A mom writes in asking for advice. She suspects her husband is cheating on her with someone from Facebook. He went away for work for two months and ever since he came back home, things are different. They are constantly fighting. She also noticed that he has been flirting back and forth with a girl off of Facebook. She doesn’t know how to bring it up with her husband or what to do. Any advice for this mom?
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A member of the community asks:
“I don’t even know how to word this, but I think my husband might be cheating. There’s a girl on his facebook who I believe he met while he was doing some military orders who likes all of his posts. I know it sounds weird, but he was gone for almost two months, and he came home and now constantly fights with me. He hides his phone and is on it all the time.
I didn’t want to, but I checked his Facebook messages, and they’ve been flirting back and forth, sending kissing memes and cute baby/pregnancy announcements to each other. I don’t know if I’m overreacting or what but I feel so stupid and lost! We have two amazing boys together, and this sounds bad, but I can leave cause I don’t want to “share” my kids. Like I want to keep them to myself! I don’t know what to do! I’ve been wanting to cry!”
– Mamas Uncut Community Member
Community Advice for This Anxious Mom About Cheating
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
Advice Summary
Many commenters felt like her husband was cheating on her with the girl from facebook and told her to divorce him. One said, “She’s probably pregnant with his baby. I’m so sorry mama. Everyone will say to leave as you should, but, be smart about it all. Men will deny everything. Gather your proof and file for divorce.” Others agreed, “Screenshot the proof of him cheating (the messages and whatever else you can get) and take it to his commanding officer. Then file for divorce. What he’s doing is wrong and you deserve better. Keep your head held high and walk away.”
Others said to confront him and see what happens. One shared, “Confront him about it like an adult. Tell him what you found and demand the truth.” Another commented, “My honest opinion is to sit and talk like adults. If he is no longer happy with you then it’s time to go separate ways. Trust me is best for you to know now than to sit and wonder, speculate or assume.”
Some commenters felt that she needed to talk to the other woman. One shared, “This other girl might not know he’s married. I would message her. He’s you’re husband. Don’t be afraid to let your place be known.” Another said to message her, but don’t attack her. They commented, “Okay. Please do not attack her. It’s irrelevant whether or not she knows he’s married. He’s the one cheating on you, not her. Maybe ask her about the possibility of pregnancy though.”
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