My Mother-In-Law Constantly Tells Me My Child Is Bad Because of Me: Advice?

A mom writes in asking for advice because her mother-in-law blames her for her 4-year-old daughter’s (sometimes) bad behavior. However, the mom writes that she does her absolute best parenting her child and doesn’t see what her mother-in-law sees. Now she’s wondering what she should do about it?

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A member of the community asks:

“Can I please have some real advice. My mother-in-law keeps telling me my ‘kid is naughty because of me, I’m a bad mum, etc.’ I try my absolute best for my kids. My eldest is a very strong-minded, intelligent little person. An absolutely brilliant kid, just with a bit of a naughty side. She’s nearly 4. Obviously, she’s disciplined when needed. But she’s just a kid who likes to run around, shout, touch new things, tries to climb, etc. Does this really make me such a bad mother?

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Community Advice for This Mom Who’s Upset That Her Mother-In-Law Thinks Her Child Is Bad Because of Her

To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.

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One commenter wrote, “Sounds like most active 4-year-olds to me. Maybe she’s hyperactive? Either way, I’m not sure how her running around makes you a bad mother. Does this woman expect a 4-year-old to sit quietly with hands folded? Is the issue she doesn’t listen? That’s annoying, but mine doesn’t listen and I’ve never let her get away with anything. She’s just relentless.”

Another community member said, “No. This made me laugh a bit. Mine is the same way (and the same age) so I know where you are coming from. Talk to her. If that doesn’t work, have your husband talk to her. If that doesn’t work either then maybe you should talk to your husband about limiting the amount of time the kids are around her.”

And one mom added, “If a child isn’t hurting themselves, or others, disrespecting yours or others homes/belongings and uses manners… then you’re doing fine… some kids are loud and active, some kids are quiet and chilled but as long as they’re not doing any of the above, then so be it.”

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