One mom is at her wits end after her ‘germaphobic’ husband refuses to change their son’s diapers — and recently took to reddit after an experience that led her to put her foot down.
“My husband M27 and I f25 have a 2 months old together. He does everything almost except changing diapers He’s a hardcore germaphobe so I handle the dirty part of our son’s care. So my husband’s been pestering me about the faces I make when changing our son’s diapers. Telling me to smile all the time. I told him to leave me alone, it’s easy for him to say when he’s not the one dealing with the smell and… gahd!!!”
“But every time when I’m in the middle of changing dispers. My husband would show up out of nowhere like he busted me or something and tell me that the faces I keep making have an “impact” on our son’s emotional state and should smile. He’d motion with his hand and be like smiiiiiiiile.”
But it wasn’t just a joke — it would happen all the time.
“I told him to leave me alone, he knows how difficult this is for me but does nothing to help. Instead just mocks me and keeps pestering me. I said if he ever try to hassle me again with the “just smiiile” bullcrap then he’ll start handling diaper change.”
“Last night at around 9. He was in the kitchen already eating dinner without me and not waiting while I was getting ready to change my son’s diaper. He came into the room with his mouth full of food and once again commented on how my face looked and reminded me to smile and “show love” and stop causing harm to our son’s emotional health.”
To which the OP had enough and just lost it right there on the spot and rightfully so.
“I snapped!!!! I walked up to him and told him that he ran out of chance to stop his annoying behavior and he should start handling diaper change from now on and we’ll see how big his smile will be.”
“His tone changed and he said that we both agreed that I’d be handling diaper change even before our son was born and that I already know too well what the reason is. He’s germaphope, yes. But he’s also a PARENT. what type of parent never changes their baby’s diaper? I handed him the stuff and asked him to enjoy while I kept standing to watch how he do it. It took him forever and as I expected he made all types of disgusted, grossed out faces and for a minute I thought he was going to THROW UP.”
And it only escalated from there…
“He was finished. I said he lost the smiling contest with those faces he made. He was p***** and rushed to wash his hands complaining about how I’m trying to get him to do everything. And that I ruined his appetite by having him experience “that”. I replied that he still ain’t seen nothing yet and asked since he wants us to have 4 kids how he will be handling the other 3. He said he changed his mind and only wants 2. But still my point stands. He tried to argue that I’m not taking his germaphopia seriously and what I forced him to do wasn’t cool. He’s been upset since then. AITA?!?!.”
One user said: “NTA he’s being a real a******. You are being fair. He needs therapy so he can perform his responsibility as a parent.”
While another commented:
“I don’t think you’re taking my germophobia seriously”
“And I don’t think you’re taking parenting seriously if you genuinely think it’s a good idea to mock the person who’s doing the dirty work while you refuse to. “
“If his condition is that serious, he can get help. If he doesn’t want to do that because it would take away his excuse to do the hard parts, maybe he needs to sit down and think about what it actually means to be a dad.”
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With a background in the creative and educational fields, Amelia Finefrock is freelance writer, singer-songwriter and nanny based in Chicago.
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