I gained weight while pregnant and am insecure: Advice?

This is going to seem like an odd question, but I’m pregnant with my second baby right now. I’m 5’3 and about 155-160 pounds. When I was pregnant with my son, I weighed about 125-130 so. I started showing pretty quickly, and my bump was super cute. After having my son, I have a bit of a “mom tummy.” So I already have a little pudge there, and I’m just worried and insecure about how it may look with my bump this time. (Like me looking a lot bigger than before) I plan to lose all my baby weight after this baby, and I’ve gained no weight so far (I’m only 12 weeks). Dr. Doesn’t seem concerned about me being overweight. I guess I could just use some reassurance that me being insecure is normal, and I’m not alone.

54 thoughts on “I gained weight while pregnant and am insecure: Advice?”

  1. You’re not alone. Diet culture makes us all insecure about our bodies on purpose.

    Building a human is a lot of work. I hope you can find ways to love your changing body because you are a badass, Mama, and your body is strong and capable of miracles.

  2. Your body is fine and your doctor isn’t concerned. I understand the insecurity though. I was already overweight when I got pregnant and I was worried no one would notice I was even pregnant. But they did and me and my baby are both healthy

  3. Let your body do its thing. Dont worry about anything until after you are healed and cleared from the dr. Wear everything proudly because you created 2 beings!

  4. You’re perfectly fine honey, just keep light exercise to keep things toned. It doesnt matter how big things are as long as they’re fit and toned! Plus, I went from 114 to 178 with my second child, size 0/1 to a size 9 my first I was 116 and went to 176, same size change. I’m 5’10 though but either way things never looked bad because I’m always active. Nightly walks at the very least, and my muscles stay fit.

    1. Chrystal Sands I am back down to 115 and with both I lost 40 lbs in 2 months. Strictly breastfed though and I have a thyroid disorder so I dont keep weight in unless I’m pregnant

  5. I loved being pregnant and eating . I always gained a considerable amount of weight and never cared. But I didn’t eat the candy and pop ???? Pregnancy is a beautiful part of life. Just enjoy yourself it comes off.

  6. Normal i wasn’t in a diet or anything during my pregnancy in fact i ate everything i could get a hold of gained over 60lbs after giving birth i lost all 60lbs and i have no stretch marks but this is my first i doubt i will be as lucky my second time around but yeah don’t worry about how much you gain if your dr isn’t worried just take care of yourself once you give birth

  7. Be PROUD of your body and what it’s doing!! Girl, before I was pregnant, I was 120-125.. I gained 60lbs during my pregnancy!! My baby boy is 16 months old and I just got down to 130-135!! I still have my “mommy pudge” but I’m ok with that! I feel good and my husband thinks I’m more beautiful than ever. Plus my LO laughs when he tries to tickle my tummy and it jiggles which makes me laugh ????
    Girl, you’re beautiful before, during, AND after that little blessing is brought into this world!! Feel good at what your body can do ????

  8. Sw eetie, don’t sweat it. I am 5’2″ and I weighed 150 pounds with my first one, never lost all the weight and then got pregnant with my second child and ended up weighing 225 at her birth. As long as you have a healthy pregnancy your’re fine. Best wishes to you and baby to be.

  9. I’m going thru that now with the mommy tummy (thanks 1st csection lol) I think the belly bands should help shape out ur tummy and also make it more comfortable but I’m sure as we get bigger our stomachs will definitely round out lol

  10. Definitely not alone in your worries. I’m in my 7th month and have gained about 40 lbs. I’m 5’8” so I carry the weight okay but am terrified I won’t be able to lose it after I have the baby.

  11. I was a plus size woman before I got pregnant and now I just feel like a whale. I hate the way I look. But I just keep in mind that I’m making a baby in there. I wouldn’t worry too much about your bump. I am very heavy and you can still see my bump. I know it’s so hard not to be self conscious. I am absolutely disgusted with myself at the moment but this is part of the process. We can work on losing the weight we need to once baby is born. Stay positive mama!

  12. Celebrate your blessed condition!! I loved being pregnant. It was the only time in my life I wasn’t insecure about my body. I think pregnant women are so beautiful. They glow with radiance of the life force inside the. If doc isn’t worried, you should relax and let nature take its course. I don’t know how you feel about breastfeeding. I nursed all my babys and the weight just fell off. With my daughters I lost twenty five additional pounds. You are beautiful and your baby needs you to eat healthy to support you both. Remember, it takes ten months to gain the baby weight, realistically it takes ten months to lose it!!

  13. I’m 5.5 with number 3 and started out at 170 …. it happens and the weight will go away eventually, right now just focus on eating healthy and drinking water

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