my husband is verbally abusive to me and my children: advice?

*Trigger Warning* I Contacted CPS Due to Something Disturbing my Son Said That Led Me to Believe He May Have Been Sexually Abused: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice after she felt the need to contact CPS when her son came home from spending some time with his father. The mom said her son made some comments that had her believing he may “have been sexually and physically abused by his father.” However, after getting sole custody pending an investigation, the mom said her son’s behavior has declined and that he’s been biting, hitting, and pooping his pants. Can you help this lost mom figure out what her next steps should be?

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A member of the community asks:

“My son usually sees his father a couple of times a week, sometimes overnight, sometimes for a few hours. Roughly a month ago, he made comments to me that have thought he might have been sexually and physically abused by his father.I called DHS and got sole custody while they investigate.

My question is: This last week, his behavior has been awful! He bit a friend at school (hasn’t done that since he was one and only to me), bit me, is hitting me, has been pooping his pants (been potty trained since right after turning 2) and running from me in parking lots, screaming constantly when I tell him to be quiet, pushing the baby down. I believe he has ADHD, and even that has been through the roof lately. And he’s doing everything to be defiant. Like I’ll tell him not to do something, and he will say he doesn’t care and do it anyway.

I don’t know what to do. I know he’s going through a lot. I need advice on how I can get these behaviors under control. I’m so overwhelmed with EVERYTHING going on. DHS tried to get info out of him in an interview without asking leading questions, and of course, he didn’t disclose anything because he doesn’t know them and isn’t going to just say it in the middle of a conversation with them. So at this point, IDK what the future holds. He’s three by the way.”

– Mamas Uncut Community Member

Community Advice for This Mom Who Doesn’t Know What to Do Next

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“Get him into counseling ASAP.” The majority of people who offered this mom some advice suggest that she put her son in counseling as soon as possible. One fellow mom wrote, “Get him into counseling asap… all these are very common in abuse cases… you are gonna need every ounce of strength and patience you have… his whole world got destroyed by the man he looked up to and was supposed to protect him… that’s ALOT for anyone to deal with let alone a 3-year-old… make sure you’re sharing this major behavior change with DHS…. and please I beg you don’t get angry with him… but counseling will really help him and will also help him tell his story.”

Another person added, “He needs counseling. And it takes time. Be patient with him, talk calmly, and let him know his outbursts are not ok but you need to stand your ground and do it calmly as you can.” And other commenters agreed, “Behavioral health counselor & psychiatrist will help weigh out your options what to do. Best of luck and I hope for your son’s sake he was not sexually assaulted by his own father. Horrible misunderstanding hopefully.”

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