A mom writes in asking for advice. Her husband told her he doesn’t love her anymore and now she doesn’t know what to do. They have been going through some rough patches for such a long time and have been working it out. Recently, they got into a huge fight. The next day, he told her he was done. Any advice for this mom?
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A member of the community asks:
“Recently, my husband told me he is no longer in love with me. Here is the back story. We have been together for over 15 years. We have had our ups and downs. We have stood beside each other through some rough times. Over the summer, I was so stressed out due to work and family issues that I had to take some time off work to get myself together. For a while, it seemed everything was good. He was helping me with my issues.
Fast forward a month, and we had a fight one day. I was ready to walk out the door but really wanted to get to the bottom of what was going on because it seemed to come out of nowhere. The next morning, he tells me that he loves me but was not in love with me any longer. I urged him to go to a therapist because he seemed depressed and stressed out. He went to a few sessions but stopped. I have asked him how he was feeling not that long ago.
He gave me a vague answer. Tonight, I asked him if he wanted to go to marriage counseling. He said that we already tried that, which we did three years ago, so I took that as a no. I am not sure what else to do at this point, so I am leaving for a few days. It hurts to do that. I love him and our son, but he does not seem to want to be with me any longer.”
Community Advice for This Mom Whose Husband Says He Doesn’t Love Her Anymore
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
The advice from the commenters was very supportive of this wife whose husband recently told her he didn’t love her anymore. One suggested, “I don’t think to leave is the answer. I would urge him to go to marriage counseling. To give your marriage a hard try. Before you dissolve it. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with so much but individual counseling on how to handle your stress and any other issues will help too. I have done both.”
Another shared, “If you leave you, then take your son with you. No one can make him love you only you. Being in love is hard it takes work on both ends and it sounds like both of you just lost that spark.” One advised, “Good enough he was honest with you. It’s better don’t force it no matter how bad it hurts. Take all the time to get over him. Don’t cover your feelings of sorrow. Let them out.”
Others felt that this couple needed to communicate better and decide where to go together. One advised, “Feelings could potentially change on his side, I feel like you guys should really talk together about how you want to handle this.” Another agreed, “Ask him what he wants. He may think he doesn’t love you, but that doesn’t mean that it is true. Speaking from personal experience, our love changes.”
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