A mother-to-be is mortified after her husband came with her to an ultrasound appointment and had a major problem when he discovered the gender.
“Me F29 and my husband M33 have been married for 2 years. I’m now pregnant. First time and it’s been difficult. I have anemia but I’m getting treatment,” the post begins.
“We went for the doctor’s appointment to find out the gender of our baby. My husband was excited although he repeatedly said he guaranteed it was a boy with no evidence to back it up. We entered the doctors office and he didn’t stop feeling nervous making me nervous too.”
“Once the doctor said it was a girl. My husband’s face went red. He stared at the doctor then started asking if she was sure 15 times. He asked if she was sure this wasn’t a ‘recording’ footage of her previous patient which made me feel embarrassed bc this was a dumb question. He has 0 idea how ultra sound works.”
And while the doctor laughed, the husband didn’t stop….
“But he asked her to check again and even tried to act smart to point out that it’s actually a boy but the doctor got it wrong. I told him to stop but he started lashing out blatantly saying he wasn’t expecting this and was in fact disappointed with the results.”
And to make matters even MORE cringe…he informed the doctors they would be seeing a different doctor.
“I felt mad especially after he told the doctor we will be seeing another doctor then get back to her to tell her she got it wrong bc he GUARANTEED it was a boy. I waited til we got home. I lashed at him and told him he had no right to speak to the doctor like that and waste her time by getting her to check repeatedly. I said he embarrassed me and he lashed back saying he has a right to express how he felt and that he was disappointed. We argued then he went to call his mom to tell her although I asked him to wait to do it together.”
But the story doesn’t end there, the situation escalated and family quickly became involved.
“I called him childish for immediately calling his mom and getting her to text me. Like it’s my fault. I told him I’m going to stay at my mom’s for 2 days because this is too much. He asked “How’s it childish for me to call my mom and vent a little. But totally okay when you pack to go stay with your mom for 2 days?” I was speechless. What response could I possibly have for this?”
He then went on to doubt the validity of tests and how he just wants one kid that is a boy so he won’t be disappointed….yikes.
“He started texting saying Ultrasound wasn’t a good idea. But he’ll just wait til our baby’s born to find out since tests can’t be 100% sure anyway. Said he wasn’t trying to blame me for being pregnant with a girl but how I reacted to his reaction. he planned to have one kid and that’s it. Preferably a boy but it didn’t happen so he was disappointed. Again argued that I overreacted and mishandled his gender-disappointment. My sister said I was wrong because his reaction was understandable and That he’s free to express how he felt so I shouldn’t try to control his reaction.”
One user said: “You’re right. Absolutely. He has an argumentative personality and is always ready to make a big deal out if everything, he told me the problem was that I shouldn’t try to control how he reacts and that he has the right to express his feeling and I’m not against that. But I think he’s being unbearable with this behavior. There are things that he seems to be a bit ignorant about but that I’d no excuse of course.”
While another commented: “I know people throw around “sexist” a lot, but if someone is this disappointed about having a daughter instead of a son, they’re sexist. Also you shouldn’t have to leave, especially while very pregnant, just because he is being an a**hole. Also, your child being a daughter instead of a son is because his sperm gave the X chromosome, not Y. He could use an 8th-grade biology lesson too.”
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With a background in the creative and educational fields, Amelia Finefrock is freelance writer, singer-songwriter and nanny based in Chicago.
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