In fact, the user called becoming a mother the “biggest regret of my entire life.” She went on to explain that she never wanted to be a mom, but at 18, she became pregnant and, as she puts it, her life has been “miserable” ever since.
Mom Says She Hates Being a Mom: ‘I Am So F***ing Miserable’
However, despite the fact that she’s miserable, the mom made it a point to explain that even though she hates being a mom, she loves her son very much. She wrote:
“Let me make this ABUNDANTLY clear that I do NOT hate my child. I love him so much, I truly do. And I’m a great mother. Anyone who knows me knows how much I do for my child. I quit my well paying job to be a stay at home mom. I breastfed him for 2 years.
And now that her son is 2-and-a-half years old, she describes him as “incredibly well behaved, smart, and sweet.” The mom added that “he gives me unprompted hugs and kisses multiple times a day.” And says that he is “rather advanced for his age as well.”
Nonetheless, despite loving her son and stepping up to the plate to be the best mom she can be for him, the user explained that it “doesn’t change the fact I am so f*cking miserable.” She added that she still “struggles to get out of bed because I know I will have to spend my day with him.”
And all of her pent up feelings of regret has made life fairly difficult for her.
“My marriage has gone to sh*t. My mental health is worse than ever. I’m so stressed and anxious I only get about 4 hrs of broken sleep a night even though my son is now 2.5yo and sleeps through the night just fine. I have at least 1-2 anxiety attacks a day.”
The mom even went as far as to say, “every single part of being a mom is TORTURE. EVERY. SINGLE. PART. OF. MY. LIFE. IS. WORSE. Since I’ve had my son.” Yet, she says she knows it’s not her son’s fault.
Total Strangers Offered This Overwhelmed Mom Some Amazing, Judgment-Free Advice
And as a result of her brutal honesty, hundreds of people approached the mom without judgment and reached out to offer the young mom some guidance.
One Redditor wrote, “Have you thought about talking to a counselor? Having anxiety attacks every day is not normal and sounds terrible. Maybe medications can help? I’ve been on and off antidepressants since I was a teenager and it makes a world of difference.”
Another added, “I’m sorry you’re going through this. As a mom, I know the stress is ROUGH. Have you thought about going back to work, if you can? Even on a part-time basis? Some time to yourself to embrace your own needs would likely do wonders. Sometimes you need time to yourself to be happy, and therefore be the best version of yourself for your kid.”
And one person made sure the mom knew there was a light at the end of the tunnel, “I felt similarly when my children were infants. I had 2 back to back and it SUCKED. When he goes to school it will get better. Also, I would suggest getting a job. He can go to daycare. You think he doesn’t sense that you’re miserable? He does. Probably why he hugs you often. A happy mom who takes time for herself is much better for a child than a salve who does all the ‘right’ things and is miserable. And remember this too, they learn how to live themselves by watching how we love ourselves. And they are very intuitive.”
Other users just let the mom know she isn’t alone. “Some people aren’t meant to be parents,” one person said. “Unfortunately, some people don’t realize this until it’s too late. My grandmother was the same way, she grew up in a time where she was expected to have kids, but she really shouldn’t have. The only condolence I can offer is that if you raise your kid right, it’ll get a lot easier when they’re older.”
The mom later added to her Reddit post, saying how thankful she was for the kind words of encouragement and noted that she has decided to seek professional help for her mental health.
What kind of advice would you give this mom?
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