Another Massachusetts girlfriend has been charged and pleaded guilty to manslaughter after text messages revealed she told her boyfriend to kill himself. According to BuzzFeed News, 23-year-old Inyoung You pled guilty to the charges after her boyfriend followed through with her many demands.
As the report continued, You and her boyfriend, identified as Alexander Urtula, were 21 and 22 years of age, respectively, at the time of the tragedy and students at Boston College. The girlfriend’s most recent plea is different than her original 2019 plea of not guilty.
Girlfriend Pleads Guilty to Manslaughter After Sending Several Texts to Her Boyfriend Telling Him to Take His Own Life, and He Did
As a result of entering a guilty plea and taking responsibility for contributing to Alexander’s suicide by verbally, physically, and psychologically abusing him, You received a suspended sentence. However, should she violate any of the terms of her parole over the next 10 years, she could go on to serve 2 and a half years in jail.
Some of those terms include that she must seek mental health treatment and complete several hours of community service. She is also not allowed to profit in any way should her and Alexander’s story be told in other mediums.
In a statement made by Suffolk County District Attorney Rachael Rollins, the terms of her plea deal with agreed upon by Alexander’s family as well. “This agreement with defense counsel was made in close consultation with the Urtula family. It is consistent with their desire to seek accountability and closure and to protect the legacy of Alexander, a loving son, brother, and uncle.”
“They believe this is something Alexander would have wanted.” According to BuzzFeed News, it is believed that You and Alexander became a couple around late 2017 or early 2018.
It’s been reported that You became abusive toward her boyfriend after he lied about meeting up with his ex-girlfriend. Prosecutors argued that even though You knew what Alexander was planning to do and where he was planning to do it, she never tried to stop him. As a result, this made You “criminally responsible” for Alexander’s suicide.
Several of You’s texts were also made public. During their year-and-a-half-long relationship, You at one point told Alexander to “do everyone a favor and go f*cking kill yourself, you’re such a f*cking stupid a** worthless sh*t.”
Then four days before his death, You told Alexander to kill himself again. “F*CK YOU GO F*CKING KILL YOURSELF,” another text message read.
BuzzFeed reports that You was actually present for Alexander’s death, which occurred on May 20, 2019, just hours before he was set to graduate from college. Alexander’s family was in town at the time of his untimely passing.
This particular case closely resembles a case from 2015 when then-teen Michelle Carter sent her boyfriend Conrad Roy III numerous texts encouraging him to take his own life. Michelle’s texts to Conrad read, “Just do it, babe,” and one that actively told Conrad to get back into the truck that was filling with carbon monoxide.
Michelle was also found guilty of involuntary manslaughter in 2017. She was released from jail early in 2020 after serving two and a half years. While Michelle and her legal team have attempted to have her conviction overturned, the Supreme Court denied the appeal.
As her statement continued, District Attorney Rachael Rollins said that You and Alexander’s case has showcased how “serious domestic violence is” and that it can take many forms. Further, as BuzzFeed News reported, Rollins used her statement to urge other victims of similar abuse to reach out to law enforcement or other groups for help.
If you or someone you know is dealing with domestic abuse, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 or text “START” to 88788. Or if you or someone you know is dealing with depression and thoughts of suicide, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255.
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