Duff and husband, Matthew Koma, both 33, invited daughter Mae James into the world on March 24 — joining their eldest daughter, Banks Violet, 2, and Duff’s son, Luca Cruz, 9, from her previous marriage.
“I have help, but babies just want their mom. Even Luca is still like, ‘Mom, Mom, Mom.’ Mom cooks the thing the right way, and Mom packs the bag the right way. It’s crazy,” Duff says of her new life as a mom of three.
“It’s a learning curve to throw a newborn into the mix. A lot of people have been like, ‘That third kid really gets you.’ And they’re right!”
But despite the workload — Duff is in love.
“I’m so in love with all my kids,” she says, “and I love this mayhem.”
And Duff reveals that she finds comfort with her partner, Koma.
“He was such an amazing dad right out the gate,” Duff says.
“In this time of breastfeeding and craziness, he was like, ‘I’m just going to be your assistant because I think that’s how I’m going to be the most help to you in this timeframe.’ He has this really amazing way of looking at the big picture where I’m very much like, right-here-right-now — and he zooms out.”
“I love when everyone’s full of energy and the house is buzzing. You never know what the day is going to bring or what your kid’s going to say,” she says of her schedule most days. “We’re in the thick of it, and it feels good.”
And when it comes to what’s next, Duff admits it’s a bit intimidating: “It took me a week into having Mae to be like, ‘I’m going to have two teenage girls. Holy s—, how am I going to deal with that?’ “
With a background in the creative and educational fields, Amelia Finefrock is freelance writer, singer-songwriter and nanny based in Chicago.
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