“Honestly, working is like decompressing for me because it is my time to do me. But I am wearing myself out because I have something from the top of the morning to the end of the day,” the Whine Down podcast host, 37, divulged to PEOPLE in its latest issue.
“I’m just exhausted and I’m like, ‘This probably isn’t really good.’ I need to get someone to help.”
Kramer, who also acts, produces and has new music dropping Sept. 24, shares daughter Jolie, 5, and son Jace, 2, with her ex-husband Mike Caussin, 34.
Kramer says she began reading two devotional books after breaking up with Caussin, which included allegations of infidelity. Caussin has yet to comment on the cheating claims.
“I [used to find] myself just going straight to Instagram and letting it affect my morning way too much, so I was like, ‘I need to just not do that,’ ” says Kramer.
“There’s two I read: Happily Ever After by Kristin Armstrong and More Language of Letting Go by Melody Beattie. These are helping me work through divorce with peace and courage.”
Kramer says that on most days, she does work during Jace’s nap time and then wraps up after her kids go to bed.
“I’m trying to figure out the single mama day. It’s a lot,” she says. “I’ve been really proud of myself at how I’ve been able to just keep going. There’s something satisfying about that, too.”
She has also witnessed the effects on her kids.
“Mom’s happier and dad’s happier. That’s been the best thing for them,” says Kramer. “When I was dealing with my last relationship, there was just so much heaviness and so much weight to everything. It feels really nice to just be happy and present around them and enjoy the times we have together.”
Recently, Kramer posted to Instagram in a “post-cry” selfie, encouraged her fans and followers who are parents to keep fighting the good fight.
“Sometimes a good ol car cry is needed while blasting Celine Dion after you drop your kids off. All joking aside, this is for the mom or dad that needs to not feel alone. You are NOT. It’s not easy and no one came into having a family with the outcome of every other weekend. It’s okay to not be okay somedays. It’s okay to feel anger that you didn’t want this,” she began.
“But remember who you continue to fight for. Your kids, and yourself. You deserve happiness, they deserve it. You are free and like I’ve been told it does get better with time, but even if you’re 10 years out its okay that this wasn’t the reality you wanted. Here’s the exciting piece though (that I keep trying to tell myself) now you get to create your reality you deserve not only for you but for them too.”
With a background in the creative and educational fields, Amelia Finefrock is freelance writer, singer-songwriter and nanny based in Chicago.
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