Relationships

My Mother-in-Law, with Whom I Have a Terrible Relationship, Was Diagnosed with Cancer: Can I Still Cut Her Out of My Life?

My Mother-in-Law, With Whom I Have a Toxic Relationship, Was Diagnosed with Cancer: Can I Still Cut Her Out of My Life?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law. This mom has had a truly terrible relationship with her mother-in-law, to the point where they pretty much cut off all contact. Now, though, her mother-in-law has cancer, and this mom is wondering if it would be wrong to continue excluding her MIL from her life. Both she and her husband (her MIL’s son) are conflicted and don’t know what to do, given the toxic nature of the relationship.

When Should I Tell My Daughter About Her Biological Father?

When Should I Tell My Daughter About Her Biological Father?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her 7-year-old daughter. She says that her daughter has ever only really known one father, who is not her biological father. Her biological father has never been in her life. Her fiancé, however, has been in her daughter’s life as “Papa” for six years. Her daughter, though, is starting to ask questions about why she doesn’t look like her mom and dad. Now, this mom is wondering: Is now a good time to tell her daughter about her biological dad?

My Husband's Family Screamed and Swore at My Kids: Advice?

My Husband’s Family Screamed and Swore at My Kids: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her husband’s family. She says the family of her husband, who is stepfather to her two children, screamed and swore at her kids while at another kid’s birthday party. She says they told her kids to “shut the f** up,” called them annoying, and said more, which she declined to get into. How should she handle this situation?

My Ex Asked My Estranged Mom to Watch Our Daughter, and It Ended in Disaster: Advice?

My Ex Asked My Estranged Mom to Watch Our Son, and It Ended in Disaster: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her ex with whom she shares a son. She says her ex reached out and asked her to watch their son, she said yes, but instead he reached out to the OP’s mom. The OP is estranged from her mother and doesn’t want her watching their son without supervision due to a history of drug abuse and other issues. Predictably, things did not go well, and her son ended up getting bitting by her mom’s dog. How can she lay down the law?

My Fiancé Refers to My Daughter as His Stepdaughter Even Though She Is, for All Intents and Purposes, His Daughter: Advice?

My Fiancé Refers to My Daughter as His Stepdaughter Even Though She Is, for All Intents and Purposes, His Daughter: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her fiancé. She says her fiancé has been in the picture for more than a year, and they even have a baby on the way, but she is confused about the term he uses to refer to her daughter from a previous relationship. He refers to her as his “stepdaughter,” though for all intents and purposes, she is his daughter. He even says he doesn’t want her to know she is not his biological daughter, so why would he refer to her as a stepdaughter?

My Boyfriend and His Ex Are Constantly Following and Unfollowing Each Other on Instagram: Should I Be Concerned?

My Boyfriend and His Ex Are Constantly Following and Unfollowing Each Other on Instagram: Should I Be Concerned?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her boyfriend. She says that her boyfriend of six months, whom she hasn’t seen recently due to the ongoing pandemic lockdowns, is constantly following and unfollowing his ex, who also happens to be the mother of his child, on Instagram. She has tried to ask her boyfriend what it means, but he just tells her not to worry about it. Should she be concerned that something is going on?

My Four Kids Are Constantly Fighting with Each Other: Advice?

My Four Kids Are Constantly Fighting with Each Other: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her four kids. She says that as an only child, she always wanted a big family. So she had four kids, who range in age from 4 to 18. The problem? They are constantly fighting. They name call, argue, and are sometimes straight-up cruel. It breaks this mom’s heart, and she wants to know if it’s normal behavior and/or if her kids will eventually grow out of this contentious stage.

My Boyfriend Is Amazing But I'm Still Not Happy: Do I Owe It To Our Daughter to Stay With Him?

My Boyfriend Is Amazing But I’m Still Not Happy: Do I Owe It To Our Daughter to Stay With Him?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her relationship with her boyfriend. She says her boyfriend is great — not abusive, a good father, a supportive partner — but she is still not happy with him. She is wondering if she owes it to their 6-month-old daughter to stay with him, despite the fact she feels like starting her own life without him.

How Do I Tell My Fiancé I Absolutely Hate the Engagement Ring He Bought Me?

How Do I Tell My Fiancé I Absolutely Hate the Engagement Ring He Bought Me?

A woman writes in asking for advice about her engagement ring. She says her now-fiancé bought her an engagement ring which she “absolutely hates.” She wants to know the best way to tell him that she doesn’t like the ring, preferably without hurting his feelings or causing a problem overall.

My Partner Was Recently Diagnosed with ADD/ADHD: Any Advice?

My Partner Was Recently Diagnosed with ADD/ADHD: Any Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her partner, who is also the father of her child. She says he was recently diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder or Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADD/ADHD). It seems this news came as a surprise to this mom. She is asking for thoughts and advice from the community: Does anyone have advice to share about living with a partner with ADD/ADHD? Any words of wisdom?

I Am a Mom Who's Always Struggled with Depression Due to My Weight, But Things Have Gotten Very Bad Lately, and I Could Use Some Advice

I Am a Mom Who’s Always Struggled with Depression Due to My Weight, But Things Have Gotten Very Bad Lately, and I Could Use Some Advice

A mom writes in asking for advice about dealing with depression. She says she is no stranger to depression: she’s always felt depressed about her weight. But lately, things have gotten worse. She constantly feels like a bad mom, a bad partner, and a bad daughter. A recent strain in her relationship with her mom may be part of the reason why she is feeling extra down. But she is turning to other moms for advice in dealing with depression. See what our community had to say below.

How Can I Explain to My 3-Year-Old That He Can't Be As Affectionate As He Is With Strangers?

How Can I Explain to My 3-Year-Old That He Can’t Be As Affectionate As He Is With Strangers?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her 3-year-old son, whom she says is overly affectionate with strangers. She says her son will hug and kiss strangers — friends of the mom’s who come over to visit, for example — and this behavior makes his mom uncomfortable. The strangers, she says, will usually laugh, which she feels encourages him to do it more. She wants to explain to him that it is not okay to kiss strangers. Any advice?

My Partner Thinks He's Always Right and Has a Bad Attitude: Should I Leave?

My Partner Thinks He’s Always Right and Has a Bad Attitude: Should I Leave?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her partner. She says that her partner always thinks he is right and has a bad attitude. He thinks his opinion on everything — from raising their daughter to finances — is the right one and refuses to listen to hers. He nags, he curses at her. This mom is at the point where she wants to take her daughter and leave, but she says she has nowhere to go.

How Do I Know If It Is the Right Time for Me to Start Dating Again?

How Do I Know If It Is the Right Time for Me to Start Dating Again?

A mom writes in asking for advice about when she might start dating again. This single mom, who has a 13-month-old baby, hasn’t dated anyone since she was six months pregnant. She says her last relationship was bad, but she has recently started feeling open to the idea of letting someone new into her (and her baby’s) life. She asks the community for advice about when people in similar situations knew they were ready to date, the best ways to meet potential partners, and more.

My Passive-Aggressive Mother-in-Law Overrules My Parenting Choices, and My Partner Doesn't Stand Up for Me: Advice?

My Passive-Aggressive Mother-in-Law Overrules My Parenting Choices, and My Partner Doesn’t Stand Up for Me: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her mother-in-law (MIL). She says that she, her son, and her boyfriend live with her boyfriend’s mom (her MIL). The MIL constantly oversteps her boundaries and butts in on parenting matters that ultimately aren’t her business. She leaves passive-aggressive notes for the mom to find. She overrules this mom’s desires for her child (including for things like vaccines and food.) She also says that her boyfriend never stands up for her against his mom. Unfortunately, this mom is not in a place to move out with her family just yet, so how can she cope with her MIL in the meantime?

My Kids Have No Grandparents, and It Makes Our Lives So Much Harder: Advice?

My Kids Have No Grandparents, and It Makes Our Lives So Much Harder: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her struggle with the fact that her children have no grandparents. She says that all of her kids’ grandparents are deceased, except for her own mom who has mental health and addiction issues and who is not involved much in their lives. This mom is struggling, feeling like she lacks the “village” she desires to help make her family complete. She turns to other moms in the community, asking if anyone else has experienced similar or has any advice.

Should I Leave My Partner Before Having Our Second Baby or Try to Stick It Out?

Should I Leave My Partner Before Having Our Second Baby or Try to Stick It Out?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her relationship with the father of her children. She is due to deliver their second child soon, but this mom may be done with the relationship. She says her partner is no help with their first child, does nothing around the house, and can be verbally abusive. This mom wants to know if it would be best to end the relationship before the baby comes or let the baby come… and see if things get better.

My Kids' Grandmother Is Not Social Distancing and Works in a High-Risk Environment But Still Wants to See Her Grandkids: Advice?

My Kids’ Grandmother Is Not Social Distancing and Works in a High-Risk Environment But Still Wants to See Her Grandkids: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her kids’ grandmother. Their grandmother (on their father’s side) is not, according to this mom, practicing social distancing. Additionally, she works in a nursing home, placing her in an incredibly high-risk position. However, the grandmother still constantly asks to see her grandkids. What should this mom do?

My Mom Very Explicitly Favors One of My Daughters and It Makes Me Not Want to See Her: Advice?

My Mom Very Explicitly Favors One of My Daughters and It Makes Me Not Want to See Her: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her mom, whom she says explicitly favors the eldest of her two daughters. This mom says that her mom told her ahead of the arrival of her second baby that she doesn’t “know if I can love another one” After the baby was born, her mom continued to make comments and behave as if she only loves and cares about her oldest grandchild.

How Do I Explain to My 2-Year-Old That His Father and I Are No Longer Together?

How Do I Explain to My 2-Year-Old That His Father and I Are No Longer Together?

A mom writes in asking for advice about how to explain to her 2-year-old son that his father is no longer in the picture. She says she finally ended a toxic, years-long relationship with the father of her child, but her son constantly asks to see or speak with his dad. However, communication is very limited due to the aforementioned toxicity of their relationship. This mom also wants to know how she might introduce a new love interest into her son’s life at some point.

My Sister-in-Law Copies Everything I Do and It Infuriates Me: Am I Overreacting?

My Sister-in-Law Copies Everything I Do and It Infuriates Me: Am I Overreacting?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her sister-in-law. She says her SIL “copies everything I do” from home decor to kids’ clothing to social media posts. She also adds that her SIL has a daughter who “does not know how to play well with others” and hits when expressing emotion. She wants to stop her SIL’s daughter from playing with her own daughter. YOU MAY ALSO LIKE: In-Laws Do Paternity Test On Newborn Behind Mother’s Back To ‘Be Sure’ Who Baby’s Father Is A member of the community asks: “My sister-in-law copies everything I do: Advice? Am I overreacting? My sister-in-law copies everything I do. It really bothers me. She copies my house, my decor, my kid’s clothes, our social media, everything! Should I be bothered? Also, she had a daughter when she came into the family… her daughter doesn’t know how to play well with others. She expresses her emotions by hitting others. She hits my daughter & I am pretty much fed up with it and told my husband her daughter is not allowed to play with our daughter anymore. Am I going to far by not allowing them to play together anymore?” – Mamas Uncut Community Member Community …

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I Love Everything About the Man I'm Dating Except for How Insecure He Is About Himself: Advice?

I Love Everything About the Man I’m Dating Except for How Insecure He Is About Himself: Advice?

A woman writes in asking for advice about the man she’s dating. She says that, though the relationship is fairly new, she likes everything about this man except for one thing: He’s incredibly insecure about his looks and about his race. She says he talks awfully about himself and sometimes does things to downplay the physical aspects of his race. This woman is looking for advice about how to help her man see himself the way she sees him.

How Do I Handle My 16-Year-Old's Disrespectful Attitude Towards My Partner?

How Do I Handle My 16-Year-Old’s Disrespectful Attitude Towards My Partner?

A mom writes in asking for advice about how to manage her 16-year-old son’s disrespectful attitude towards her partner. She says that though they have some good days, her teenager has generally been wildly disrespectful toward’s this mom’s partner of four years. She says it’s gotten so bad that her son “wants to physically fight with my partner.” What can she do?

My Friend Told Me 'No Wonder You're Single' During an Argument About My Son Wearing a Mask, and It Hurt Me: Am I Overreacting?

My Friend Told Me ‘No Wonder You’re Single’ During an Argument About My Son Wearing a Mask, and It Hurt Me: Am I Overreacting?

A mom writes in asking for advice about an argument she had with her friend in which the friend told her, “No wonder you’re single.” This mom was very hurt by this comment for many reasons, not least of which is the fact that her last longterm relationship was abusive. She wants to know if she is overreacting to being told such a thing or if she has a right to be upset.

Should I Keep My Father in My Life or Cut Him Out Completely?

Should I Keep My Father in My Life or Cut Him Out Completely?

A mom writes in asking for advice about her father and whether she should keep him in her and her kids’ lives. She says she has never had a good relationship with him; he cheated on her mom multiple times and has mental illness struggles. She has tried to set ground rules for him that he does not follow. After a recent incident, she is wondering if she should simply cut him out of her life for good.