A mom writes in asking for advice about her 4-year-old son and her son’s father. Her son’s father, who was involved in their lives for a time, is currently in jail. He has two years of his sentence remaining, and she says he plans to be involved when he is released. He talks to his son while in jail, but this mom has told her that his dad is “working.” She is wondering if lying to him about his father’s actual location is harmful. Should she tell her son where his father really is?
A woman writes in asking for advice about engagement ring etiquette. She wants to know, in the event of a split, who should get to keep the engagement ring. She says that she really wants to keep the ring, but that her former fiancé “has forcibly taken it.” She wants to know if there is anything she can do to reclaim the ring or if she should let it go. YOU MAY ALSO LIKE: My Ex Gave My Old Engagement Ring to His New Fiancée: Do I Have a Right to Be Upset? A member of the community asks: “If an engagement fails who gets the ring? I want to keep the ring but my ex has forcibly taken it. Is there anything I can do?” – Mamas Uncut Community Member Community Advice for This Woman Who Wants to Know if She Can Keep Her Engagement Ring Even Though Her Engagement Ended To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this woman in need, read the comments of the post embedded below. Engagement Ring Etiquette Advice Summary The community offered this woman in need a lot of great advice. Read some of their responses below. “When he proposed, if you …
A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband’s relationship with their neighbor. This mom explains that she and her husband have neighbors with whom they’ve been friendly over the years. The neighbor’s husband is in the military and is sometimes deployed. This mom noticed that while deployed, her own husband’s relationship with the man’s wife was developing, and the two have become very good friends and often do things together. A lot of things about the situation make the OP uncomfortable and jealous. Does she have a right to be? Or is she overreacting?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her daughter’s father, aka her ex. She says she and her ex ended on okay terms and initially shared custody of their daughter 50/50. But since the novel Coronavirus pandemic began earlier this year, she says, he has not seen much of his daughter. Nor has he contributed financially towards his daughter’s care. (She specifies that they do not have a child support arrangement currently, but she is now thinking of asking for one, given how little help he is providing.) In the end, she is looking for advice from other moms about how to handle this situation.
A woman writes in asking for advice about a situation involving her best friend. This woman says that her best friend’s fiancé hit on her. She has texts and other receipts proving this. She ended up telling her best friend that this happened, a decision which, though she feels was right, has caused a great deal of pain for both women. The fiancé in question has been working to keep the women apart and to convince his fiancée to stay with him and drop her best friend. This woman is looking for support and advice, and she wants to know: Was telling her the right thing? And if so, why does she still feel so bad?
A mom writes in asking for advice about intimacy after giving birth. This new mom welcomed her daughter just over a month ago via C-section. Now that six weeks have passed, she says her husband, who has been understanding, has started pushing for intimacy. She’s up for it sometimes, but with the new baby schedule, she is finding it a struggle. She wants to hear from other moms about how they found time to be intimate with their partners so soon after a new baby.
A mom writes in asking for advice about taking her fiancé’s last name. She says that she already has two last names, and she is the only one of her siblings who has her mother’s last name. Therefore, she does not really want to change her name. She says it doesn’t feel right. Her fiancé, however, is upset by this. He says he feels ’emasculated.’ She adds that her fiancé’s father is also upset about her decision not to take the last name. What should she do?
A mom writes in asking for advice about co-parenting. She wants to hear from other moms in co-parenting situations about how often they communicate with their exes. She is also curious whether most people keep it “business only” and discuss only matters pertaining to the children or if there is room for friendly conversation. She wants to hear specifically from moms who say they have a “friendly” relationship with their ex.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her boyfriend, who is also the father of her child. She says that her boyfriend cheated on her. He told her a week after it happened. “It got bad,” she said, before adding that she told everyone in their lives what had happened. Since then, her boyfriend has apologized, calling it the biggest mistake he’s ever made, and they have been going to see a therapist. This mom wants to know if their relationship is worth fighting for.
A mom writes in asking for advice about having a blended family. This mom, who is “in the middle of a very nasty divorce,” says she would rather be a single parent than “suffer” from a blended family. While she understands that her daughter will likely experience a blended family when her father eventually remarries, this mom doesn’t want to add any fuel to that particular fire. She thinks a blended family is “second best.” But is she perhaps blinded by the emotions of her divorce?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says she recently found out her husband has been having an affair. Even more heartbreaking is that this woman and husband are due to have a baby in just about a month. After learning of her husband’s affair, this mom is feeling conflicted about allowing him to join her in the delivery room. On the one hand, she is heartbroken, and having him be there would be painful for her. On the other hand, she recognizes that she is giving birth to his child and that he should perhaps be there. What should she do?
A mom writes in asking for advice about what her fiancé’s children should call her. She says she and her fiancé share 6 kids (he has four from a previous relationship, and she has two). She says her kids call him DD, but she doesn’t know what his kids should call her. She doesn’t want it to be her first name, as that might be confusing to one of the younger children. And she respects the mother of her fiancé’s kids and therefore doesn’t want a name or nickname similar to “mom.” So, what should her fiancé’s kids call her?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her brother. She says her older brother, who is 13 years older than she is, is an alcoholic. He has been in and out of rehab throughout his life but still struggles. He is currently living with their parents, which the OP describes as a “rough situation.” She wants to help him but is at a loss regarding how to do so. She specifies that she is really the only person he talks to, and she feels that responsibility.
A mom writes in asking for advice about filing for divorce. She says she is about to start going through a divorce, and as a stay-at-home mom, she has no money or income to help her with this expensive legal matter. How can someone with no expendable income afford a lawyer, even if she needs one for something like a divorce? Below, the community weighs in with some advice for this mom-in-need.
A mom writes in asking for advice about having another kid with her husband. She says she has about 9 months until she has her birth control removed, and at that time, she will need to make certain family planning decisions. She thinks she wants another child, although she is a little unsure about the timing. Her husband, however, is “adamant” that they not have another. When they discuss this, it usually erupts into an argument. How can she come to an agreement with her husband?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband. She says she has been with her husband for six years and married for four. He has a history of not always planning something special for important dates and anniversaries. But recently, he came home on their fourth wedding anniversary and didn’t even acknowledge that it was their anniversary. This mom had expected to go out; instead, he said he was tired and fell asleep. This mom is heartbroken and angry. What should she do?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her teenage daughter. She says her daughter, who is 18, moved in with her boyfriend. Neither her daughter nor the boyfriend help around the house or contribute financially, which has put a humungous strain on this mom. Additionally, having them in the house caused her own frustrated partner to move out in order to “save their relationship.” This mom and her daughter are now at odds. She reached a breaking point and told her daughter that her boyfriend must move out, which has caused further turmoil.
A mom writes in asking for advice about her neighbors. She says her neighbors, an elderly couple, care for their granddaughter, and they let their granddaughter wander into this mom’s back yard almost every day without permission. This mom is OK with it sometimes, but the granddaughter also causes some problems: She sometimes plays rough, she often leaves the gate open, and ultimately makes this mom feel like she has one more kid to look after. How can she approach her neighbors and discuss the issue productively?
A mom writes in asking for advice about taking her son to church. She says she wants to take her son to church because he is “struggling with life and wants to go and see what it’s all about.” However, this mom’s husband has said she cannot take their son to church and is incredibly, incredibly adamant that she never does so. Should she take her son to church without her husband’s permission?
A mom writes in asking for advice about her fiancé. She says she and her fiancé got together in 2018, and in 2019, he proposed. At the time he proposed, she was pregnant, and they didn’t set a date or make any solid wedding plans at that time. Now, more than a year later, no date has been set, no further plans have been made. She is starting to wonder if he only proposed because she was pregnant at the time. How can she know if this engagement is for real?
A mom writes in asking for advice about leaving her relationship. She says she has been with her husband since she was 16. They have been together for nine years and have three children together. This mom says she has always felt like her husband has not paid her the kind of attention she desires, which led her to an emotional entanglement with a coworker. This has caused additional problems for the couple. After years of drama, hurt, and controlling and neglectful behavior on her husband’s part, this mom is finally ready to leave. But should she?