I am done going places I do not feel comfortable: Am I over reacting?

I’ve been with my partner for seven years now. We’ve two kids together. I live in a different city from he’s family 5 hours away. We used to live there before, and we wouldn’t get visits from any of the family that maybe like twice, but that was all! I understand everyone has a life, plus I’m fine with it. Idc! Lol, Now we live back where I’m from and still no visits… We’ve gone a couple of times and visit and holidays. This year was my year to stay with my family only my mother in law came and got my boys gifts.. the grandpa nothing(which is my father in law) (they’re divorced).. my little boys birthday was the next day still no call from the grandpa, or he’s wife… My partner wants it to go to the end of the month. I disagreed in my part. I’m done going to places where I’m not comfortable at… I talked to my husband about it, and he tried to make me seem like if I’m unfair and selfish… what do y’all think about this situation? Plus, this month is my birthday, and I really want to spend it with my family and be able to relax.. I’m gonna be 25, so I’m still learning as a person and mother girls.

80 thoughts on “I am done going places I do not feel comfortable: Am I over reacting?”

  1. I dont see why he cant go himself if he wants to go. Not really any reason for you to attend if you dont want to. It’s cool to do things separately or not engage with someone you dont want to.
    If you’re stopping him from going it is a little selfish. But other then that its coolio

  2. You go for your husband and kids, not for you. It’s not dangerous, it’s just not your favorite. (And if you go, go with a good attitude…don’t make your husband suffer for wanting to see his family)

  3. I’m with my husband 20 years and I dont go near his family for a bunch of reasons. But he visits with mine everytime we get together. He understands i have issues with them and knows not to force it because it wont go well for our relationship. I am also honest with them and they know I dont like to be around them and why. They dont want to change… up to them. But I’ll keep doing me and choose to surround myself with people i love and trust and who do the same to me and mine

  4. I’m the same way NOW. I’m not spending my precious time with people who never talk to me or say hi, specially if I’m not comfortable, certain family members are just awkward to be around, it’s not selfish it’s putting yourself first, and there’s nothing wrong with that. Make time for people who make time for you.

  5. You speak of a partner??? Husband or ?? You mention husband– and partner– confusing for me– I think you are focusing on ‘what happens in your world’– Make a life for YOU– WITH your children and husband/partner?? Not sure why anyone gives a lot of time to these choices- clear cut for me [and yes– I have been married for 49 years– he just died]

  6. So… You’re mad that your in-laws didn’t come to your side of the family’s holiday?
    Your husband wants to go what at the end of the most? Your post makes no sense, it’s impossible to answer any question with what’s written

  7. Is English not your first language? It was literally painful to read this. If your husband asks you to go, it’s not for his family, it’s for him. You’re supposed to be his family, so why are you dead set against doing something that you know will make him happy? Marriage is a compromise. Sounds like he’s the only one willing to compromise

  8. Getting really tired of you entitled ass women thinking you’re owed the damn world for popping out a crotch goblin ???????????? NO ONE OWES YOU OR YOUR CHILDREN A DAMN THING

  9. Does your husband want to see his family? I mean, if you don’t want to spend your actual birthday there, fine. There are 30 other days this month. And if he wants to see his family for a weekend, then maybe you oblige. Like, does it kill you? And if you truly don’t want to go, then let him go and take the kids if he wants. But don’t expect him to hate his family because you feel ignored by them. That’s a *you* problem.

  10. This situation needs to be carefully dealt with and a compromise be made. The sooner, the better! You need this for the solidarity and stability of your family together; everyone will benefit!

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