An anonymous man recently shared with the Reddit community a shocking tale of betrayal after he gave himself and who he believed was his 12-year-old son a paternity test after a strange encounter from the past.
“A little back story before I get to the meat,” he begins his Reddit post. “My wife and I met when I was 20. We had a drunk hookup the first night we met. We continued seeing each other after that night. A few weeks later she found out she was pregnant.”
But the man admits he had quite a few suspicions after the announcement.
“We stayed together and I proposed a few months later. I had doubts about her pregnancy lining up with our timeline but I never brought it up or discussed it. Not to mention I was in the military and deployed a few months later. My proposal weighed a lot on her carrying my child. I grew up in a home without a dad and never wanted that.”
“Fast forward 12 years we are still married. Though it has been extremely volatile and rocky I’ve stayed together honestly because I could never part from my son. I can’t let him grow up with an absent father. So I’ve made it work. Our marriage is dead outside of our child.”
But the plot began to thicken after he ran into an old friend who used to date his wife.
“I ran into an old friend who I knew around the time I met my wife. He asked if I was still with her and I said yes. He mentioned how ‘it was crazy I dated her and then you stole her from me!’ I wasn’t sure what he meant and asked him to elaborate.”
“He said, iit’s no big deal but I was seeing her up until that weekend you met her.’ I dropped it but inside my doubt and insecurities ran wild. I couldn’t get it out of my head. I broke down and bought a home DNA test kit and used it on my son and I without telling my wife.”
And when he received the results, he was destroyed.
“The results came back today. He is not my son. 0% chance I am his biological [dad]. I’m destroyed. My whole world is upside down. I’m just on autopilot at the moment. I don’t know how to act or feel. I’m just a zombie right now.”
One thing was for certain: the man vowed to never leave his boy, even if they were not blood-related.
“One thing I know is no matter what he is my son. I’ve been by his side the moment he was born and will absolutely never abandon him. Absolutely nothing will change that. What I haven’t decided is how if at all I bring it up to my wife. I feel like my whole marriage was a lie. I can’t help but wonder if she knew. How do I confront her.”
“Regardless that I’m not in love with her I still love her. This will crush her. This will absolutely devastate her. I don’t know what to do. I plan on seeing a counselor/therapist ASAP. So many emotions and thoughts flooding my mind. Just need some help to bring me back down,” he concludes.
Reddit quickly came to the man’s aid, encouraging him with similar stories of their own but also offering an overwhelming amount of support — including encouraging a divorce.
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With a background in the creative and educational fields, Amelia Finefrock is freelance writer, singer-songwriter and nanny based in Chicago.
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