A mom writes in asking for advice. Her mother-in-law is trying to pressure her to quit breastfeeding. The mother-in-law is constantly telling this mom that if she quits, she’ll get more sleep. However, the mom wants to breastfeed and is very close to reaching her goal of breastfeeding for a full year. She doesn’t want to come off as rude to her mother-in-law but is getting tired of the pressure. Any advice for this mom?
A member of the community asks:
“I absolutely love my mother-in-law, but she is trying to pressure me into quitting breastfeeding. She said one reason I should quit is so I can get more sleep. I feel like every baby and every mom are different, and I still might not get sleep anyway. I made my goal to breastfeed for a year and we’re almost there. It really hurts my feelings that she’s trying to pressure me to stop, but I don’t know how to tell her that without seeming rude. I don’t want to be judged for my parenting choices, especially when I’m just trying to do what I think is best for my baby. I don’t judge or look down on anyone for formula feeding, I agree that fed is best. Like I said every baby and every mom are different.”
Community Advice for This Mom Tired of Her Mother-in-Law’s Comments
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
All advice was in favor of and supportive of this mom. They said she should continue to breastfeed despite what her mother-in-law thinks. Most said to simply communicate how she feels to her. One commented, “just tell her you’re not quitting and to please stop trying to pressure you” while another said, “just remind her that it is your child, your rules. If she doesn’t like it, she doesn’t have to be there.”
Others tried to come up with things she could say to her in a nice matter. One suggested to “just tell her you “appreciate” her opinion but you prefer to keep breastfeeding. No matter what, breastfed or bottle-fed either way you’re not going to get much sleep.” Another said, “just be nice about it because she means well. It’s out of love, she’s trying to help but I know you think she’s not. She’s just trying to be encluded.”
Others simply encouraged her along her journey of breastfeeding. One commented, “if that’s your goal and you want to sacrifice sleep for it then by all means. Seems she was just looking out for your wellbeing too.” Another shared, “next time she brings it up just smile sweetly and say, ‘my goal is one year and I am almost there and it has been one of the best things I have ever done! I have enjoyed every minute of it.'”
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