Kristin Cavallari is not only a TV personality, author, and businesswoman — but also a mother of three kids. Of them, one reminds her a lot of (rebellious) herself.
She shares 8-year-old Camden, 6-year-old Jaxon, and 5-year-old Saylor, with ex-husband Jay Cutler.
And when her kids seriously began rebelling, aka her daughter, Kristin had to laugh.
“I’m like, ‘Well, it’s payback,’” revaled to CafeMom this past week.
“My mom, she’ll be like, ‘It’s crazy. She is the spitting image of you at that age.’ Because she’s tough, she knows what she wants. She’s going to get what she wants. She’s not going to stop until she gets it. She’s my hardest kid, in that sense, to raise.”
But she also believes parenting gets easier as they get older. “They’re way more independent,” she adds. “The fact that they can get themselves dressed in the morning is huge.”
But Kristin says she tackled the work-life balance quite some time ago.
“I’ve always had a family bucket and a work bucket,” she says.
“And work has never spilled over into family. Those are just hard lines I’ve always had. Even [while] filming my show, Very Cavallari, I had very strict parameters: I never filmed past 5 p.m. I never filmed on the weekends, because that’s time with my family. I’ve realized that has to work for me because my kids are the most important thing.”
And when it comes to self-care, a divorce can help with that too (her words).
“One of the good things about getting a divorce is that I have more time now,” says Kristin, who split with her ex in early 2020.
“I am able to make myself a priority a little bit more. For me, that means writing. I like to journal, especially going through what I’m going through at the moment. I think it’s important to get some of your thoughts down on paper.” She adds.
“If we don’t take care of ourselves, we can’t take care of anybody else,” she implores.
“It’s important as a mom to make yourself a priority. … In that sense, I’m lucky, because Jay, my soon-to-be ex-husband, has the kids for a few days. So, I can take care of myself, get ready, and then when my kids come back, I am ready to go. I’m so excited. I have a ton of energy. I’m the most present I’ve ever been because I’m going to be losing them then in a week.”
With a background in the creative and educational fields, Amelia Finefrock is freelance writer, singer-songwriter and nanny based in Chicago.
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