ted gonder: dad shares incredible advice on how to be a supportive partner after wife gives birth in viral post every parent should read

Dad Shares Incredible Advice on How to Be a Supportive Partner After Wife Gives Birth in Viral Post Every Parent Should Read

One dad just wrote the official guide on how to be a supportive husband after kids. Ted Gonder, who has three kids, posted some key tips on Facebook about how dads can support moms after having a baby.

“I’m now 29 and have three kids with my wife, Franziska, who carried and birthed them all like a pro,” Gonder wrote in the now-viral post. “Here’s what I would tell my childless 24-year-old self about how to be a supportive partner during the “becoming parents” phase.”

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I'm now 29 and have 3 kids with my wife Franziska who carried and birthed them all like a pro. Here's what I would tell…

Posted by Ted Gonder on Wednesday, September 18, 2019

“1. Wifey carried baby IN her belly for nine months. So you carry baby ON your belly for nine months every chance you get. Not only does it help her recover but it bonds you to your kid more than imaginable.”

ted gonder: how to be a supportive partner
CREDIT: Ted Gonder

“2. Wifey is breastfeeding and — while beautiful and fulfilling for her — it’s exhausting. So you change EVERY diaper you can. From diaper #1 onward. You will get over the grossness fast. And you will prevent imbalances and resentment in the relationship; in fact, when all your wife’s friends are complaining about how absent and unsupportive their husbands are, your wife will be bragging about you.”

“3. Make her the decaf coffee every morning. Even if she leaves it cold and forgets to drink it most mornings because she falls back asleep while you’re working or (later) taking the kids to school. She was up all night feeding the baby so help start her day in a way that helps her reset.”

ted gonder: how to be a supportive partner
CREDIT: Ted Gonder

“4. Tell her she is beautiful and help her see that in the moments when she is feeling most self-critical and hopeless about her body. Remind her of times when she achieved goals in the past. Remind her she is a superhero. She literally just moved all her organs around and gained 20 kilograms to give you a child that will be a gift to you for the rest of your life. Help her see past her body image issues and stay focused on a positive goal, one day at a time.”

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“5. Take the heat. Hormones are crazy, both pre- and post-birth. She won’t seem like herself every day and sometimes she will say things she wouldn’t say if she didn’t feel like she was hungover, caffeinated, and on steroids. Remember your job is to be her rock through all of this, so toughen up and keep perspective when her tongue is sharper than you know her best self intends. Normal will return soon and you want her to be grateful that you kept it together when she wasn’t, not resentful and disappointed that you hijacked her emotions by making her problems yours.””

ted gonder: how to be a supportive partner
CREDIT: Ted Gonder

The post really resonated with parents of kids of all ages. Since Gonder posted it, it’s been shared more than 56,000 times.

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