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I have anxiety about putting my toddler in their room: Advice?

First-time momma here and was wondering if anyone else has had anxiety about moving their baby/toddler into their own room. My little one is 14 months, and she has been sleeping in the master bedroom with my husband and me since the first night she came home from the hospital. She slept in her bassinet until she outgrew it and had been sleeping in her pack-n-play right next to me ever since. She has been sleeping through the night, so I figured it is time to move her to her own room (which is literally across the hall from our room). But I have anxiety over it. We have a baby monitor with a camera so I can check on her without having to go into her room, but it is still making me nervous. How did you other mommas deal with this transition? Any advice for helping me deal with my anxiety? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Advice on lice?

What are your experiences with lice? I have a three-year-old who got it. We used over the counter lice medicine twice. It didn’t work, so I just used a prescription. Hoping this is it, all I’ve been doing is combing, washing, vacuuming! I’m so afraid they are going to return. Also, how is your school/daycare in dealing with this? Mine said, “oh, we haven’t had any of that here,” then said they’d tell all parents. I never got an email or paper note about it, which worries me that they haven’t told other parents to check their kids. I asked, and they said they sent out an email, but I guess the just took me off that email list? Seems fishy. Anyhow this has definitely been an adventure! Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My step-kids come home bragging about what their grandparents buy them: Thoughts?

My boyfriend and his two kids moved in with my three kids about four months ago and me. He works Monday through Thursday, and I work part-time and stay home with kids. His kids go to their grandparents every weekend while mine have nowhere to go. They come home bragging about name brand shoes and clothes they are bought while there. Also, I was told they would all be treated the same at birthdays and Christmas and was far from true. Now my kids and I are and were just fine with not having a whole lot because we have each other. But now they’re resenting the other children for this and so am I. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Am I over reacting?

Hey all, would it piss you off if your S/O were looking at a picture of a celebrity and saying they wouldn’t f**k her because of whatever reason? Or am I too sensitive? I don’t know, guess I just don’t really like my S/O talking about having sex with anyone else but me? Am I dumb? Please be nice lol. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Not sure if I should move or not: Thoughts?

I have a question about family ties and matters … I’m making a huge decision to move my family closer to my biological family ( bio mom) long story short she didn’t raise me my her dad and her step mom dad my grandparents who became my mama and daddy any ways she has two other kids my brother and sister which where all grown now but I asked my bio mom to watch my youngest while I worked to establish my life out where she lives in a totally area and life style ( I’ll be moving the country from the city where I’ve love all my life) and I basically got a non in other words but she watches my nieces (2 of them) and my bio grandmother who lives there watches my other niece they are 3,3 and 1 I understand that it’s a hassle bit why beg me to move down there for years now I’m actually doing it I don’t have a support system there or here since my grandparents died 2015 and 2018 and I’m just trying to keep the kids close to family but looks like I can’t get my life together because …

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My husband got mad that I wanted to sleep over with my friends: Advice?

Hi, I’m a working mom of my wonderful daughter. She’s turning four. My husband and I had a big misunderstanding last night. I was asking him if I could sleepover with my best friends, who are gays and girls, no straight man. We usually do that once in a while, like once every three months or more. I do have two jobs: a public school teacher at day and a tutor to three students after duty. Aside from that, I do have many extra jobs just to support our family since I asked him to go back to school while he’s still young. He got really upset that I wanna hang out with my friends even he knew them all. All I want is a break, and now he’s telling me that I ain’t happy being a mom. I just want some time with my friends, which seldom happens. I have worked two months after I underwent CS, and I was happy to do that for our family. Any advice? Ps. I was the one who pushed my husband to go back to school ’cause I want him to pursue his dreams. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a …

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My in laws try to over parent my husband and I: Advice?

I need advice on in-laws. My in-laws are amazing people, but when it comes to their grandson, they will do whatever he wants regardless of what my husband and I think of it. My father-in-law will say out loud as he does something. “I know mom said no, but I don’t care.” It’s always said as a joke, but my son is 18 months old, and I don’t want that to become the standard. Overall it’s not a big issue, but right now, my son is going through a phase where he is throwing food at meals, throwing fits because he thinks it’ll get him what he wants, etc. and my father-in-law just feeds into it. If my son throws something on the floor and my husband and I are telling him no, my father-in-law is laughing and throwing stuff too. I’m at a loss. I know he doesn’t mean harm by it, but it’s not helping, and my son thinks it’s funny. We see them minimum every Saturday for the afternoon/evening, and the behavior is something my son is bringing home with him. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain …

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Sex is becoming painful for me: Thoughts?

I’m 34 weeks in and would have sex all the time ( not the slow internet kind), and doggy style is good till it’s not, and my sides cramp up, especially on the right side near the end /when he Finishes. And the usually missionary I don’t mind, but the hubby says its awkward cus the tummy is in the way, ( sex is just awkward) and I love sex but not this pain that is starting to come with it and it last for a while and can’t move till its gone. And sometimes, when I play with my self, I can feel a bit of pain on the right side. Should I stop till baby comes or what is ur opinion .. I’ve done anal, and that’s great with no pain, but don’t wanna do that all the time Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Questions about child support

Has anyone dealt with child support? The dad not wanting to pay much, so he asks for more custody for a newborn so they can lower his payments? And as a mother, you don’t care for the money but wanting to spend the right amount of time with the new baby, equally of course. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My daughter has a tongue tie: Advice?

My daughter is just over 2 months old. She’s been struggling lately with breast and bottle. I just discovered she is lip tied. Can and should it be fixed at this age? Will she outgrow it? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

I want to get back with my oldest fathers son: Thoughts?

I want to get back together with my oldest son’s father. Neither one of us has custody of our son, but he lives with a great foster family, and he knows them as mom and dad. I have a second son on the way and is due in June by another guy, but he was never around at home or anything because he didn’t like being home, and he was always “busy.” My oldest son’s father and I have been talking for a few weeks, and we both want to get back together, but every time we tried in the past, it never worked out. I’m scared to see where this leads because I’m scared of getting hurt or left for another girl again. I need advice on what to do. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My parents hate it when I correct my own child: Advice?

Hello, please post. I don’t write on these things fed often or ask advice. Ok, so my 8-year-old came home with an attitude from her friend’s house. She has been rude and treating everyone like crap today. Well, my parents are over, and it’s like God forbid if I even correct my child. Then they have a problem .. or it’s just tension all around. My mom actually said we are leaving because she didn’t like that I made her go to her room for the night. It’s like I’m not allowed to correct my children in my own house without feeling judged. Does anyone else deal with this? Advice, please!? Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

My step daughter constantly thinks she has to be doing things with friends: Advice?

I’m a step-momma to an almost 15-year-old girl. I’ve been in her life since she was 6. We have a great relationship. And her dad and I have a great co-parenting relationship with her bio-mom and her step-dad. I think of her as my own and treat her as my own. I.E., she has the same rules/chores/discipline, etc. as my biological son. We are struggling with her and her finding some independence. She seems to think she always needs to be with friends or doing something with someone. She has told us that she doesn’t like to be alone or do things alone. We have an open policy about her social media, she only has Instagram, but we are allowed to do phone checks. She got in trouble with social media a while back, so that was the agreement between us four parents that we are allowed to do phone checks. I’ve seen a couple of messages where a few friends/people in her circle of friends have called her clingy/overbearing, and that she involves herself in the drama that doesn’t include her. For example, one friend got upset with her because the friend felt that she couldn’t even go to …

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Am I a bad mom for not wanting to play with my daughter?

Question for moms of four-year-old girls… my daughter wants to play all the time, mostly barbies and acting out games, I work full time and go to school full time plus I have a two-year-old who might be autistic. My question is, am I a bad mom for not wanting to play? I love my daughter more than anything, and I know the best thing I can give my kids is time, but I don’t like playing barbies, and I’m always so tired… Thanks for any and all advice! Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Am I being selfish for wanting my boyfriend to get a better job?

I’ve been with my partner for four years now, and we still don’t live together as we live in different towns about an hour away. He’s an amazing father to his two children and my own two kids, and we all get along very well. We are a family. I would like us to live together, but his job is an hour away from me and his home town. The wages ain’t great, and neither are the hours as he works every other weekend, so the only time we get is one night during the week and every other weekend together. I’ve been fine with that at the start as didn’t want to rush, but it’s getting to the point of plans to actually be together in one home. I’m not willing to move as my children’s schooling is in my town, and we only have his kids every other weekend. The main issues are he does love his job, but he’s been offered a job that pays triple what he earns a month. He said he’s thinking about it but loves his job. But logically, he is home every weekend to have his kids more and have a lot …

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My 19-month-old hates food: Advice?

My daughter is 19 months old. She would hate food if you were to ask me what her favorite food was. I cannot give you an answer because she does not have one. She is in the 50th percentile for her weight and 90th for her height. Just recently, I was getting her to eat very well with the distraction of an iPad or a game on the iPad and me feeding her….That did not last long. She is now refusing me to feed her and does not want to feed herself. I set her down at the table with her plate of food, and sometimes she eats nothing and sits there and cries the whole time. Sometime she’ll pick what she wants, maybe strawberries, or perhaps a few blueberries. Nothing significant. I am not the type of mom to sit there and say I need to bring her to feeding therapy or to the doctor because she doesn’t like eating. I see that she is a kid and kids are difficult. I’m just wondering if anybody has any tips to try to help her to want to eat. If there any other moms out there going through the same …

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Questions about c-sections and tubals

Hello! I am having a c-section in Sept. I would like to hear experiences with that. Also, I will be having my tubes tied at the same time. How was your experience with that? I also will have a four-year-old when this child is born she was born naturally, but the delivery was horrible as we both almost died. How was recovery afterward? When did you go back to work and normal activities? Thanks so much Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

How can we go about getting full custody?

Advice, please! We went to court a couple of years ago over my stepdaughter, she’s 3. We also live in Alabama. In the agreement, it states that they were supposed to provide proof of insurance through her stepdad. He is in the Army, so my stepdaughter has Tricare. After several attempts in the past year, they have never provided us any proof. Apparently, she does not have a health insurance card? So, I said that to say this. Let’s note that I take this child to the doctor when she’s sick, to the dentist if need be, and anything else. We pay out of pocket costs because we can’t get any info from the stepdad. The mother does not take care of her; she does not take her to the doctor or dentist. She does not have a PCP. There have been multiple times we have picked her up, and she reeks of cigarette smoke and perfume trying to cover it up. So, yesterday I took her to the dentist because she has two black cavities on her back molars on the bottom. So when I get there, I find out they can’t find her insurance through TriCare in the …

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My mom told my family things I wanted to stay confidential: Advice?

I’m currently seven months pregnant. I told my mom things I’d thought she’d keep confidential like the abuse of my step dad and me wanting to take him to criminal court. She and my Older half brother told me they wanted nothing to do with me. She’s even went as far as telling my step grandpa whom I share a close bond with that I didn’t care if he died or that I was breaking his heart. She even told my grandma who thinks I’m too soft and that I need to work things out with my stepdad because I’m ruining lives and already gave my mother bail money. I only brought things to light to protect my child and so that they’d know I wouldn’t be around my stepdad and they picked his side by blocking me and blowing up on me saying there done with me, and I know things are only going to get worse once it’s taken to court but are I in the wrong? Losing my whole family and I’m trying my best for my daughter? What more can I do? I’m really at a loss. Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook …

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How should I talk to my husband about this?

My brother in law is extremely overbearing, or is, is it my husband? So my husband and his brother are close. That’s great for them. But the entirety of our relationship, his brother has always been in our business. When we got together years ago, they lived in the same house with their parents. His brother was non stop in hubby’s bedroom, I mean ALWAYS. We always tried to hint at him to leave, but he would just sit at the end of the bed and be on his phone. Super weird, in my opinion. But anyway, when we finally moved out on our own, I made it very clear to hubby that this was our home and his brother can not just come over whenever he pleases as I have two children to take care of(from the previous relationship) and it’s just not his house. My hubby was fine with that, but what’s annoying is he would just go to his parent’s house every single day to hangout with his brother. I mean literally every single day. I continued to voice my opinion on it because why are we together if he can’t make time for me but can …

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My 6-year-old keeps having accidents: Thoughts?

My 6yr old son won’t stop pooping his pants. My son has been fully potty trained since he was 3. When he was 5, we had his sister, and things were good for a while. Well, he started having accidents, not peeing on himself, always pooping his pants. We chalked that up to the new baby, sat him down, and explained things, and things went back to normal. For a while, then he started back up with the accidents. This has been an on and off thing now for almost two years. It doesn’t matter where he is; he has done this at home, at school, at relatives. When you try to ask him why we get “I didn’t want to miss anything” or, “I thought I could hold it” or “I didn’t know I had to poop”. We have tried sitting down and talking with him, we had him go to a behavioral therapist, we’ve tried positive reinforcement, (ie, going out for a special treat for a week w/o an accident) we’ve tried negative reinforcement, (ie, making him wash his own underwear out) and finally we got some diapers (generic goodnights) for him. I told him he could have …

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I feel like I do not have time to be intimiate: Thoughts?

He loves my two boys and me. But. He was crazy sexually active before we got together. I’m I guess you say mediocre when it comes to that stuff due to my past and self-confidence. I know I can do more, but I am so tired working a 40hr job and side jobs on the weekends and two boys plus keeping up with the house.. how do you guys find time for this. To be a bomb in the bedroom. I recently tried anal because he was so about it…. it hasn’t happened a lot and j feel like I’m just not good enough for him. Mind you, we have sex maybe twice a week if not less… but he seems to think that everything takes presidents over our relationship.. which to me isn’t true I’m just keeping life moving. Like upping our credit buying a housekeeping a job starting a business… but I feel like I’m not good enough… Anonymous Community MemberThis question was asked by a Facebook community member who has asked to remain anonymous.

Am I putting too much pressure on my boyfriend?

Need advice. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years. I’ve brought up the idea of marriage often since about 2 years together and he always seems to want to get married too but after months and months of waiting, no proposal. I also want more children but he doesn’t seem to want more. We have no children together. I have one by myself. I want to have children with him. But anytime I bring it up, he doesn’t really wanna talk about it. He wants us to buy a house, yet I’m the only one working on my credit and saving. Idk how he could commit to a 30yr mortgage but not to me…. I know marriage isn’t for everyone, but it’s something I want. And I’m getting tired of waiting. I want more kids, and I’m not getting any younger. Am I wasting my time with him, or should I be patient even though I’ve been patient for a while now? Am I putting too much pressure on him? We have a decent relationship, and I don’t want to ruin it over this, but I’m starting to feel a little resentful. I’ve done my best …

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