One woman is running to reddit for advice after her sister-in-law used the same baby name she was planning on using.
“I had my son a month ago. We had his name chosen early in my pregnancy. It’s a double honor name which kind of came from a unique place (we had two people we wanted to honor, we didn’t go with direct names but names that tied to the people and we happened to truly love the names).”
Cute right? The couple then decided to share their new baby’s name to the world in a Facebook post.
“We announced the sex and the name in a FB post in April with a blanket that had his name embroidered on it. Fast forward a week and my SIL–my husband’s sister for clarity–, who nobody knew was expecting, announces she has given birth to a son and the name she had chosen? The very same name we had chosen. It was awkward.”
And not just awkward — but messy. The fallout from the choice started a wildfire…
“My ILs all asked her what she was thinking. She said she got to give birth first and loved the name so what was the big deal. My husband thought she was nuts and told her she was a d*** for thinking she had ‘claimed’ the name now. She said it wasn’t her fault she got there first. I was like it’s fine, we are not changing the name and the cousins can share the same name.”
But the SIL was NOT happy with that answer….
“Well, she’s p***** that this actually happened. She texted my husband about two days after our son was born asking him what our son’s name is and he told her she knew, we had announced it. Cue her texting every member of the family saying how awful we were to the kids and how we were petty and nasty and how I was an a****** for stealing the name after she used it. FIL told us to ignore her that it will settle down. But she is still p***** and said we’re only hurting the kids with this.”
In addition, the SIL started to name call (mature, right?) and further escalated the situation.
“She has specifically called me the a****** because I was the one who said we would just keep the name as planned despite her using it. She said I’m an a****** to her and to our boys.”
One user said: “NTA. It’s not that big of a deal. I’m sure there are many other children with the same name too. The fact that she’s totally irate about it shows that this has nothing to do with “hurting the kids.” How tf does that hurt the kids anyway? Maybe it could inconvenience them at some point if they share both first and last name, but certainly doesn’t hurt them.”
While another said: “Also she’s painted herself into a corner with: “What’s the big deal?”. What is the big deal with them sharing a name? 😉 I bet she’s p***** because she knows now her son will be “The other Gabriel (or whatever name it is)”. Play stupid games, win stupid prizes.”
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With a background in the creative and educational fields, Amelia Finefrock is freelance writer, singer-songwriter and nanny based in Chicago.
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