“I gave birth to my son 10 weeks ago,” the OP (Original Poster) began. “I went through [an] exhausting period while I was nearing my due date. I was experiencing discomfort and wanted my husband by my side when I go into labor but he’d go out every night to hang out at his friend’s place and watch football games.”
“I suggested that he play/watch games at home just in case but he was having none of it and said he had to attend game night at his brother & friend’s place along with his buddies. He said they had certain… How can I describe it? ‘rituals?’ when watching a game and he can’t enjoy doing it at home or anywhere else.”
“The night of our son’s birth my water broke while my husband was at his buddies place watching a game. I called him and told him to get home and take me to the hospital he said he was coming but he didn’t. I ended up calling my sister (she lives nearby) and she took me to the hospital. My husband showed up 2hrs later after he kept calling asking if I was still in labor and that he was almost done watching the game.”
“He was able to make it on time for our son’s birth but I was furious with him, mad and disappointed.”
He apologized profoundly and has been working on regaining my trust and respect for him after what he’s done. He’s otherwise very supportive and involved in our son’s care.”
“Last night I was at my in-laws house for dinner and we were talking about my son’s birth date. My husband suddenly started ‘recalling’ what happened that night and basically started lying about driving me to the hospital, waiting and feeling stressed out and standing on his feet for so long without food or even water. I was confused I said no! none of this was true, none of this happened in fact, he was watching a game when I went into labor and I wanted him to drive me to the hospital but didn’t show up til 2 hours later.”
“My mother in law who takes no shit from anybody and whom everyone fears lost it on him yelling asking him if that was true and he kept quiet. She started berating him left and right telling him to sit down and shut up when he stood up to argue then told him to stand up when he was sitting arguing. Everyone was laughing at how she basically treated him as if he was a boy in trouble.”
“She kept saying ‘Shame shame shame! on you, this is not how I raised my children to treat their wives, Jordan you are a disgrace and I’m disappointed because of what I heard about you.’ He literally swallowed every bit of his mother’s berating and didn’t say anything til we got home where he went nuts saying I made him look neglectful, a bad husband and father by telling the family about where he was and said I shouldn’t have said anything but I argued it wasn’t okay for him to lie and play hero in front of his parents. He said I just caused a rift between him and family and asked if I was happy now.”
One user said: “NTA. Your husband thought a football game was more important than you being in labor. He looked like a neglectful husband and father because he was being neglectful. If he wants people to think better of him then he should change his behavior. Yelling at you shows he’s not sorry and would rather blame you than accept the consequences of his actions.”
While another said: “I 100% think he was lying to you about where he was. He clearly has a history of lying. I’m really sorry but I am betting he was cheating somewhere that was further away and that is why he said he would ‘finish watching the game’ he probably couldn’t get back to you sooner so he lied about what he was doing.”
With a background in the creative and educational fields, Amelia Finefrock is freelance writer, singer-songwriter and nanny based in Chicago.
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