I Just Had a Baby and Think My Boyfriend Wants to Leave Me: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice after her boyfriend told her that he might not come home because he felt like they have been drifting apart ever since their baby was born a month ago. The mom said she told her boyfriend that he needed to make up his own mind, but now she doesn’t know what to do next. Any advice?

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A member of the community asks:

“My SO and I had a baby less than a month ago. He also has a three-year-old from a previous relationship. We have her fulltime, and I’ve been there since the beginning, so I’m a mom. We’ve recently had some housing issues, so since the baby was born, we’ve been living separately.

On Friday, he went out of state with his daughter to visit family, and I stayed back with our newborn. He told me yesterday that he’s not sure he will be coming back, and he opened the conversation by saying we had been growing apart since our baby has been born. I told him he needs to make his own decisions because it sounded like he was asking for my permission to abandon us.

Not sure if he’s deciding whether he’s going to move or whether he still loves me, but we haven’t talked since yesterday morning. How do I handle this?”

– Mamas Uncut Community Member

Community Advice for This Mom Whose Boyfriend Is Unsure of Their Relationship

To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.

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“Let him go.” One commenter wrote, “Hold that beautiful little on. Grieve for the relationship then dust yourself off and take care of yourself and your child. It will be worth it. He’s a coward you don’t need that.”

Another person added, “If he feels that way now, even if y’all do work it out, he’s going to leave in the long run. Just cut ties now. It will hurt a lot less for all of you if you wait another 6 months or a year from now.”

And one mom said, “Let him go…It’s not going to be easy for you but be strong for yourself and above all for your child! Make sure, I repeat, make sure you file for child support. Don’t let him go out there and live his life as you struggle with his kid. It shall be well. Stay strong.”

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