Jamie Otis and Doug Hehner are being open about a recent rough patch in their marriage.
On the latest episode of two’s Hot Marriage Cool Parents podcast, the Married at First Sight pair revealed they have been having marital issues the past few months.
Otis shared with Lyons how she has had “a really hard time trusting that everything [Doug] says is true” and that she feels she’s more prone to “open up old wounds” as she’s attempting to juggle motherhood, professional responsibilities, and the health concerns associated amid the COVID-19 pandemic.
“When you’re stressed you don’t have the ability to stay calm,” she said. Later on, she added: “I’m in a rut here and I’m begging for help in every aspect of my life … I’m angry and sad and hurt and I don’t know what to do.”
But Lyons was quick to remind her, “the fact that you’re talking about it is a victory.” Otis, who gave birth to son Hendrix Douglas on May 13, 2020, also revealed she has been experiencing suicidal ideation as of late and that she’s seeking help for her mental health.
“Needless to say, we’re obviously working on our marriage,” she informed listeners at the end of the episode, adding how she doesn’t know what comes next. She continued saying, “I’m just at a loss. I feel completely deflated.”
On Instagram last week, Otis shared a slideshow of images showing various milestones since marrying Hehner. “If the grass looks greener on the other side it’s probably just fake.???? 7 years together & we’ve never wanted to ‘fake’ anything????????♀️…” she captioned the post.
“7 years married & we’re going through another pretty rough patch,” she added later in the caption. She wrote that she “didn’t plan on being so vulnerable” on the new podcast episode, but she wanted to honor herself.
Otis has not shied away from speaking on pregnancy, her physique, motherhood challenges and her husband.
Just last year, she spoke on her depression as well as physical relationship with Hehner since Hendrix, who was 4 months old at the time, was born.
“[Someone] said, ‘Jamie, you don’t put out,’ and I wanna be like, ‘Excuse me, girlfriend. First of all, I had a 9 lb., 4 oz., baby tear me to shreds downstairs and then at my six-week appointment, I had to have a colposcopy, so I couldn’t have sex again for two weeks,” the mother of two said at the time.
“And then I had the [loop electrosurgical excision] procedure and couldn’t have sex again for two weeks.”
In addition, “I don’t feel like having sex, because I’m frickin’ depressed!” she admitted. “I don’t feel sexy, I don’t feel hot; I’m anxious, I’m insecure.”
“So you’re right, I don’t put out,” Otis added. “And it’s not that I don’t love my husband immensely and it’s not that I’m not attracted to my husband — it’s that I’m not attracted to myself and that I’m depressed.”
With a background in the creative and educational fields, Amelia Finefrock is freelance writer, singer-songwriter and nanny based in Chicago.
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