue to dress her and avoid the issue.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her three-year-old daughter. She says that ever since she welcomed a baby (now 11-months-old), her older daughter, now 3, has started going out of her way to make everyone around her mad or sad. She has tried to hurt her sister. She has begun wetting herself and purposefully peeing on the carpet. This mom has tried every approach she knows, but her daughter’s behavior remains unchanged.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her options after being let go by her employer while on maternity leave. This mom says her job was aware she was pregnant and due at a certain time. She ended up delivering a month early, at which point she called to inform her work and never heard back. She says that after a traumatic birth and not-insignificant stay at the hospital, she came home to find a letter stating her maternity leave was only 12 days long. She “assumed” this was incorrect, but when she contacted her company weeks later about returning, she was told she’d been “voluntarily terminated.” What can she do?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 18-year-old teenage daughter. She says her daughter, who mostly lives at her boyfriend’s house, comes home in at most to sleep and/or eat. She comes home to eat because her boyfriend’s mother refuses her food, as she does not pay to live there. So this mom’s daughter started coming home and taking food to bring back to her boyfriend’s to eat. This mom put a stop to it, said that the food must be eaten at home. So now the daughter comes home to eat, but then up and leaves her mom with the mess. What can she do?
A mom writes in asking for advice about smoking while pregnant. She says that she has been trying to conceive for a couple of months. After taking a pregnancy test recently and getting a negative result, she smoked through several packs of cigarettes. She later found out she is, in fact, pregnant. Should she be worried about the smoking she did?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 3-year-old toddler. She says her son is “super hyperactive.” He is usually fine when it just the two of them, but if anyone else is around, “all respect goes out the window.” He runs wild, throws things, yells, and then throws a fit when his mom tries to calm him or send him to his room. This mom wants to know if there is anything can do to help change this behavior, to calm him when he is in such a state.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 11-month-old baby who, she says, refuses to eat any food other than baby food. She has tried a ton of different baby-safe foods, but nothing has taken. Her son will only eat baby food with cereal mixed in. If she gives him something else, like peas or eggs or banana, “he will gag until he makes himself throw up.” Do you have any advice for this mom?
A mom writes in asking for advice about potty training. She says she is currently potty training her 3-year-old toddler, and though he’s doing well overall (with Number One, anyway), she says he is “terrified of going Number Two.” He explicitly says he is scared. She tries to coax him with prizes. But it isn’t taking. She says she is now on day three of him “holding it in,” and so she’d like some advice about ways she can encourage him.
A mom writes in asking for advice about dealing with depression. She says she is no stranger to depression: she’s always felt depressed about her weight. But lately, things have gotten worse. She constantly feels like a bad mom, a bad partner, and a bad daughter. A recent strain in her relationship with her mom may be part of the reason why she is feeling extra down. But she is turning to other moms for advice in dealing with depression. See what our community had to say below.
A mom writes in asking for advice about keeping her kids safe from mosquitos and other bugs. She says her kids are constantly covered in mosquito bites, and though she has been using bug repellent spray, she doesn’t love the smell or the idea of putting chemicals on her kids’ skin. She is also in search of tips for keeping bees and wasps away. Any advice? Share it below!
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 8-month-old baby. She says her baby still wakes up three times a night, and the only thing that will get her back to sleep is breastfeeding/nursing. This mom says her daughter eats (solid food) at about 6 every night, is put down for sleep around 7:30, but wakes up three times a night and needs to nurse in order to fall back asleep. This mom is tempted to start the switch to formula to see if that helps change this behavior, but she doesn’t want to give up breastfeeding just yet, if possible.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 5-year-old son’s bad behavior. She says things are so bad she basically cannot let her son out of her sight at all. He steals things like forks, tampons, and toilet paper, and recently he broke into her desk and took important papers, a letter opener, and money. She has also caught him on the baby monitor sneaking into his 1-year-old brother’s room and throwing things at the baby in his crib. What can this mom do?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 4-year-old daughter. She says her daughter will always ask her mom if she loves her after she gets in trouble. Whether she gets put in a time out or ignored or yelled at for bad behavior, her daughter always asks her mom if she loves her. This worries this mom, who thinks maybe something in her actions makes her daughter feel unloved in those moments.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her 3-year-old son, whom she says is overly affectionate with strangers. She says her son will hug and kiss strangers — friends of the mom’s who come over to visit, for example — and this behavior makes his mom uncomfortable. The strangers, she says, will usually laugh, which she feels encourages him to do it more. She wants to explain to him that it is not okay to kiss strangers. Any advice?
A mom writes in asking about her two-year-old toddler, who she says has “breath holding spells” that have started to worry her. She says her son will hold his breath until his lips turn blue. It often happens after he gets hurt or is upset. It has not yet gotten to the point where her son has passed out, but her doctor warned that it could eventually happen. Is this normal behavior? Should she be worried? Do you have any advice for this concerned mama?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her two-year-old toddler. She says her son has taken to hitting her (or someone else) when he’s angry, mad, and/or annoyed. This mom has tried to stop the behavior by telling him “no” when he hits, but that tends to make the hitting worse, and she says he even will hit himself. Any advice for this mom on how to get a toddler to stop hitting his parents or relatives?
A mom writes in asking for advice about dealing with mom guilt. She says that her 5-month-old daughter has basically been by her side all day, every day since birth. This mom feels guilty leaving her baby with others, including family members. She is worried that this attachment is bad for her baby, who has become fussy the few times she’s let family care for her. And then she feels more guilt at the idea of leaving a fussy baby with a loved one. She’s looking for advice about how to get used to letting her daughter be in others’ care and managing her emotions and mental health in the process.
A mom writes in asking for advice about potty training boys. She says her 1-year-old son has shown a lot of interest in the potty, but she can’t get him to actually use it. He hates having a dirty diaper, often sits on the potty “like mommy,” but ultimately he does not complete the act. Though this mom is not in a rush to potty train her son, given his interest, she is wondering what it might look like to start the process. Any advice?