A mom writes in asking for advice. She feels like she is losing it with her teenager and doesn’t know what to do anymore. He is 16-years-old and is constantly lying to her. Recently, he started doing drugs and having sex. She has tried to discipline him but nothing has worked so far. She doesn’t feel like she has anyone to talk to about it. Any advice for this mom?
A member of the community asks:
“How do moms of teenagers handle it? I have literally no one to talk to but my husband and somedays I think he just agrees with me because he loves me. My 16-year-old teenager does nothing but lie to me and as of this summer does drugs. I’ve taken away everything including his mattress one night to show him what a jail cell would feel like. Today I find out through his own Snapchat he is not only doing drugs and lying, but also having sex and bragging about it. I’m ready to pull him out of his Catholic high school where I feel it’s all started. It’s like nothing is working. I’m losing it and I don’t know what to do anymore!”
Community Advice for This Mom
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Advice for this mom who is losing it with her teenager was pretty split. Some felt like it was normal teenage behavior and advised mom not to stress too much about it. One commenter said, “Everything you have described is normal teenage behavior and I wouldn’t worry too much,” while another said: “Kids are going to have sex and you can’t stop that. You can talk to them about safe sex practices.”
Others felt like communicating with her teenager would do some good. One commenter said, “Talk to him. Communication is a big thing. If you make yourself scary to him he’s never going to want to tell you anything.” Another agreed and said, “Sit him down, look him in the eyes and tell him you love him and will always be there for him no matter what he does. Ask him to practice safe sex and give him access to condoms.”
Some commenters tried to find solutions to this teenager’s problems, so mom can feel more confident. One shared, “I’d be more concerned with what’s causing the behavior. You could also put him in a homebound school program and get him into therapy. Any undiagnosed mental health issues? Any childhood trauma he’s trying to escape? Rarely are those not the causes of that sort of behavior.” Others agreed that counseling or getting a job would do him some good.
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