A mom writes in asking for advice after she learned her significant other lied about how he lost his virginity. This couple has been together for 8 years, and until this point, the original poster (OP) believed her partner had lost his virginity to her.
A member of the community asks:
“How would you feel if you found out your significant other lied about who took his virginity? I know this isn’t mom-related. But how would you feel if you’re so after 8 years finally let it slip that you weren’t the one who took their virginity? After they let you believe that you are the one who took it. And then got pissy when you got upset over it.”
Community Advice for This Woman Who Is Upset Her Partner Lied About How He Lost His Virginity
To see what advice the Mamas Uncut Facebook community has for this mom in need, read the comments of the post embedded below.
The responses to this woman’s question were fairly evenly split between “It’s a big deal, and he was wrong for it” and “Why does it matter since it happened before you were in a relationship together?” Read some of the responses below.
“Losing your virginity is a big moment and is supposed to be special (doesn’t always work out that way) so if I found out the person I was with for 8 years and he told me he wasn’t a virgin… I’d be pretty upset about it. That causes trust issues. 8 years is a long time to lie about it.”
“Why would you even ask?”
“He “let you believe”…if it mattered that much you should have asked the question. Can’t say he lied unless he actually lied about it.”
“I’d be furious!!! Why lie about it in the first place? Why’d he make you believe that only you and he had shared the most intimate moment? Nah, I’d be livid!! Wonder what else he’s been lying about. Believe me, probably a hell of a lot.”
“I would feel foolish, and be upset that I was lied to. Honestly, that would be very upsetting. I’m sorry, I know that it hurts to be lied to.”
“If that’s the worst lie he tells you, thank your stars.”
“It probably lasted like two seconds and he probably didn’t count it. Lmao if it was impressive he would have more then likely been open about it. I’m not sure why he lied, but honestly don’t dwell on it. Nothing can change the past so don’t let it change your future.”
“So? Obviously, after 8 years together, he wanted to be with you and not the other person. Unless it was your sibling or parent it’s not significant enough of a thing to be asking opinions on here. Be an adult, accept it, move on.”
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