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My step child is very mean to me and my kids: Advice?

I’ve been with my husband for eight years. My stepchild is nine years old and extremely disrespectful to me. I get anxiety at the thought of having to watch the stepchild while my husband works or leaves the house. I also have four other children, only two of the other 4 are by my husband. I absolutely get sick thinking of watching my stepchild when my husband is gone. My stepchild lives with us. Stepchild beats up younger siblings, calls me names, calls all the other children fat, dumb he calls me piece of crap , ugly, stupid. We all basically try to avoid the stepchild because I not there will be a issue. I seriously feel like I am keeping my children in a mentally and physically unsafe environment. I am considering leaving because my stepchild is really driving me insane. However, I feel like this is not a real reason to leave your marriage because I don’t want to be around this kid. I also want my kids to be able to be with their dad. But this is becoming too much for me! Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked …

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My 15-year-old blocked his father on facebook: What do I do?

So yesterday I took my boys down to spend there a weekend with there other siblings and their father was supposed to be there. Well come to find out there father refuses to come out because he can’t bring his girlfriend with him. And the only reason she can’t come with him is cuz he pays more attention to his new girlfriend then he does the kids. So the other kid’s mom doesn’t want her there while he is visiting the kids, and I agree with her… But anyways, the kid’s father texted me yesterday asking why our oldest blocked him on Facebook. I told him I didn’t know he blocked him. So should i have a talk with my son or just let him be? He is 15. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Advice on home schooling my daughter?

Homeschool moms! So I and my daughter’s dad are no longer together, and he wants to do homeschooling, so we can have 50/50 custody. He lives 3 hours away. I want to do homeschooling as well, but I swear everyone except her dad and me don’t want us to do homeschooling my mom wants her to do school down here, and his mom wants her to do school up there, and they say my daughter won’t have excellent people skills, but she does dance we go to the park, and she’s great. I just don’t know how to tell my parents that homeschooling is what I think is best until she decides she’d rather do public school and she can choose who she wants to stay down with for school… currently she’s in a preschool that’s 3 hours a day 4 days a week, and she’s just to smart for it.. from what her teachers tell us, but I feel like being at home for school me, and her dad will be able to bond with her more and have more time with her Also home school moms, and I need more information on how to start homeschooling where do …

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My 3-year-old has started stuttering: Advice?

My son is three years old. He has been talking well before one years old. Recently I have noticed he has started stuttering and in the past week it is getting worse. I plan on calling his pediatrician Monday. I was wondering if any moms have gone through this? Do you think he may out grow it? Im starting to get very anxious. I have tried telling him to slow down but I think he just gets super excited. Any suggestions? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My childs other parent isn’t in their life: Advice?

It has been 11 months since my child’s other parent has not been present, not a call, visit, or message to even ask about them. It’s been normal for weeks an a couple months at a time to go with being around or calling. At 11 months now, however, my child no longer wants anything to do with this parent. The other parent does have a new family an ever since has vanished, does this normally happen. Just cut out your other child/children when you have a new family? It always makes me nervous that they may try and take my child, after this amount of time, the child wants no dealings with the parent. Would a mature nine year old have a say Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

How can I help my 13-month-old be more independent?

I am currently 39 weeks pregnant with my 3rd and last child. I have a 7 year old who helps me amazingly and a 13 month old that is EXTREMELY co dependent on me. I need some advice on how to break her of this. She cries all the time! If you sit her down she cries. If you give her toys she doesnt wanna play with them. She doesn’t watch tv at all. If I walk more than a foot away from her she screams. If someone other than me (husband, older daughter) feeds her she pitches a fit. I can’t put her down to go pee without a tantrum. I am a stay at home mom but with me about to have another I’m exhausted and extremely worried about how shes gonna handle this. Anyone got any tips for me? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My husband sometimes yells at our daughter and I dislike it: Advice?

My husband is a good father when he is good. We had our daughter eight months ago. He has been very loving, attentive, caring, etc. since birth. However, he struggles with his temper in general in life. He sees an anger therapist (per my request) as he often has one reaction (anger) to anything. He has never physically assaulted me or anyone, but emotional/verbal can be bad enough. He does not do this every day, but whenever he is frustrated, he will get upset. Most recently, he watches our daughter when I go to work, and he wakes up with her primarily. He will get frustrated at her at times when she is crying and tell her to shut up or knock it off. I yell at him, but this is rare for him to do. When I do, he tells me I am overreacting and that it’s really not a big deal. I have given him an ultimatum, he needs to work on it, or he needs to leave. I don’t fear of him hurting her, but I do fear eventually his words will hurt her. It is one thing to do to me, another to do to her…I …

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My friend constantly compares our children and I want it to stop: Advice?

How do you politely tell your friend her constantly putting her child in competition with mine needs to end? My child is 5 months older than my friends and she is constantly asking when my child did this or that and gets noticeably upset and silent if mine does something first and overly giddy if hers ends up doing it first. It’s like she’s keeping a record of absolutely everything and I don’t know how to have a healthy relationship with her anymore she is just way too obsessed with milestones. She keeps a weekly record and is using my child as a comparison. I don’t want my child to be a competition and honestly feel bad for hers. It’s like she uses him as an extension of herself and gets disappointed in him if he didn’t do something before another baby. I’m not only annoyed but concerned. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My mother dislikes the guy I have been with for 2 years: Advice?

My mother dislikes my new guy…I’ve been with him for almost two years now, and I am pregnant with his child, but still she insists on not giving him a chance…I have four children from my previous marriage of 12 years, and being pregnant was too hard on me to be able to work so….I have this man completely committed to me and my children working for us and completely supporting the house cars and children that aren’t his by blood….even working 43 overtime hours to ensure they get a decent Christmas….he cares for them as his own…..my mother had the audacity to tell him that he couldn’t spank my children even though he was left in charge and one, in particular, was disobeying after numerous warnings….my question is…..is my mother right in this or are my feelings legitimate in thinking that if he can work his butt off to support them and love them then he should be able to discipline? Or is it just the fact that I am their mother and I left him in charge when I had to leave, and I gave him permission to discipline? And no, he didn’t take it out of control …

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My 7-year-old is having trouble making friends: Advice?

I have a 7 year old boy who goes to first grade at school. He was always a loner but lately I can see that it bothers him the fact that he doesn’t have any real friends. He says that “it’s too difficult to make friends”. My heart breaks to a million pieces. I tried to help him to make friends but I don’t know if I made things worse by putting pressure to him. How can I help him? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

What is an acceptable parenting plan for a 3 year old?

I have a daughter who will be three in 4 weeks. Her biological father and his wife and new child moved over 8 hours away the first week of October… We are now trying to figure out an acceptable new parenting plan…. He wants her for the whole summer, every other Easter, every other Thanksgiving, and every other new years, and every other Christmas…. I do NOT agree with this… That is just too much travel time for a child her age …. Especially considering when she get in kindergarten they only get one day off for Easter and two for Thanksgiving… That’s just too much travel time, in my opinion… And the WHOLE summer! I’d never get to take her places myself…. So what I’m asking, what is an acceptable parenting plan in everyone’s opinion for a three-year-old…. When they live 9 hours away. Oh, and I forgot to mention he wants her every fall break as well. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My step son stole $450 from my husband and I and he isn’t in trouble: What should I do?

I have a massive issue with my stepson. He lies and steals. He is 8. Well, over the weekend, he stole 450$ from my hubby. He went back to his mom’s and told her he found it in the woods. This was Saturday. She took them out to eat, gave him 50$ for chores he has done, and kept the rest. Sunday, he realized it was missing at the pickup stop. So he confronted both mom and stepson. Mom gave my hubby 100$ back. Both stepson and stepdaughter said mom deposited it in her account. My hubby texts her saying what they had said, and she sends a text with a screenshot of her bank statement saying she only said that to them because stepson was freaking out about taking his money. My hubby never once asked for the money back from her, claiming he has no evidence that she took it this woman has put us through hell and back for the last four years. I seriously think my hubby is scared of her. She is quick to pull the kids out of his life if she isn’t getting her way. Well, no punishment was made for my stepson. …

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How can I get custody or guardianship?

Does anyone know how to go about getting guardianship over children that are not biologically related to you? Two months ago we had two girls dropped off by there mother they haven’t eaten or showed in days and have been sleeping in there mother’s car. Anyways we took them in because they are like my own kids but not really related if you know what I mean.. Anyways it does not look like there mother is going to get her stuff together any time soon. And we don’t want to get DFS involved because they are safe and happy living with us. We just need to find out how to go about getting a guardianship or legal custody. So we can get them into Dr’s and therapist. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

How should I handle this situation with my husband and his sister?

Hey, I need some advice! Here’s the backstory: my husband is about ten years older than his sister, and they have always been fairly close. As they grew older and he was out of the house, and she was primarily at her dad’s, they became more distant, which is normal. When I came around when she was 18 was about the same time, she started to really change. She became a major hippie, was a smoking pot with her dad, and doing all kinds of hallucinogenic drugs, then allowed her 23yo bf to move into her room, and my husband didn’t approve, so communication was limited. When we had our kid, she was happy to be an aunt, swore she’d come around more etc…and it never happened. I’ve seen her maybe five times since our son’s birth, which was almost three years ago. Well, a few months ago she got into a huge fight with her bf, things got kind of physical, and they split up- dad kicked HER out and allowed her bf to stay. She was couch surfing and stayed in her car for over a month sleeping in a beach parking lot. Of course, my husband being …

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Am I over reacting for not wanting to name my child after my husbands ex?

So my husband and his family says that I’m over reacting by refusing to name my daughter Diana. Which is her great grandmothers name. But it’s all my oldest two kids mothers middle name. So yeah I’d rather not name my kid after my husbands ex and I’m more mad he didn’t say anything. We’ve had the name picked for months and it wasn’t until my kids asked their mom what her full name was is when I found out. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

I wasn’t the best mom to my girls growing up: How should I fix this?

I am seeking advice and anyone that can relate. I have two daughters that are somewhat estranged from me. I wasn’t the best Mother when they were growing up, but I have tried to make up for it for years. They are very disrespectful to me when they are around. One is an adult child, and the other chooses to live with her Dad. It’s been mentally and emotionally draining try to have relationship with them. Do I set boundaries and stop the Chase, live my life, or Continue to try? Please advise a trouble, Mother. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Should I delete someone who doesn’t make an effort to be in my life?

So I added my kids grandma on my fb so she has a way to communicate with my kids and 2 weeks has past and she hasn’t reached out to my kids so I want to delete her. So am I wrong if I delete her? She hasn’t talked to my kids in almost a year and my kids SD is choosing not to be in the life because his gf doesn’t want him to be. I was trying to be nice because I changed my number because it was a lot of drama with their whole side of the family. So when she sent the friend request I thought she wanted to finally make an effort even though she is never consistent. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My daughters dad will not communicate with me: What can I do?

How do you guys deal with a parent who WILL NOT communicate with you? My daughter is six, and he gets her four days a month. He never asks anything about her, but when he brings her home he always tells me how I should be raising her. I don’t get it. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My fiance wants to adopt my son but my family is against it: Advice?

My partner and I have been together for six months, but she has been more to me than anyone ever has in my entire life. Has accepted my son as her own. The bio dad wants to sign over his rights, and I’m perfectly fine with that. But my partner wants to adopt my son. The way I see it is, he will always have two loving parents. No matter if my partner and I stay together or not. The dilemma comes into where my family doesn’t want her and I getting married, which she just proposed, plus they don’t want her to adopt him. I think it’s not their place to voice their opinions as they have been super obsessive about my son since he has been born. Advice, please. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My mom keeps pressuring me into having kids: How can I make her understand I don’t want any?

So I’m the oldest member of my family without a child. Like everyone at my age had at least one by now. Only being 20, I really don’t want a child right now. My mom is passionately about me have one before I’m 21. All the women in my family had started their families young. Like 15-19 young. All though, high school, that’s all anyone asked me about. Do they say things like ” Your life will be better”? Your not really a woman until you have children” ” Could you at least find a boyfriend?? He will change your mind” extra I understand my mom believe that I’m not complete without a family of my own and even with telling her over and over that I feel complete within my own self now, she still actively is trying to set me up with people without my permission how do I handle the situation especially since I still live at home going through school Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My son never wants to see or talk to me and it really hurts my feelings: Thoughts?

It’s always been my son and me, even when we lived with his dad. I’ve always been the provider, working two jobs for a while as his dad sat at home unemployed. I’ve always made it happen when there was no help. Recently we started every weekend at his dad’s (been about five months), and I call and talk to my son. Never him calling me.. he’s almost three but very mature. Anyways, for the past few weeks, when I have my son during the week, all he talks about is his dad. I try to have patience because I know he obviously loves his dad… but I can’t help but feel so upset. My son NEVER wants to talk to me on the phone, throws temper tantrums over it. But ALWAYS wants to talk to and see his dad. I’m feeling really unloved and unwanted. My heart hurts because I love my son more than anything. I do anything, and everything for him and he just doesn’t want me… I had my son to have just 1 person I could call family and that I could love and cherish forever, and that would always love me.. and it’s just …

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Life has been a struggle lately and I really need advice: Help?

I am really struggling and need some kind words and advice. I had my baby earlier this year, and my husband and I worked really hard so that I would be able to stay home with our baby…something that I always wanted to do. I always wanted to be a mother and counted down the days until we could have a baby. Well fast forward, and I got pretty bad PPD coupled with a baby that has severe reflux, the last few months have been anything but a dream. I felt myself pulling out of the fog, and then the unthinkable happened, and our home was ruined by a natural disaster. Luckily, we didn’t own the home, but we lost 95% of our belongings. Since then, nothing has gone our way, seriously not one positive thing has happened to our family in months, it’s just one hit after another. We have been trying to purchase a home, but financially, we were just getting by, and so now it looks like I will have to go back to work, and I am REALLY struggling with it. I know it’s a reality for a lot of people, but it sucks so bad …

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