A mom writes in asking for advice on how she should handle the fact that her sisters don’t like the man she’s with, who also happens to be the father of her child. And because her sisters don’t like him, he is not extended invites to family celebrations, including holidays. However, the mom said if her boyfriend would ask her to marry him, she would want to say yes. Do you have any advice for this stressed mom?
A member of the community asks:
“I have been dating my boyfriend for over three years. He’s the father of my 7-month-old, and I am very happy with him. He’s someone I can see myself saying yes to if he were to propose. I’ve never really wanted to get married or have kids, but our surprise baby kind of changed all that.
The thing is… my siblings don’t like him. He and my sisters don’t get along for a number of reasons: my parents and oldest brother and SIL like him. However, because my sisters don’t like him, he’s not invited to family functions with the exception of my birthday. Funerals, birthdays, Christmas, family outings – whatever it may be, an invitation is not extended to him.”
Community Advice for This Mom Whose Sisters Doesn’t Like Her Boyfriend
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
It’s your life to worry about, not theirs. One commenter told this mom, “If you want to marry him worry about that, as long as you two are happy that’s all that matters. It’s your relationship, not anyone else’s. As far as family outings and such, if the father of my children wasn’t invited I wouldn’t be going either.”
Another person added, “So if they have no reason to dislike him then you don’t go either. Do Christmas at home with your family. Eventually, your family will get the point and f they want to get to know their grandchild then they’ll stop.”
And one mom said, “I had a daughter whose boyfriend I literally hated. But I had to turn the other cheek for years because I would have lost my daughter. I just wouldn’t talk to him when he was around. Nothing is more important than my child. Finally, after a couple of years, they broke up. My daughter is the most important thing to me in the world. I learned the more you talk negatively about them the better he looked to her so I just kept quiet and let ature takes its course.”
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